EX fella that just wont go away..
 

Im not sure if you remember when i broke up with my Ex, i started hanging out with a mate of mine alot more, well at the time this mate of mine had a fella that was in the army.. they broke up because he was "in love" with her after 2 months, and because me and emma spend alot of time together going out on the bike.. then EVERYONE autimaticly assumes that we must be sleeping together... (everyone as in all my and her friends + her EX)
so anyway now Hes going on by saying that if he ever found out that something is happening then apparently he will break our bones..(at this point i hasten to add that im quaking in my Sidis...:shaking: i mean im really really scared... infact im booking my plane ticket to outer mongolia right now..:smt077
but every single weekend when he comes home it all starts again... for like the last 5 weeks.. and in all fairness im getting tired of it.. he always rings her and gives her a hard time.. but never me.. he hasnt rang or even approached me.
he's even tried turning her friends against her..
i guess he thinks that if he keeps being such a **** then she will get back with him??? how stupid can you be??
but i need some help from the .Org as i dont give two craps about what its doing to me.. but its seriously starting to break emma down.
its like EVERYONE was happy that they were together... like he is some form of local celeb because hes a soldier (so hes 19 and kills things for a living.. great!!!) but now kinda hate her because she doesnt want to be with him??? its propper FUBAR

Re: EX fella that just wont go away..
 

Right as I am in the Army as well I can advise probably the best way is to find out where he is based and write a letter of complaint to his CO, this will guarantee he get a talking to, and possible a small punishment for harassing you.

If you can find out what he is in, regiment etc. I can use my contacts to try and get an address and a name o the CO to write to mate.

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Sounds a nasty situation, it's not fair that he takes it out on Emma.

But the above is a bit of a harsh judgement, don't you think?

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OK this is her problem to fix not yours so stay out of it.

She needs to clearly tell him to stop phoning and harrassing her, and then she needs to stop answering his phone calls and responding to him.

Thats the only way its going to get sorted so she doesnt get hassle. If you involve yourself in the middle of it it'll only get worse, just be her firend and support her and give her advice but dont go and speak to him yourself.

If he approaches you just be firm and polite and tell him its none of his business what either of you do because if they have split up it isnt anything to do with him anymore.

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The problem with booking a flight to outer mongolia is that you'll need to apply for a tourist visa beforehand. The Mongolian Embassy is in London & it'll cost you £35. This visa will be valid for 30 days only.

You could apply for a business/worknig visa for an extended duration but you'll also need to take an HIV test.

Now if you were a US citizen you could get a 60 day tourist visa at the border crossing/Ulan Bator airport. The yanks have it easy.


Hope this helps.

Re: EX fella that just wont go away..
 

To be fair if I had been working away for a bit and my girlfriend had been very friendly with another male and had been all over the place on the back of someone else bike to the point people were saying they had slept with each other.........I think I would be somewhat ****ed off as well. He can only believe what people have been telling him afterall.

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I had similar threats from a soldier in a similar situatioin (except I was certainly guilty;)). He was going to run us both down and get the 'boys' on us. It never came to anything, they're all talk.

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Send a parcel to his unit containing large size ladies underwear and a Penis extension with a covering note..........."You left these" :D

Should be able to bar his telephone number and the woman freind needs to be more proactive with her "freinds" in making clear that a) she is not now and never will again be seeing Mr Soldier and b) that she bitterly regrets ever getting involved with such a d#ckhead.........and if this involves dropping some "freinds", then so be it......

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sorry to any of our serving finest.. it wasnt ment in offence to you guys, but you should hear him brag.. its sick and that seems to be why everyone loves him so much.. :smt092

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so what your saying is, because people have small minds and nothing better to do but gossip.. im only allowed male friends without hasstle???

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Not always G2D, It is so easy to come home at the weekend miles from where you live give someone a kicking with a group of your felow soldiers and disapear again within hours.

The Soldiers will close ranks and not grass, it will be nigh on impssible to prove otherwise if its done properly.

The army looks after its own quite well.

Re: EX fella that just wont go away..
 

I think you should tap that booty...

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Nope I'm sayin that in a similar situation, where if you had just returned home from working away and people were telling you that your girlfriend had been getting it on with someone else......how would you feel.

If lots of people are telling him something, be it just gossip, how is he going to know whats the truth and what isnt....until he finds it out he is going to be an angry son of a bitch, and can you blame him?

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I agree with Fizz to an extent its her problem let her sort it out and then if he continues to hassle her - SHE should write the letter to the CO complaining about him.

and I also agree with Fizz about staying calm and explaining the situation if he harasses you - contact the police

Thats what i would do

Re: EX fella that just wont go away..
 

see what your saying.. but he has asked her several times.. "is something going on?" but he cant seem to accept no as the answer he needs to grow up...

as for the soldiers.. well they are really not that organised.. i know him and his family.. everyone from my town that serves with him.. and even one soldier.. that really shouldnt be at home right now if you catch my drift...

