Theres a setting in Prefrences (edit prefrences i think, anyway second option al0ong, then at the bottom of the drop down list) in there you will find all options for you pod. One of them, is update pod with libary each time you connect . Just turn this off.
Without it in fornt of me i cant remember the exact menu path, but it is turn offable.
As for the track names. No net connection, it cant connect to CDDB
You can however enter them manualy.
If you highlight the album, then right click, select the option Get Info, you can enter the album name, and artist, and other information. Then click Ok. Then click on the 1st track, Get info again, then one of the tabs (Cant remeber wich) will give you the ablilty to add the track name. Just select next in the bottom of the dialouge box, and it'll take you to the next track.
HTH