Some help please

Been a bit on the rocks recently, I am having some serious worries about my girlfriend, most of you will know how much she means to me, some of you have even met her.

I haven't been seeing her recently because of my off, that alone has got to me.

I have been worried about her a lot, she's been having these funny turns, feeling faint, going dizzy and her sight blurring. I don't know if her folks know, but knowing her, they won't and she bottles it up. She gets a lot of panic attacks too. Now its fair enough that she doesn't want her parents to know things, but this sort of thing is serious and i'm the ****test boyfriend when these situations come to hand, and often when she has a panic attack, I don't know what to do or anything.

I'm no doctor, but that is pretty serious if all them things are going on at once.

I've spoken to her about it before, said she needs to see someone about it, she won't have it though. I think it is down to the fact i'm not compatable to go with her and take care of her.

Do I speak to her mum and dad? Does anybody know anyone who has panic attacks regularly and knows how to cope with it?

P.S. I've come here as I really have no-one I can talk to about this sort of thing.

i'm not medically trained or anything but I've got a close friend thats had panic attacks for a while. I won't go into the reasons but in the end counselling was the only thing that really started to help her. But its not a quick fix and she has to work at it. Definately helped though. I spent alot of time slowly trying to get her around to the idea of going to counselling though.

Hope you get everything sorted ok

I guess it's difficult for you to tell if you're not seeing her as much as you'd like but is she eating properly? Getting enough fluids? Not on some crazy diet or anything? I used to have times where I'd be too busy to get round to eating and I'd end up with dizzy spells.

Does she get migraine at all?

If she's not overly concerned about it then all you can do is try and persuade her she could do with getting checked out by the quacks (don't mention my avatar please...).

Originally Posted by missyorkie_chris

I guess it's difficult for you to tell if you're not seeing her as much as you'd like but is she eating properly? Getting enough fluids? Not on some crazy diet or anything? I used to have times where I'd be too busy to get round to eating and I'd end up with dizzy spells.

Does she get migraine at all?

Migranes - no
Eating - She's my missus, criteria is she has to eat well lol. But yeah she eats and drinks fine.

Originally Posted by plowsie

Migranes - no
Eating - She's my missus, criteria is she has to eat well lol. But yeah she eats and drinks fine.

Hmm well I hope more knowledgeable folks are along soon to help.

Medication isnt the answer, because as far as i know, the body gets used to it and gains a tollerance to it or even dependance.

The best thing is to convince her the anxiety is completely irrational and that she is scared of being scared, not that theres anything to actually be scared of.

Originally Posted by Magnum

Medication isnt the answer, because as far as i know, the body gets used to it and gains a tollerance to it or even dependance.

The best thing is to convince her the anxiety is completely irrational and that she is scared of being scared, not that theres anything to actually be scared of.

But this is much easier said than done. There is a cause to it all, somewhere - a feeling of not being good enough. Has she ever been bullied? School? Parents? A trained counsellor would tease this out. Ask at the GPs whether they have a counsellor who can help.

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I am not medically trained at all, but I would say that the best thing that you can do is go and see your doctor and tak through this with him/her. They will be able to assess the symptoms as you tell them and give you advice on how to broach the subject of going to the doctors/councelling etc.

If she won't entertain the thought of going for herself, just tell her how much you love her and that you are worried about her. Tell her that your worry is your problem not hers, but that you will feel a lot better if she can just go and see a doctor to put your mind at rest. Tell her you'll go with her (you'll be fine doing this if you've already spoken to a doctor about it yourself and don't worry about what to say). Say nothing, just be there with and for her.

I didn't want to have any form of counselling after a traumatic experience, but when I saw how worried my family were for me and how much of an effect my refusal to go was having, I decided to forget the doctors, but book myself in to see a private psychologist I was referred to by the police and it is one of the best things I have ever done. It's been a few years now and only went a few times, but what an amazing experience. Nothing has ever helped me as much.

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Originally Posted by plowsie

she's been having these funny turns, feeling faint, going dizzy and her sight blurring.

Does she wear specs? The reason I ask is she made need to get her eyes checked with the blurring she is having.

Feeling faint going dizzy and sight blurring definately needs to be looked further if not as soon as possible.

Do you have any trustworthy friends that you both know who could go with her to the doctors, or talk to her about your concerns?

She wears contacts and glasses for lazing about the house. Friendswise, she lives out in the sticks and since she has left school doesn't often see any of them, not any of them that she would trust with this sort of thing.