Sometimes things in life happen that we have no control over.This time 18 months ago I was earning good money(self employed) had a new car a van and a motorbike and 2 holidays a year.Then the wife decided that the 19 yr old down the road was a better bet....cue the land slide to my life.Cue £9000 ish in legal fees a tempory court order saying I have the kids for half the week (leaving of course 3 & half days left for work)Half the week therefore I lived in the marital home and the other half I rented a dodgy flat(all I could afford.)Because the wife had the kids from Monday at 6 pm untill Friday at 3 pm ,which is of course 4 nights she got all the benifits that were going ,including all my sons disability money, child benefit etc.
The court ordered a full investigation by cafcas and because she was by that time pregnant (choice of 3/4 fathers) she gets everything,home,furniture money and I get nothing.BUT ,although I lost everything else I did win one major thing.Joint custody for 3 nights a week until the kids are grown.
So to summerise it all up ,I have a dodgy flat with one chair one bed and 2 camp beds a portable tv and a second hand gifted fridge and oven.The only money I have is what I can earn in the remaining days ,which is difficult when my work telephone number is at my ex home.Two young ones in an upstairs flat,the older one (
being diabled.
She has home,house paid for,benifits (all of them thats going).
How can that be fair ,because although she has them for 4 nights against my 3 most of the time they are with her ,they are in school or bed.
One good thing has happen though...last week I was granted a council house on my sons medical grounds,which will probably start another row on here ,along the lines of "why didnt I rent a better place for him"
Simple....he is autistic and private renting ,where you can be asked to move at anytime ,is no good for a young one with quite severe learning diificulties and problems with his fine and gross motorskills.
Ok so we dont have much but we have each other.