Speedy Claire

Lets hope you can reach some life changing decisions then lol...

I know where you coming from tho, I`m independant and like you have a good job, my own house, car and bike and no ties apart from my 2 cats. Problem with me tho was that I think i became a bit too independant and a bit too used to my own company. I deliberately chose to isolate myself a bit cos i was sick to death of meeting d... h.... who saw me as a meal ticket. I wanted to get used to being on my own and finding the real me again. Have found her now hoorah!!! only problem now is that it can be a bit daunting letting go of some of the independance and the fear and letting someone back into your life again.

Oh and in answer to your question yes I have sometimes found that men find the independance a bit intimidating... if in the past i`ve earned more then that`s not always gone down too well but the right man won`t give a damn what you earn and he`ll respect all that you`ve achieved for yourself. He`ll also help you to learn to let go of the past and look forward to the future and learn to trust again.

I`d say tho don`t look to a man to bring you that happiness and contentment, find it in yourself first and just let him be the icing on the cake.

Best of luck hun and have a extra large pina colada with lots of umbrella`s for me x