Confusion Mental Turmoil - you might get bored reading this
 

Hi all,

I am so confused I thought I put this up here to see what people think - This is completely non bike related so stop now if you want to stay awake:rolleyes:


To make a long story short, I got annoyed after being told that no one in the company is getting a payrise. I put my CV on monster and had an couple of interviews and within a week of putting it up I HAD AN OFFER!!!! for a considerable amount more money......

I resigned on Friday and the MD had his chat with me today - COUNTEROFFER time, a new position in a senior management role......more responsibility ect, I told him I want to think about it tonight......

After reading loads of articles ,there are so many on google it seems pretty standard and most of them advise to move on.

Anyone been in a similar position, do you stick with confort and stay where u are. I know I shouldn't complain cause I'm in a good position at the moment but I diddn't think it was going to be this stressfull.

Any thoughts......Apologies for boring you all :(

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are there any other reasons why you wanted to leave your current job?

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overworked, realized i'm doing constant 12 hour days and sometimes coming home doing more work. - He assured me resource issues will be addressed. Also moral is very low as they made quite a few people redundant in november, the main thing was the payrise and the fact that i wasn't recognised for the efforts over the last year.

but the above is manageable, just not sure if they are for real and if I will be first out if they have to cut heads again...........:confused:

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hmmm, that sounds pretty bad to me. i wonder how resource issues would be addressed if you've just lost a load of staff. i'm sure i'd be miserable at work if i had to deal with all that stuff.

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what kept you there for so long? there's a lot to be said for the environment and enjoying what you do.
does more responsibility = more blame/pressure when the promised resources don't turn up?
can you try it for a while and jump if you don't like it or the promises don't materialise?
if your head rolls later on, will you get a good payoff and be able to walk into another job offer as easily as you've just done?

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moving jobs could give you the motivation you need. They obviously think you've got the skills and are willing to reward you for that. An employer would rather see someone who's developed a broad range of skills in different companies searching their potential than someone who sits in the same job for years. They won't question why you switched jobs if you were moving up- go for it!

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Do you want to be a senior manager, is that where you want to be, and is that what your other offer is for too?

But if you are really torn, stay where you are, give it your best, see how it works out and if not chances are there'll still be job offers out there, seeing as it was wasy to get one this time.

I had a mate who thought he was leaving a place three times, got persuaded to stay twice and it went well for him, so staying not necessarily bad.

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Ive jumped ship at hg 3 times now...twice because i had "better" offers,needless to say each rtime i returned, the issues i was having with hg got dealt with and i love it there now, doubt il leave again!

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the offer with the new company is a step back on the career ladder I am a team leader now......(only one report) and the new job is just for a network engineer but it pays more.....

I will discuss the salary with him tomorrow If they want me to stay they would have to better it not just match.

Thanks a lot for all the comment so far, Its really great getting all this feedback from people I haven't met yet...I will have to come to the AR to meet you lot.:D

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no worries - I just regurgitated what I read in the Guardian 'Work' supplement agony column every Saturday!

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The company made people redundant in November
They are not giving any payrises this year (nothing new there)

Are they creating a position for you just so they keep you or is a Senior Mgr needed?

Is the new company offering better career prospects even though you are taking a step back in role titles?

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This is my take on your situation (correct me if I'm wrong):

You're unhappy where you are, you're overworked with little support. You're in a management type role (team leader). No-one at the company is getting a pay rise.

You get an offer to take a step back, less responsibility, more money. Only this offer means living the company & working with a group of people you don't know. It could be a case of out of the frying pan & into the fire.

Personally, I always choose enjoyment over money. If I enjoy the work, and I have enough money to put food on the table for everyone at home, I'll work for free! That said:

In your situation, I really don't see the choice. Your current MD has proposed that you can have more money, if you take on more responsibility (senior management), and has given a vague offer of more assistance so you're not over-worked any more. Is there a time frame for this offer of assistance? Is there any quantity of resources?

Sorry, but I'd be gone. Less responsibility, more money. Easier life.

I've taken side steps to get to where I am now, I've also taken steps down off the ladder. Back at college I was a software engineer by trade. I went "down" to the level of bar person & side stepped my way through being a DBA & then back to software engineer. This is what I'm happy doing, and I work for a good company. The money is irrelevant.

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I have definately done too much over the last three years, missing both quantity and quality time with my family so I think you are right, If I move into management completely I will loose my techy skills within a year and thats what I enjoy the most. (although I'm a team leader its 90% hands on)
Thanks again for all the comments I think I need to go talk to the CEO today go to the post office and get my new contract out.......have a few :smt030 tonight to celebrate.

