update on my little cousin

as a few of you know/will remember- few moths ago we found out my 13 year cousin is pregnant,
thought it was time for a update
The boyfriend is no longer on the scene (no suprises there!) , and best bit that you gotto laugh at is hes having councelling!!!

Shes been hospital a few times as baby stopped kicking/moving-turned out it had just turned round and was kicking her in the back
Its a little boy-no name yet.

Shes in hospital at mo with a catherter in as its squashing her bladder-leaving docs to thinks shes alot further along then they thought-as in shes only got 4 weeks to go , she doesnt seem to KNOW when it would have happened meaning it wasnt a "one off/first time accident"

she STILL doing the "if i shut my eyes/ears it'll go away/its not happening" and will sit round my nans with a cushion over her bump.

Find out 2moz (i think) if shes gonna have to have him by c-section , due to her age/size (shes tiny-about a size 8-10), if it is by c-section itl be general and epidural.

Bloody hell, good luck with all that. My cousin had a kid at 16 and she doesn't know the father's name to this day, and he's a wonderful little boy. She did the whole burying head in sand thing too and she snapped out of it. Hopefully it'll work out for her

another so called man who couldent stand up to his responsabilities glad that
things are going a bit better ,i did think about how things were getting on the other week , well lots of for the near future i hope it all goes well
paul

If you're gonna play football you gotta look after the pitch...or something like that.

What's he having counselling for? Sounds like it's better off that he's out of her life to be honest...

Originally Posted by Paws

Its a little boy-no name yet.

What about 'Tiger'?

Just a thought...

Blimey, its all go in PawsLand. Terrible situation for your cousin to be in, but then some of the responsibility does lie with her, and the rest lies with the boyfreind - who's a sod for clearing off. But then they are both young, and the looming responsibility is enough to make anyone want to run away at that age (dosn't make it right though)

I hope the little boy is brought into the world succesfully, and I wish him all the best and hope that he gets all the love and care an innocent newborn deserves, and hopefully he can be sheilded from any potential trouble concerning who-gets-what-access-when and stuff like that. Good luck to your cousin aswell for the birth; sounds like its gonna be very stressful for her.

Originally Posted by Tiger 55

What about 'Tiger'?

Just a thought...

is it yours then?

13...

Originally Posted by Paws

docs to thinks shes alot further along then they thought-as in shes only got 4 weeks to go , she doesnt seem to KNOW when it would have happened meaning it wasnt a "one off/first time accident"

she STILL doing the "if i shut my eyes/ears it'll go away/its not happening" and will sit round my nans with a cushion over her bump.

Whilst not being her first time, this is definately the first time an accident has happened. Perhaps it's because I'm outside the situation, but the stuff that's happened has happened. Aint no point crying over spilt milk etc.

As for the Ostrich Effect, generally speaking, the moment a new mother sees her first born for the very first time, is a revolutionary life changing moment. Many a first time mother suddenly realises the situation, and acts accordingly. Hopefully this will be the case here.

The father (note "father" not "dad")? Maybe he needs a chat with K. Her solution to most things seems appropriate.

Originally Posted by muffles

Sounds like it's better off that he's out of her life to be honest...

For the initial situation, certainly. However, if he's not around later on, it will undoubtedly have a massive impact on the little lad. All anyone can do for this is to support the mother, as undoubtedly questions will arise such as "Who is my dad?" and "Why aren't you & my dad together anymore?" and I wouldn't be supprised if "Were you planning to have me, or was it an accident?" or worse still came up. Non of those questions are easy for any parent to answer - regardless of age.

Well, I feel that I may have a unique take on this one...

My mum had me at 14, with the love and support of her parents she raised me without the help of a father figure into the guy you all know and love today...

Now I'm not saying it wasn't without it's difficulties, and it may be that the kid turns out just like me*, so warn her about that, but it may be OK in the long run.





*A key sign of this will be if it's first words are "Mmmmmm... Boobs..."