pro's & con's of a female house mate?
 

My lodger has just moved out after his 6 month contract ended (and he relocated to milton keynes for work)..

I've looked on a few of the flatmate websites at the ads for rooms wanted and the majority of them seem to be women. Talked with a few friends about the prospect of a female housemate and the consensus seems to be it would be a bad idea. I've got my own crappy experiences of living with women (albeit in a relationship dynamic) but so far the list seems to be:

Pro's:

• The house will smell nice
• Stereotypically they will be clean & tidy
• Pyjama party with all her friends
• …. that's about it

Con's:

• fighting for the bathroom
• random dudes in the house
• girl drama
• every once in a while the mood will change and no one knows why
• becoming an emotional counsellor when there's no one else around to listen
• not being able to raise flatmate-issues without it becoming personal (i.e. too many random dudes in the house - "are you calling me a slut???")
• girls talk, and any of my dirty dark house habits (like having a sit down wee when I'm drunk) will be passed on at girly giggly conversation time
• chick flicks.... actually that's a pro, I quite like Gerard Butler..
• the list goes on

Feel free to chip in with advice or even your own points for the list..

Re: pro's & con's of a female house mate?
 

how about a Gay flat mate?

you get the best of both worlds..










i'll get me coat :-)

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awesome Bib but I think wideboy is otherwise busy at the minute ;)

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You forgot getting a cheeky perv on them when they get out of the shower and sniffing their dirty underwear ;)

I lived with a friend who is of the female persuasion for 2 years. Only problem was she didn't get on too well with my girlfriend at the time. Otherwise it was really good and I'd happily do it again.

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up yours paul, i wouldn't move in with you and your hardcore bicycle seat sniffing fetish

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Within a week there will be scented candles and scatter cusions about the place. Not a good idea!

And don't think they will be tidy, I know a lot of girls who are lazy slobs

Re: pro's & con's of a female house mate?
 

Do you want Lambrini in your fridge?

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you obviously don't know paul! lol. he already has that in his fridge!! lol ;)

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Uh...I got a male lodger once. You might know him. :rolleyes:

In all honesty, you guys can be quite difficult to live with as well, just so you know. The mood thing, that's not just women. In fact, the cons list could be men as well, with little tweaks.

I couldn't live with a woman...I'm too much of a control freak with certain things but I think a man/woman flat share can be great. I did it in London and we had no issues at all. I didn't like all the girls he brought back, but it was none of my business so hey ho.

It's about finding the right person, not the right gender ;)

Re: pro's & con's of a female house mate?
 

I've shared houses with 4 different genders and they're all the bloody same.

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wise words there GG, my ex house mate was more moody than most of the women I know, he was a good lad but my word could he throw a strop if he wanted to lol. Yeah I think I need to just crack on with getting some interviews in, part of the interview process is a few beers at the pub to see how we get on, ideally want someone I can be friends with as opposed to just having a random stranger living here.

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Get a horse ;)

Always a good nag

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In my current experience:

Downsides:
Not as tidy as you'd hope! (expected to be honest)

Expect to have to 'fix' and explain everything from how to use a retractable washing line to why their TV remote doesn't work

Warped 'girl view' of fair , we used to split bills on an actual use basis - in winter obviously this was more expensive than summer (especially considering girls like heating on all the time , have lengthy showers and like lights to be on even in daylight) after many explanations that over the course of the year this evens out I wasn't believed so thought **** it let's split the direct debit it's much less hassle than explaining simplistic **** repeatedly.

Hair! Everywhere

Tampon wrappers in bin! expect a stomach turning surprise every now and then, only a wrapper but no one likes to be reminded that fanny's are evil witchcraftery which bleed.


On the plus side - not a smelly ar5ed bloke who thinks it's hilarious to run into the bathroom for his morning **** while you're have a late for work rushing shower and wipe turd down your spine where you can't reach leaving you even later for work and feeling hollow.

More considerate than blokes

Get their rabbit out on the sofa*

Have mates

Cocktails - allowed!

Not a bloke

Baking! this becomes an acceptable activity, they bake - you **** around adding an insane amount of chocolate chips....get to eat the rewards!

Rip your t-shirt in a pie, alcohol or gym related activity?! No problem, WOMEN can sew!!!

Not a bloke

Generally better

Not a bloke



*as in pet rabbit, but the scope for these jokes is endless and you can amuse yourself,firends and family for hours.

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Within a week dust collecting scented (unlightable) candles had sprung up all over.
Also true, women are surprisingly less stroppy in my experience.

"mate, even if you're too drunk to lock the door please close it - a wide open front door = no insurance"

didn't talk to me for two days?!

He'd done it twice before aswell! Mong

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Yeah think I've just had two bad experiences on the bounce.. I need to sort that out

Same here, kitchen and living room windows left open, and kitchen door left unlocked while he went on a night out. I told him 3 times before he finally said my control issues extended beyond cooking/the kitchen.. Hey ho... So maybes they're not all bad. Might just do a joey tribiani style interview..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vDnfFWqx7dA

Re: pro's & con's of a female house mate?
 

Hang on you can split the direct debit?? Hollaaaa

Re: pro's & con's of a female house mate?
 

Candles? Paul already has plenty of his own.
Cocktails? Ditto.
Baking? DITTO.
Not as tidy as you'd hope? She'd probably feel the same.

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Mate, it's all down to the individual girl. I wouldn't worry too much about it, but I do think you'd have a better time with a bloke ... unless you happen upon a tom girl type into her forza and bikes without any baggage, loads of money, lot of fit mates, easy to talk to, and most of all sane.