And it seems there's quite a few IT people on here so if I don't like it I'll send another one of these to ask you lot for a Job:smt041

Next thread will be bike related - I promise.......

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on a lighter note......I just found this on i-resign....made me giggle


Dear Moronic Corporate Disaster,
I am very happy to announce that as of this moment, I resign.
It may interest you to know that soon I shall be earning twice your salary in a new field: I shall be involved in the flinging of porcupines between ocean going cargo ships and the shore. We plan to attach messages to the backs of these porcupines and in some cases, to write directly on them. We hope that some day this new form of communication, we call it the Porcupine-Mail-Service or PMS, will really take off. Perhaps one day in the not-so-distant future http://www.i-resign.com/images/oops.gif will also use it as a method of communication. I must stress, that as of this moment, we have not hurt any porcupines. They appear to enjoy it. Possibly because we pay the porcupines much more than you paid me. It may also interest you to know, we also pay the parasitic species of louse that has only ever caused problems for their porcupine hosts more than you paid me.
Should this endeavour fail, I plan to become either a highwayman or a pirate. Even a highly unsuccessful criminal of this nature is bound to make more than you paid me, and the work will be a lot less sweaty, annoying and pointless. If you are traveling by carriage or sailing-ship one day, wave me down; I am sure I would simply love to catch up with you.
On the off chance that this also fails, I have been offered the job of donning a realistic monkey suit and working for peanuts - I know you'll be saying, "but we already pay you peanuts - and you don't have to wear a monkey suit!" Yes, you do indeed pay me peanuts and I don't have to wear a monkey suit. But our peanuts are of a much higher quality and the monkey suit is far less degrading than http://www.i-resign.com/images/oops.gif uniform. As a side note, the dominant male of the group is much more intelligent than yourself and is considerably more pleasant and humane.
As another side note, if you are interested in purchasing any donkeys, you're in luck. I have been breeding them recently for the sole purpose of familiarising myself with their stubborn, asinine faces. I had long taken it upon myself to mentally transpose a donkey face over your own during our conversations. When I did this, the clouds cleared and you appeared more credible. I have also taken to translating the inane garbage you spout into Donklyish, the language of the donkey (specifically the Ass dialect which is most similar to your own). Donklyish has the forgiving property of making everything you have said in it sound credible - even the most ludicrous of statements. As you can see, as I will be taking on some form of employment with a credible boss I no longer need the donkeys. They are available to a good home. Perhaps your company could employ them as managers? I think they would do a wonderful job and improve the company immensely.
Yours without any respect,
JW

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My mind is made up at last, current place is giving me a new position slightly more £££ than the new place but if I look at it I won't be on the same salaries as the other senior managers, Yes I dont have the experience but I will still be underpaid for what I do then. Searching on google re: counteroffers all give the same results, some of them a script of what just happened here.

A senior management position will make finding employment in the same type of role harder as a lot of places is still ageist.....Im just 28.....+ little management experience and I will be sacrificing keeping my technical skills up to date.

My personal involvement --- ALWAYS taking work home with me, that won't change in the current place as I already do that and it will be difficult to change. I told my new emloyer part of the reason for leaving is to get a better work/home life balance.

:thumright: :thumright: :thumright:

Now I can start concentrating on fun things as I will be changing from fair weather riding to being an EVERYDAY COMMUTER.....Looking for some luggage options now to take my work clothes in.......can't quite get myself to put a top box on the pointy.


Thanks again for the comments it certainly helped in the process.

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Started my new Job today......And unfortunately hated every minute of it, All I could think of was how do I resign in the first week and go and take the counter-offer from the other place.

Not sure if I'm too hasty, it's only been a day after all and my previous job took months to get used to, but my new boss's english vocab is so business like and full of "big and clever" words that I lose track of what he is talking about.

All this together with the fact of agonising back pain(fell of the bike saturday and must of pulled my back picking it up within a few seconds****just to save embarrasment****)

Now there's me again......confused like a blooooody chameleon on a smartybox

*******Anyway Rant Over*********

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Give it time, perhaps your boss is just using such words to sound important and to assert his authority. You could end up lovin it, it may just take some time to get used to the envronment. Just don't make decisions to hastily.


Regards

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Give it a few weeks before you make a decision. The new boss is probably trying too hard to impress you. Wait until *his* nerves settle down a bit...