Is it ok

No it's not right but.... can it be seen as a cry for help?
If one party is seeking out something they are not getting from their relationship then rather than having an affair attempts should be made to change the relationship, or end it.

Interesting thread!

I don't think it's right and I'm sure many people who do it think it's not right too. But I can imagine certain people just can't help themselves. For one reason or another they do it whether for the thrill or because they have genuinely fallen for more than one person. But that begs the question 'Can you really love more than one person at a time?'
In other cultures men can have more than one wife, I wonder how the wives feel knowing that their husband is sleeping with someone else that night. At the end of the day it's all about what we have been brought up to believe.

Is it chuff right. You decide to make a commitment you're supposed to stick by it, if you're gonna mess people's feelings about then you are not only utterly disrespectful but extremely ungrateful, if a person decides to trust you why throw it back in their faces? (Gees am on a right rant-athon this eve, sorry folks! )

Window-shopping however is fine, can look but can't touch/grope/sleep with

Originally Posted by missyorkie_chris

Window-shopping however is fine, can look but can't touch

I was quite surprised when my lady said this to me
Just as well like.

I think its fine....to be honest. Especially if I have a chance with you, Gid.

[northwind]

There's 3 sides to affairs isn't there, there's the physical, there's the emotional, but most important is the betrayal. To me the sexual/monogamous side isn't that important, never has been, but trust is everything. An open relationship with honesty is IMO a far better way to live than a theoretically monogamous relationship with dishonesty. I've got no beef with an open dalliance, I've been there and done that both ways, but lie to me and there's a problem (and if I was lying to someone like this, i think that'd probably mean it wasn't working anyway)

Originally Posted by Blue_SV650S

I don't see tigers* grumbling about it or asking permission ...

But then you don't often see humans disembowelling giraffes.

[Jayneflakes]

Both Carol and I think that cheating is wrong.

I have been in a relationship with a married man and it made me feel cheap and worthless. Sadly, I was very young and fell for the worst line ever, "My wife does not understand me and we are just friends these days." Sadly it turned out to be lies and i caught him lying to me too.

Cheats find it hard to be honest with their loved ones and probably themselves. Multiple partnerships and polygamy are completely different to cheating though. Cheating by it's very nature includes deceit of at least one person.

I have friends who lead a polygamous life style and I have seen one relationship between four people fall apart due to lust and jealousy.

This is just my view though and although I am prepared to engage in discussion, I still stand by what I feel in my heart. Cheating is wrong.

Originally Posted by gid

To have an affair if the other half doesnt ,and will never know?

No, never...

Besides how would you know they would never find out, my mrs' knows things about me that I have never told her.

Cheating is cheating, it doesn't matter if the other partner consents or not, or knows or not.

The last time I was unfaithful to any girlfriend or my ex-wife I was 21 - it's far more acceptable to stay single and play the field.

Originally Posted by Blue_SV650S

We are all aware it is possible for a man to love more than one of his children isn't it? ... what is the difference between that sort of love and love between partners?

You're not a parent, that much is glaringly obvious.

You're on about a very very different kind of love.