Stabbed in the back??

In the work place,

as a nieve young man in the work place, and as my experiance increases and i deal with more and more people, incidents of back stabing and serious harsh bitching are becoming more frequent.

I try my hardest to let it go, but it is serioulsy harming my attitude to this work place and it doesnt help its coming indirectly from my boss.

I live by the attitude that if u have a problem talk to me, dont set me up for a fall then point and laugh to make urself feel better. or talk to me in such a way that it is serioulsy condesending rather than actually having an adult conversation about the issues.

Im trying to think of ways to protect my self from this and vent without becoming a bitcher, so far i just keep records of everything i do, and ensure i always work to the best of my ability.

does any one else have any suggestions of how to cope with this sort of behaviousr from other people, as i know for sure it will never go away in life!

im serioulsy concerend that one day it will get the better of me and ill snap, that would not be good!!

Thanks

Alex

My only piece of advice is to follow your own advice.

If you feel people are backstabbing you etc, talk to them about it. Have an adult conversation.

If they still continue after that, dog s*it under their car door handles is always good.

Is switching jobs an option? You shouldn't have to, but I've found in a couple of places it did wonders for my welfare...

Stu

[Biker Biggles]

It's rife where I work.
Standard joke is the advice to always wear body armour when talking to the management.
What really stinks is when your own colleages do it though.

im in a sittuation where i am on a good rate and benifits and am not yet experianced enough in my role to be confident going for another job with the same title, i would have to resort back to my old title / position which would mean a pay cut, not an option atm.

It just really saddens me... ho hum, ill wait till the time is right and i will have an adult convo with them.

I think it is just a sign of the times and from my experience is pretty rife in most workplaces these days.
In 20 odd years of experiencing it in the Legal Profession, my advice is try not to let the bu**ers get you down. Seriously, try and let it go over your head as much as possible or you will end up paranoid and bitter............and any job is not worth that! Sometimes easier said than done, I know.

Might not help you, but my situation is as follows:

The only people that try to back stab me are my direct supervisor, and my manager. Neither of them can be promoted, they just want the glory. Far as I'm concerned, they can have it

I started this job & was told that starting as a Junior Support Engineer, it'd take me around 6months to even become useful. Two months later, I got called into the meeting room upstiars, and told my probation period was now officially over. They also wanted to discuss a position that they'd decided to create within the company.

Long story short, I'd demonstrated what I knew before starting with the company, and as a consequence, put myself in a position where in a company of around 50 people, there were only me & one other guy that's able to do what we do.

Those above me can take all the glory they like, the higher management are just smiling & disregarding their comments, as they know they can't possibly be doing most of the stuff they take credit for. I don't care about being back stabbed, because I work in a very transparent way, everyone in the company pretty much knows what I deal with and what I don't. Not everyone has this luxury though.

If you can't resolve the matter with the people doing the back stabbing, subtly drop hints higher up the ladder, nothing that could be seen as you back stabbing though, just be honest about things to everyone.

to be honest - bitching and back stabbing in the office are common place - i am not suggesting that makes it alright but it does it has gone on in most places i have worked in - keep records of what you have done and don't let them catch doing things you shouldn't i.e. lots of personal calls, internet useage etc.

Talk to all concerned, individually, asap. Let it be known that you wont stand for backstabbing.
Not sure what business you're in, but in the financial world, where I used to be, HR were very helpful with this sort of thing.
Most important of all, don't get involved in the bitching, it's all too easy when everyone is doing it!
I find it very sad when so called adults behave in this way.
Anyone read the Peter Principle? Sounds like they may have reached their level of incompetence...

[Red ones]

All and any conversation should be seen as an opportunity to build a relationship. It is quite hard to be backstabbing to someone universally seen as nice, it makes it look bitchy to everyone!