[Balky001]

Sounds like there's some taking for granted going on there. But 16 years of marriage and 2 children, far too much history to understand without knowing them. If its worth saving then they will - don't get more involved than you feel is appropriate as they need to work on their issues, not be distracted. In all honesty they should probably seek (professional) councilling from an impartial party given the children situation. But all friends need support, especially at times like this. Time to be a listening post rather than a problem solver I think. I take it the guy's affair ended??