My thoughts exactly K.
When me and my hubby broke up, because I had the girls (2 & 6 months old at the time) I stayed in the house (rented). He left and got his own place so we just split everything amicably.
I know some people don't/can't do amicable but I'm all for talking and getting things sorted out nicely. It's much better for you and much better for the kids (if you have any)
I know of a case (a friend of mine) who had children with her husband (he is 17 years older than her) but because she wanted to work he stayed at home with the children. When her father died, what she inherited she paid off her mortgage with. Then she and hubby decided to split. Because he wasn't working the courts told her that he had little or no chance of finding another job at his age (55) so she had to remortgage, giving him £65,000. She had to take on all the debts because they were all in her name because she was the earner. She is now struggling on her own with a £70,000 mortgage whilst he sits on his ar*e, in rented accomodation and because he isn't working he only has to give her £40 per month for maintenance! The courts weren't interested in the fact that she paid off the mortgage with her father's money.
For once it's justice gone mad.
Some useful info none the less tho Ed, but I think every case is individual.
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