Malicious Facebook Message - What to do?

I got a phone call from my wife this morning, who was proper p***ed off.

Basically someone had messaged her in Facebook her stating I had had a string of affairs, which I have not.

There were a couple of points in there though:

1. They knew my wifes name, this isn't widely known though everyone who knows me knows I have a wife and 2 kids.
2. They knew and mentioned my bosses name.
3. They knew what kind of job I had, but also that I work extra hours every now and again. recently due to a webserver outage I have put in a hell of a lot of extra hours which makes me think whoever sent it knew about this.

Obviously as it has a few details in it, my wife is convinced that it is true and I have no way of persuading her otherwise, I just don't know what to do.

[Dave20046]

Hmm I'm not sure if there's a lot you can do but ignore it. Doubt facebook'll tell you who it is. If they know your bosses name maybe a jealous co-w@nker?

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[Viney]

It quite simple really. Ask your wife who sent her the message!

[Stu]

Originally Posted by Viney

It quite simple really. Ask your wife who sent her the message!

Maybe she didn't even get a message but was just suspicious of your extra hours. Don't suppose you got extra pay for the extra hours?

[Dave20046]

It certainly is a **** situation to be in. Providing the person didn't make a fake account just for this purpose then she should know who they are.

No she gave me her facebook details and there was a messgae there from sarah smith.......the account was opened yesterday at 10:02 and the message was sent at 10:39, no details, no photos, no other messages.

Sent for the sole purpose!

lets look at the evidence....

working longer hours than normal
they know lots of details of your private life
they know lots of details of your working life

have you seen the message yourself? or could it be the mrs is making it up believing you may be having an affair and came up with the facebook ruse...?

if none of it is true there's not much you can do other than ride out the storm. if a lady has something in her head there's often not a lot you can do to convince otherwise

[Dave20046]

Originally Posted by krhall

No she gave me her facebook details and there was a messgae there from sarah smith.......the account was opened yesterday at 10:02 and the message was sent at 10:39, no details, no photos, no other messages.

Sent for the sole purpose!

**** it's going to be too much effort to trace who it is. It may just be a case of riding the storm and having a chat with ya wife

Although could still be your wife's efforts I suppose. Did you get paid for the overtime? It'll be on your pay check

[Mej]

Originally Posted by krhall

I got a phone call from my wife this morning, who was proper p***ed off.

Basically someone had messaged her in Facebook her stating I had had a string of affairs, which I have not.

There were a couple of points in there though:

1. They knew my wifes name, this isn't widely known though everyone who knows me knows I have a wife and 2 kids.
2. They knew and mentioned my bosses name.
3. They knew what kind of job I had, but also that I work extra hours every now and again. recently due to a webserver outage I have put in a hell of a lot of extra hours which makes me think whoever sent it knew about this.

Obviously as it has a few details in it, my wife is convinced that it is true and I have no way of persuading her otherwise, I just don't know what to do.

very similar thing happend to me and the missus via text and BEBO(before facebook was alive and kicking). I has a a crying GF on the phone and it took a fair bit of conversation to prove my innocence. God, If i ever found the person who did it . It really pis*ed me off ass i had literally done nothing. People that do stuff like this should be beaten.

To be honest unless you find the person who did it, which can prove tricky. Just ignore it, it is what i did in the end. Tell your wife to block the sender. I had to get the missus to change her number and everything.

[Viney]

Originally Posted by krhall

No she gave me her facebook details and there was a messgae there from sarah smith.......the account was opened yesterday at 10:02 and the message was sent at 10:39, no details, no photos, no other messages.

Sent for the sole purpose!

Ah ok then. Have you been approached by some young lady recently and you have given them a knock back, or is there a young lady that wants your affection but is not getting it? There are some psyscho hose beasts out there that do this kind of sh*t

As Mr D says, ride out the storm as always you are guitly until proven innocent with the fairer sex