Re: EX fella that just wont go away..
 

Are the still an item?

If not why have they broken up?

Re: EX fella that just wont go away..
 

Well contact the police, they will hand him over to the RMP's .AWOL :smt068[-(


AS i said if you find out his Base and regiment i can get you the Address for the CO if she wants to write a letter.

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they broke up because when they first got together back in march time he broke it off and got with a friend of hers.. then begged her to take him back which she did.. two months later he is telling her he loves her and the like and she just cant be doing with it.. now hes just acting like a child.. all of her friends say to give him another chance because he can give her everything??? i assume they mean stuff as apose to support..

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+1. She needs to do her best to ignore him, he's clearly just bitter that you get to spend time with her and he physically can't as he's away. Don't blame him in a way, can't be easy.

If he's actually managing to turn her friends against her then she needs to seriously rethink who her real friends are, no mates of mine would listen to a bloke without hearing it from me first (I'd like to think anyway :rolleyes: ). He's just a trouble-maker and a sh!t-stirrer, this writing a letter business sounds a good idea, you can help more by pointing your friend in the right direction and letting others deal with the problem.

More Jeremy Kyle eh? Who needs a telly when you've got the .org :lol:

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All you can do is be an emotional support for her.
It's her problem that she will need to deal with herself. Forcing yourself into the issue won't do you any favours, and she could possibly resent you for it.
Just be prepared to give good advice when she asks for it and help her out where needed.

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Can you get him shot???

If so, when you are finished here I had the same prob up north and it would be a nice birthday pressie for the lass if this dude also 'got dealt with'. He's not in the forces... Just a kernob

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Unfortunatly not , well unless you can arange for him to try and attack a base, then he will be shot by the guards.

But that said if the up north is Manchester its probably eaiser to get hold of guns there than in the army so i am sure being a manc are better placed than me LOL

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If we are arranging "hits" on this thread I have a long list of candidates.

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Do you get a full mag of live rounds or just a few. Mate in the RMP told me due to lack of cash, they only had a few rounds each. Not sure if he was joking or not.

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Just one question..........

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lol, no.. although another mate of mine that does feels like someones always watching her lol.. weird

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Full mags mate, 30 rounds. Enough to hurt you ;)

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If your rifle stays in one piece ;):D

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LOL, yeah there is that, but they are all the A2 version so are very good and accurate ;).

Re: EX fella that just wont go away..
 

Lyle, I agree, it is her problem, up to a certain extent. But you are part of the scenario that causes the problem, so you can't help but be affected.

You forget to mention two important facts:

Are you single?
Is your friend hot?

If the answer is yes to both......you are wasting time! :)

Re: EX fella that just wont go away..
 

Boink!

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Is he actually her ex? As in, they're not together right now? If so then she needs to tell him to go away.

If they are still together, or he BELIEVES they are still together, that's more of a problem. If they are together then you either need to accept he may be a bit jealous of your friendship, or approach him and talk to him about it.

It may be that she's telling everyone they're not together, including you, but when / if they're alone she actually succumbs and pretends they are together. Again, more of a problem as she needs to decide whether to competely cut him out or not and get her head straight. Sounds like there's a bit more than meets the eye to me.

Chin up though fella, if she is a good friend of yours (which it sounds like she is) just offer the support and enjoy her company / rides out etc.

Re: EX fella that just wont go away..
 

OI!!!

Get in the queue.. Or you're going on my list and I was here first
: )

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yes to both, but why am i wasting time?
you see this has now found another bird yet still tells her he loves her and that..? ? ? its all seriously childish... its like im 16 again.. getting hasstle from a turd that wont flush..

i think im just going to let it be for now.. ive got nothing to hide ive always been upfront and honest about everything.. if someone asks where have you been i say with emma.. what you up to.. just with emma out at MFN.. etc ive never hidden anything.. but now i refuse to justify myself anymore lol screw it.. ive still got my bike right!

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Are you two likely to get together? If so, be careful how you choose your words. If it happens and you get it wrong, you have the potential of losing all credability.

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Come one geezer, she's single, she likes to go out on the bike with you, even though she has (now past tense to had) a boyfriend!!

More like she likes to sit on the bike and grab hold of you tightly, but is too scared / nervous to ask you out!!

I'm just messing Lyle, take it easy!!! Any yes, you've still got your bike....maybe you should trade it for a single seater??!! :smt077:D:cool: