shell shocked and gob smacked.

[timwilky]

For the past week, I have been in denial. The wife had found a lump, seen here doctor who passed her on the the local hospital. They actually found a second lump and did biopsies. Left the poor girl with one extremely bruised breast. to the extent that they refused to carry out a mammogram.

Today she had to go back for a follow up and the postponed mammogram which was again refused due to the extreme bruising. However she has got her result. Both lumps are malignant tumours.

No options really discussed, she has been told the breast has to come off plus the lymph nodes under her right arm, followed by radio therapy and eventually a delayed reconstruction.

I knew a week ago that this was the likely outcome. I had just hoped for her sake that I was going to be wrong. She has been through hell since we married. A hysterectomy, Primary Biliary Cirrhosis, plus auto immune hepatitis. and now this bomb shell. If there is a god, he must be a cruel and vindictive *******.


So we are now waiting for her date. Told our son (Eldest daughter has known from the start) and arranging for other family to know. I make jokes and silly comments as otherwise I want to cry.

I just don't know what to do/say. I tell her I love her and will be with her through this. The worst part is her brother was told this weekend that his Chemotherapy has not worked and he is now terminal. We always told him we would be there to support him and if necessary he could spend his last days with us. Now she will be having to concentrate on her own health yet worry about her brother.

I don't know why I am posting this. Sat in the house alone, a bottle of wine drunk, feeling sad and just need to get it off my chest.

Originally Posted by timwilky

I tell her I love her and will be with her through this.

Your grumbling demeanour is all a front for your soft and warm-hearted nature.

I'm sure we all wish you, and especially Mrs TW, all the very best of fortune and we are thinking about you both.

[Lissa]

Tim, I am so very sorry to hear this. I know we've never met, and I know anything anyone can say is just words, but please accept my heartfelt sympathies to both you and your wife.

Jeez TW your family are really going through it at the moment. best wishes to all of you

Awful news Tim.
Best wishes for you and your family.

Thinkiing of you, Tim

Really sorry to hear about your wifes bad fortune, i send my sincere hopes that she has a full and speedy recovery.

[Biker Biggles]

I really hope this works out for you all.Good luck.

Very sorry to hear this Tim, our thoughts are with you at this difficult time.

[Wideboy]

sorry to hear this good luck