had some v shocking news-support needed

*edited as ive now had time to calm down and let some of the shock wear off, im still mad at her though*

and its more of a rant/letting how i feel off my chest now than support thats needed now!

My 13 year old cousin is pregnant....at least 5 months gone..
I could kill her and her sodding 16 year old boyfriend, and yes i also place some of the blame on my Aunt (her mum)!!
I mean ffs shes 13 and has a 16yr old boyfriend (who has now turned out to be 1!!!!! i SAID this would happen and sadly have proved right.
I feel sick, ffs shes just a kid herself

i really dont know what to think or say, the shocks wearing off now, but its her attitude of "oh it'll be alright" thats worrying me!

it might be the making of her. There are quite a lot of kids at my daughters school pregnant. they either turn their lives around and become good wee mums or they go on to have another 4 kids before they are legal. hard sign of the times.

As kitkat said, sign of the times.

Prepare yourself for the family battles when the kid turns around & says she can't possibly give the baby away after it's been seen.

Originally Posted by Paws

... ive said i want nothing to do with her...

You are looking for support yet turn your back on her? She's still family.

i know a couple of young mums on my window round , they had a hard time coming to terms with being mums but unfortunately its becoming more common these days , there is a lot of stress for everyone and its easy to blame but not so easy to forgive and help , i think everyone's got to support each other at these times hope things work out over time mate

What do you want us to do?

How old is her your cousins mum? these things usually folow a trend, it's a sad factor of life. THey think it's ok do be having a sexual relationship cos the parents have done it.
No point in turning your back on her, she thinks she's grown up but you gotta remember shes a kid, she'll need as much support as possible not berating her for her wrong doings, yes it was against the law for what the boyfriend done, but i'm afraid to say it's the old addage "it takes 2 to tango"
Hope it all works out for them.

Not exactly an ideal situation but it's happened and as you say not a lot can be done. Just think of how scared she will be, this is no doubt an extremely shocking bit of news for her.....she's still a child and to have another one growing inside you well, I know I'd feel fked up.

In no way I'm condoning it of course and I'm not saying she should get sympathy, I'm sure the pair of them knew exactly what they were doing...but it needs to be dealt with with care, she'll be feeling very vulnerable and needs all the support she can get. If you are close (or were) then she'll be feeling even more let down. A few more months down the line when she's ready to have the baby she's gonna want as much help and love to get her through it.

What a shock... don't turn your back. Please. She will need a lot of support through this, and you not speaking won't help her. Can't change anything now, so make the best of it and hope she learns.

If baby is adopted - then that is a very brave decision, not easy at all, and I respect her for that. I hope that that is a decision of her own making, and that she hasn't been pressurised into it. It would make a family somewhere very very happy, but is it really what your cousin wants? Please talk to her, I bet that she's as shocked as you are, and feels lonely and confused. Yelling at her or ignoring her isn't going to help.

update-
shes acting like NOTHING is wrong!!!!!!!!! seriously, shes just like "yer well"..wtf???????
her mum had her in her late twenties so its not following a trend.
i just cant understand how shes reacting?? apparently shes more worried about what im going to do/say to her then what is actually going on!
shes been well bought up, does great at school, i just dont get it!