women???

[svsam]

Now i want ya'll to be my agony aunts (and uncles)
Not very good apparently on the relationship scene.
i been with my girlfriend just over 3 years, i do love her very much!
She's a bit confused right now!
The story:
12 months ago she kissed another guy behind my back at her place of work, we resolved this, and carried on quiet appily into the summer.
about 2 months ago, she tells me she has feelings for another guy at her work, we talked about it, she just said she didnt know what she wanted, we took time appart, and finaly i said to her one night, its now or never kind of thing. And she decided we would carry on.
Today i find that she has secretly been texting this guy still, and this guy and all his mates are now after my address to kick me in apparently (im not a big guy, nor a fighter!)
did i mention she kissed this guy in our time appart, which hurt, that she took her time of thinking, with him.
She says she loves me, and i do beilieve her.
I asked her about these texts when she was at work, and told her that she's now caused these lads to want to kick my ass!
she just got very upset and cryed a lot.
I went back 2 hours later(to check she was okay), and this guys dad was in the shop, and says he's going to bend my nose across my face next time he catches me when he's not with his little lad. Great!
This is because i have apparently been annoying his son.(the one she has/had feeling for)
I know from this, it makes her sound like a really bad person, but she really isn't, she just confused.
Do any of you have any advice or tips?
Just dont know what to do really?
Thanks
sam

BIN it

[andrewsmith]

mate walk away!
It could get messy very quickly if not!

She has got no respect for you , and not proper love , more like a fondness and familiarity but not a lot more than that . Like a Monkey mate , not letting go of one branch before it grabs the other one , so fell that tree and let the Monkey drop .

[Bibio]

sounds like she is not truly happy with you but doesn't know how to break it as she still has feelings and is unsure of the unknown with the other guy.

if it were me i would tell her to bolt. life is far to short for bullshizz.

WTF has it got to do with some random blokes dad anyway. is he knocking her too?

your call though.

tell the bint to rock and roll-don't ever allow yourself to be treated like a doormat, once someone goes behind your back thats it, the trust has been betrayed-and buy a baseball bat

Walk away.

She can't have her cake and eat it. You gave her an escape route before and she didn't take it. I think for yours, and her, sake you should end it.

Absolutely bin it. She pushed her luck with the first kiss, lucky you took her back and she should be acting like an angel to make up for it. She seems to be doing the opposite, and getting involved with people who are clearly scum if they want to kick you in for what seems like no reason other than the fact that you're with her?!

A 'confused' girl usually doesn't work out too loyal, and she has a history of messing about. Leopards never change their spots. Do yourself a favour and get rid of her. Plenty more fish in the sea. You've spent 3 years which is a fair amount of time, but do you want to spend another 3 years on something that may likely come to nothing or cause you more hurt.

Sorry a bit direct, don't know you or your girlfriend, but from your post it's a no brainer. Good luck!!

To me , Love is where you care more for the other person than you do for yourself , does this apply to you from your viewpoint and the same from her viewpoint ?

You know the answer lad , and you have to make a decision , it may hurt , but sometimes you have to make difficult decisions for the better . And no matter how much they tell you they have changed afterwards , treat it with suspicion .

[Jayneflakes]

Have her peeled and dipped in a bucket of salt! Aunty Jayne always goes for the reasonable answer...