EX fella that just wont go away..

Im not sure if you remember when i broke up with my Ex, i started hanging out with a mate of mine alot more, well at the time this mate of mine had a fella that was in the army.. they broke up because he was "in love" with her after 2 months, and because me and emma spend alot of time together going out on the bike.. then EVERYONE autimaticly assumes that we must be sleeping together... (everyone as in all my and her friends + her EX)
so anyway now Hes going on by saying that if he ever found out that something is happening then apparently he will break our bones..(at this point i hasten to add that im quaking in my Sidis... i mean im really really scared... infact im booking my plane ticket to outer mongolia right now..
but every single weekend when he comes home it all starts again... for like the last 5 weeks.. and in all fairness im getting tired of it.. he always rings her and gives her a hard time.. but never me.. he hasnt rang or even approached me.
he's even tried turning her friends against her..
i guess he thinks that if he keeps being such a **** then she will get back with him??? how stupid can you be??
but i need some help from the .Org as i dont give two craps about what its doing to me.. but its seriously starting to break emma down.
its like EVERYONE was happy that they were together... like he is some form of local celeb because hes a soldier (so hes 19 and kills things for a living.. great!!!) but now kinda hate her because she doesnt want to be with him??? its propper FUBAR

Right as I am in the Army as well I can advise probably the best way is to find out where he is based and write a letter of complaint to his CO, this will guarantee he get a talking to, and possible a small punishment for harassing you.

If you can find out what he is in, regiment etc. I can use my contacts to try and get an address and a name o the CO to write to mate.

Originally Posted by lylej

because hes a soldier (so hes 19 and kills things for a living.. great!!!)

Sounds a nasty situation, it's not fair that he takes it out on Emma.

But the above is a bit of a harsh judgement, don't you think?

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OK this is her problem to fix not yours so stay out of it.

She needs to clearly tell him to stop phoning and harrassing her, and then she needs to stop answering his phone calls and responding to him.

Thats the only way its going to get sorted so she doesnt get hassle. If you involve yourself in the middle of it it'll only get worse, just be her firend and support her and give her advice but dont go and speak to him yourself.

If he approaches you just be firm and polite and tell him its none of his business what either of you do because if they have split up it isnt anything to do with him anymore.

The problem with booking a flight to outer mongolia is that you'll need to apply for a tourist visa beforehand. The Mongolian Embassy is in London & it'll cost you £35. This visa will be valid for 30 days only.

You could apply for a business/worknig visa for an extended duration but you'll also need to take an HIV test.

Now if you were a US citizen you could get a 60 day tourist visa at the border crossing/Ulan Bator airport. The yanks have it easy.


Hope this helps.

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To be fair if I had been working away for a bit and my girlfriend had been very friendly with another male and had been all over the place on the back of someone else bike to the point people were saying they had slept with each other.........I think I would be somewhat ****ed off as well. He can only believe what people have been telling him afterall.

I had similar threats from a soldier in a similar situatioin (except I was certainly guilty). He was going to run us both down and get the 'boys' on us. It never came to anything, they're all talk.

Send a parcel to his unit containing large size ladies underwear and a Penis extension with a covering note..........."You left these"

Should be able to bar his telephone number and the woman freind needs to be more proactive with her "freinds" in making clear that a) she is not now and never will again be seeing Mr Soldier and b) that she bitterly regrets ever getting involved with such a d#ckhead.........and if this involves dropping some "freinds", then so be it......

Originally Posted by Ed

Sounds a nasty situation, it's not fair that he takes it out on Emma.

But the above is a bit of a harsh judgement, don't you think?

sorry to any of our serving finest.. it wasnt ment in offence to you guys, but you should hear him brag.. its sick and that seems to be why everyone loves him so much..

Originally Posted by graemepaterson

To be fair if I had been working away for a bit and my girlfriend had been very friendly with another male and had been all over the place on the back of someone else bike to the point people were saying they had slept with each other.........I think I would be somewhat ****ed off as well. He can only believe what people have been telling him afterall.

so what your saying is, because people have small minds and nothing better to do but gossip.. im only allowed male friends without hasstle???