Guilt trip

Had an off recently if you didn't catch the thread...

Today my son says to me: daddy I don't want you to have a motorbike anymore.

When I asked why (he was more excited than me when I was looking for one) he replied : I don't want you to fall off again and hurt yourself, I don't like it when you get hurt.

I asked him when he thought about this, and he's been thinking about it in school and at night.

**** I had tears in my eyes. The look on his face said it all. He's only 4.

How could I have been so irresponsible to ride like I did to come off.

This will stay with me forever, and will no doubt change the way I ride...forever

The temptation will be too much, ofcourse you could stop riding?

[Stu]

All well and good if it sorts out your attitude to riding, but I hope you told him to do one (not quite sure what that means ) You have to enjoy living you life and can't be wrapped in cotton wool all the time.

Don't know whether it's fair to guilt people like that, even if it is coming from your young child. That's a toughie.

Looking on the positive side, you don't have to pack for a guilt trip!

He needs converting. You need to show him that motorcycling is exciting and fun. Take him to the Kiddie go-carts or similar and see if he enjoys it. If he does explain thats why Daddy rides a bike.

At the moment he sees the Bike as taking daddies attention and as every 4 year old knows HE is the centre of the universe and nothing should change that.

You can't live in a box of cotton wool all of your life. Biking is (relatively) dangerous and the danger increases the buisier the road and the further you lean over. (not how fast you go) so lean less and use quieter roads if you must.

Its education time! Show him what excitement is and he'll understand

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[dizzyblonde]

Its not a guilt trip your child is on. Its just hes so innocent and he loves his daddy very much. If you grimace in pain they know it hurts, they far from understand the aspect of crashing I can assure you.

I always say I'm a mum first and biker second. My love of riding is always going to be there. I have always ridden, my son knows no different. I fell off, he too didn't like me being hurt, but hes not an adult, so sees things different. He crashed into a slow driving taxi on Sunday, and found out the hard way of falling off a push bike. He got back on, and it'll be used to explain things when I next fall off..if ever again.

I love riding, but I don't and will not get pulled into the arguement of 'ooo you could brush up on your knee down, cornering blah blah blah bullcrap' off people who don't have kids. Until they have them they don't know how it controls your riding sometimes. Better to calm it down a bit and reallly enjoy what you have than nothing at all.

My bike is my selfish pleasure, and it will always stay that way, even if I have a kid on the way and I go round the block every now and again

[yorkie_chris]

Originally Posted by dizzyblonde

I love riding, but I don't and will not get pulled into the arguement of 'ooo you could brush up on your knee down, cornering blah blah blah bullcrap' off people who don't have kids.

Yes, just carry on riding exactly as you were when you crashed and make no effort to learn proper and safe roadcraft. Of course this will not lead to another accident, proper skills are completely worthless! But without children of course I wouldn't know anything about how to put a bike around a corner without going hedge surfing (4 year olds been well known physics teachers an all that...)

[timwilky]

Don't worry, let your kids know that riding a motorbike makes daddy happy. Daddy is going to play out now. Kids know they fall and hurt themselves when they play, it is no different when daddy plays out.

Of course, you have family responsibilities, but at the same time families have a responsibility to you. It is a balance thing. I put away childish things when I grew up. But as I went into my second childhood, the toys came out again.

Enjoy your bike, ride safe. and always be there to say good night, daddy had a nice day today

[dizzyblonde]

Originally Posted by yorkie_chris

Yes, just carry on riding exactly as you were when you crashed and make no effort to learn proper and safe roadcraft. Of course this will not lead to another accident, proper skills are completely worthless! But without children of course I wouldn't know anything about how to put a bike around a corner without going hedge surfing (4 year olds been well known physics teachers an all that...)

In other words Christopher I don't rise to the bait of going that extra silly billy moment, nothing to do with the skills you mention.
And you of all people have been told countless times, it was nothing to do with the fact that its was skills that let me down....it was the fact that I was going through a nervous breakdown, idiot! and speaking of idiot, I will always call myself one for even contemplating going out that day, its the thing that kicks me the most for being a stupid tw4t!
When and only when you have a child in your arms, will you know what the feeling is, and thoughts that you get in your head at times when you go off trotting down the road. They do occasionally creep in your mind, you have to learn to switch it off, or you'd never go out!
Simplez.

[yorkie_chris]

Hook, check.
Line, check.
Sinker... Sinker? ...Oh there you are, get your head out of the paste bucket and answer the register...

Your choice to make. You comparing one crash of your to one totally different.

Man has crashed on a corner and you telling me it is bad for him to brush up on his cornering. What damed fool logic is that.