Malicious Facebook Message - What to do?

The most important people here are you and your wife.

I would not reply to the facebook message, I would report it to facebook, then delete it. You don't want the person who sent it to know you are rattled (or similarly that you are not rattled - this could spark more messages trying to destroy what you and your wife have).

Go home and be with your wife and talk to her. You have done nothing wrong and have nothing to hide so she should come round and realise you are telling the truth. If she wants "proof" that you've been working longer hours etc, then perhaps your boss can clarify? However you don't want to risk falling into a situation where you have to constantly "prove" your whereabouts etc to your wife because that will not be healthy.

Now, the matter of working out who the heck is responsible....that could be anyone. A co-worker, an ex-girlfriend (an ex-boyfriend of your wife), an angry friend, a mutual friend who is jelous of what you and your wife have, possibly a peeved family member?...the list can be pretty endless. However, if so few people know the details that this person mentioned, perhaps that can narrow it down a bit.

My mum used to get malicious phone calls from a woman who claimed my dad was having an affair. She knew his name, my mums name, my dads working location and hours...details that only somone close by would know. This naturally made my mum freak out big time but they (my parents) worked through it. A few months later, My dads friend split up with his biatch of a wife and the calls stopped..

I really hope you work this out with your wife, there truly are some horrible people around who get pleasure in destroying relationships

Maria

Feel terrible for you mate- some people have bad intentions and too much time on their hands. Hope it all works out ok

home safe.

Originally Posted by krhall

home safe.

Good man, now spend time with the family.

difficult one- best thing is ignore it- move on !..


but they are cowards whoever they are..

Originally Posted by krhall

...If it were me though I would be the same if not worse than she is being...

Not meaning to put you down or anything but it sounds like the trust has disappeared out of your relationship mate...hope it works itself out.

relax watch tv forget obviously someone with a **** sense of humour thinking their funny means sod all.

Originally Posted by Dave20046

hmmm , does that give you any hints as to who it may be?

Absolutely but how to prove it. Just spoke to my sister and they added each other as friends about 3 weeks ago. So if they were waiting to get at me she presented them with a perfect opportunity didn't she?

My sister hasn't exactly got a common name either.

[yorkie_chris]

Originally Posted by krhall

Absolutely but how to prove it.

Your missus sets up a hotmail account, asks whatever "her" name was to email her there. Then if they are stupid they will email from a known address, if not then perhaps one of the resident geeks could get some info about the IP used etc.

That's why I hate these sites- all to easy for some scrote or ****ed off person to try and screw you over. I'm sure your wife will beieve you though, hope it works out.