The tidy stereo type is utter bull too, in my experience. I've never lived with a tidy girl. I've probably lived with 10 over the years and not one of them have been tidy. Some of them have thought they were tidy, thinking showing a frying pan the sink is suitable, and the grease that's left all over them is just how the non-stick works. Or manages to keep all the surfaces clean by just chucking **** into any old random draw until it's completely impossible to find anything of yours ever again. Or routinely cleans the bathroom, but that involves some bleach in the bog and a wipe round of the sink, ignoring all the **** stains and shower mould etc.

The best ever was a girl who once spilled a pint of milk on the kitchen floor when I was at uni. She then mopped it up, and then left the milk drenched mop in the cupboard, which subsequently stank the hole house out. She also once hoovered up an entire cake she dropped. My face very rarely gets to demonstrate the emotion of complete and utter disbelief, but I wore that face that day, and I wore it for some time.

pro's & con's of a female house mate?
 

I had a Turkish house mate for a year once, it was awesome.

She was ridiculously fit, worked in a nightclub and always walked in to the living room on a Friday and Saturday evening before work in the sluttiest outfits imaginable.

GET A FEMALE FLATMATE!

Re: pro's & con's of a female house mate?
 

:smt016 Access to the Panties drawer, or better.

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I had a female housemate and married her.So beware the unintended consequences.
Oh and she aint tidy but niether am I

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I had a male house mate a little while ago... He was a pain, emotionally stunted, lazy and boring. I had a load of fun with his girlfriend (not like that you filthy minded lot!) and generally led her astray!

There are a lot of cons with male housemates and finding a short curly hair on your toothbrush is just one of them! However, there are certain activities that women like myself can do that leave male housemates begging for information. Also it was funny when I came home with more women than he did.

One night I had two female friends who made out in the living room, totally oblivious to who was there. He sat for the night with a cushion in his lap and barely spoke!

Gay housemates are the best, I would highly recommend it. Mind you I shared a house with a load of Polish builders a while back and they were kind, considerate, great fun and party animals. That was the best time I had in shared housing. Sadly it was ruined when a horrible English bloke moved in and spoiled it.

So to conclude, English blokes are sullen, emotionally stunted, childish, sexually repressed, lazy, bad cooks and boring. Share with a nice lesbian or a load of Polish builders for good times. :D

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So there you go.

Find yourself a lesbian Polish builder.

Simples.

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:winner:


Jayne you always make me chuckle. Want the discography of Nightwish? ;)

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I've shared with both, some good and bad points either way but in all honesty I think it's been down to the people rather than their gender.

It's true most women like to live in a tidy house with pointless cushions on the sofa and candles that never get lit, but I've met a surprising number that seem to have no interest in actually cleaning, just expect it to kind of happen. This can be a point of friction.

I've also lived with males that were grumpy and emotional, and ones that were cleaner and more organised than me.

Bit of a lottery either way I'd say your best bet is just to be frank about the qualities you expect "Must be OK with some mess / no mess, must must be organised / must be calm" pick the things that you need in a house mate, and see what matches you get back. Of course it'd be great to have them be a friend as well but I'd rather have someone living their own life that left the house in the state I wanted it, paid the bills on time and didn't constantly treat the place as their own to do what they wanted with regardless.

Jambo

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How dare you! I'm a good cook! ;)

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And this, dear readers, is why I choose to be Maltese, even though I have an English name and accent.

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Nice one lozzo. :thumbsup:

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Shared a house with two young ladies who were very friendly with each other............. wish I still had the sound recordings of their bath nights...;):):):thumbsup:

My street cred :king: on a night out with them and their mates was sky high.

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I'll put a note on the female of the species and cleaning
My brother rented a flat that was so bad, it took 3 people 2 days to even make it safe to enter. The landlord ended up giving my brother a months rent back due to the mess

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Then there are the other female housemates who DO clean, without being asked and who dont make a drama out of it if you leave the loo seat up.

Trust me, I've seen more minging flats rented by men/boys than I have shared genders or by women only.

As others have said it's about finding the right person, not the right gender.

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don't like the competition?

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Oh man. Any girl who complains about the loo seat being up needs to be shot in the face.

Why is it that women should be able to walk into the toilet and always find the loo seat in the place they want it already, where as men always have to walk in, raise it, slash, then put it down again? How is that fair? Seriously, in this age of equality, how can that possibly be justified?

The correct answer is, men lift it up when they go in and women put it down when they go in. 50-50. And men are the ones having to do the lifting! Women only have to do the putting down (which they are very good at anyway).

The only other fair solution is to always leave it down and just rinse the whole thing out with male fluids, or remove it entirely, or provide a she-wee.

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it's to do with:
1. walking in and looking down the loo and

2. the atomization of excrement during flushing.

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You're talking about the top seat. I'm talking about the middle seat. That's the one I have, in my experience, suffered abuse for not putting down! Nobody puts the top seat down after taking a dump! You need to make sure the whole 12 inches has flushed away.

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surely they want both seats down?

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In my experience it's just the bottom seat they want down. It's normally either because they're too lazy to put it down themselves, or they're such plebs they've sat down on the seatless ring one too many times without looking. Seriously, people need to take responsibility for their own toilet seat arrangement.

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always close the lid. have you seen how much spray actually goes in the air when you flush. that spray get all over the place, yes even in your toothbrush.

Re: pro's & con's of a female house mate?
 

well, In MY experience... tbh in my experience they mostly want me to leave them alone and stop lurking in their toilets before they call the police but that's enough about that,