Miss Alpinestarhero

The most important people here are you and your wife.

I would not reply to the facebook message, I would report it to facebook, then delete it. You don't want the person who sent it to know you are rattled (or similarly that you are not rattled - this could spark more messages trying to destroy what you and your wife have).

Go home and be with your wife and talk to her. You have done nothing wrong and have nothing to hide so she should come round and realise you are telling the truth. If she wants "proof" that you've been working longer hours etc, then perhaps your boss can clarify? However you don't want to risk falling into a situation where you have to constantly "prove" your whereabouts etc to your wife because that will not be healthy.

Now, the matter of working out who the heck is responsible....that could be anyone. A co-worker, an ex-girlfriend (an ex-boyfriend of your wife), an angry friend, a mutual friend who is jelous of what you and your wife have, possibly a peeved family member?...the list can be pretty endless. However, if so few people know the details that this person mentioned, perhaps that can narrow it down a bit.

My mum used to get malicious phone calls from a woman who claimed my dad was having an affair. She knew his name, my mums name, my dads working location and hours...details that only somone close by would know. This naturally made my mum freak out big time but they (my parents) worked through it. A few months later, My dads friend split up with his biatch of a wife and the calls stopped..

I really hope you work this out with your wife, there truly are some horrible people around who get pleasure in destroying relationships

Maria