Reading through the above fits well with my confusing missus...

SWMBO just will not countenance going pillion - she's scared witless of the idea. She can't understand why I love bikes and biking. She complains bitterly whenever I utter the words 'Mmmm, looks like a nice day....' at the weekend.

But - she's the one who bought me DAS for my birthday. She's the one who made me buy the blue 55 plate pointy (which I secretly wanted) for a grand more than the red W plate curvy I was looking at because I thought it was the price range I should be considering (even though I didn't like it as much). She's happy for me to bugger off for a week in June to ride around the Highlands with a tent... and last Saturday I got up to find a note left on the toilet seat for me - 'As it's a nice day I thought you'd like to go out on your bike. So I've gone to the MetroCentre to keep myself amused'.

I love my missus :D

Ahah, exactly. My missus wants to ride with me but that defeats the whole purpose of riding for me.

My wife got on the back of the bike 25 years ago and we had gone 0.0 yards when she started screaming and got off. She has not tried again.

Despite her fear and her anxiety about me riding she lets me get on with it and even opens and shuts the garage and garden gate for me (helps to prevent dog terrorising the neighbourhood!) and has been fine about me taking the teenage kids on the back

Very occasionally I have thought it would be nice to go somewhere with her on the bike but see absolutely no reason why she should if doesn't want to... It seems to me live and let live is the basis of every half decent relationship...

my gf can't wait to have a ride, shes never been on a bike. just hope she enjoys it like I do.

Take it easy & slow, giving even more room than you usually do, and I'm sure she will.

V-twins have a certain rasp to them too ;)

it wont be for a while, not had the bike a week so gonna take me a while to get used to it alone.

My other half wasn't keen on going on mine but agreed to it, I took it very steady, not much overtaking and only when lots of space, kept to the speed limits etc and rode as smoothly as I could. Stopped after half an hour and she wasn't too keen but we had to get home. By the time we got back she admitted she had been miles away thinking about cooking on the way back, realised once she relaxed it was enjoyable. She will only come on fairly short rides, doesn't like motorways but generally enjoys it now!

I also have a mate who had an off with his bird on the back, she broke her arm and won't go near it again which is understandable.

My advice would be don't force her into it, if she agrees keep it to a short ride at first, keep it steady on quiet roads with a nice view for her. If she still isn't keen rejoice in the fact you can ride alone all the time!! :lol:

It is dangerous, she is not being irrational, she is being sensible!! :roll:

I refuse to go pillion with others and I've been riding the things for over 20 years myself!! ;) I am also not keen on taking others as I don't like the responsibility ...

I think it would be very wrong of you to push the matter any further ... if you truly care for her, then why take her against her will and put her in potential danger?? If she changes her mind and fancies a go one day I am sure she would let you know ...

Alternatively - dump her and get a new model with longer legs!!! :D

Might I advise against this. I did this and the knees on mine now stick out a lot when she is on the back. I end up having to leave a foot extra on either side when filtering/overtaking. :)

Um, just a thought, is the title to this thread a euphamism? :twisted: :twisted: