Things people say when drunk

Alcohol reduces your inhibitions. I'd be narked too, unless I got an honest apology very soon then bye bye.

It's a near neighbour who does some housekeeping for us. It was getting a bit pricey so we decided to cut down. It didn't go down well, and the call to say 'please don't do so much next week' turned into a 'your house is filthy, your bathroom is like crap, and you live like slobs' outburst.

This morning, she denied she's said it. Claimed it was all meant well and she was hurt that we were offended.

Think we'll have to pay a visit to clear the air.

You guys are all an unforgiving lot!

Yeah it's not an excuse but it's not like we haven't all fallen victim to alcohol before and done silly things. I don't think alcohol makes you speak the truth one bit! You may lose some inhibitions after a few beers but if you're tanked you talk all kinds of nonsense! Sounds like the alcohol made her aggressive (there's a suprprise!) and she got carried away; I doubt she meant it at all.

Playing Devil's advocate here for a moment Ed - I've sort of been in your friend's position a few years back, said something I shouldn't have done when drunk (and instantly regretted it). Things were very awkward between myself and this person for months afterwards but we did talk about it and sort it out, and now we're better friends than we ever were.

Obviously it depends how close you were to begin with to your friend and only you can know just how hurtful the comments were, but don't be hasty & write them off straightaway unless you're sure the friendship isn't worth keeping, you might regret it afterwards.

EDIT just seen your reply while I was writing this...

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This morning, she denied she's said it. Claimed it was all meant well and she was hurt that we were offended.

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That's a crap getting of jail free card made to make you feel guilty for bringing it up. She made the comments she must stand by what she said, alcohol is no excuse in my book. She shouldn't hide behind excuses. She should Man up and take responsibilty for her actions.

Stuff like this annoys me! I had a ex-friend who was the nicest man on earth and wouldn't hurt a fly. When he drank he was Dr Jeckyll ( Or Hide ) and upset everyone by hurtful comments then pleaded ignorance after.

So one night I slotted him, I said I didn't remember as I had too much tea that day! Needless to say we are no longer acquitances.

Originally Posted by Ed

It's a near neighbour who does some housekeeping for us. It was getting a bit pricey so we decided to cut down. It didn't go down well, and the call to say 'please don't do so much next week' turned into a 'your house is filthy, your bathroom is like crap, and you live like slobs' outburst.

This morning, she denied she's said it. Claimed it was all meant well and she was hurt that we were offended.

Think we'll have to pay a visit to clear the air.

Ok, if this were a TV phone in vote I'd now be a little more tempted to phone the "text this number if you think Ed should give her a break and forget it happened".

Ok, was she an employee first and a friend second or the other way round? You have your own firm Ed, you should know that there is an employer hat and a friend hat, and you have to be very careful not to confuse the two. You have that experience and wisdom to do that, it's definitely the hardest trick to pull off in management. Your friend may well not. Standing in the employee's shoes they may well have not heard "look I'm really sorry but we're having to cut back on expenses a bit" but "we don't think you're doing a very good job so we're cutting your hours". Her financial position may be such that she's depending on that work which may explain some bitterness and mis-interpretation - not that this should concern you, as I've said, seperating the employer hat from the friend hat is hard, but it may offer an explanation.

Anyway, the nature of her work does offer some insight into these intriguing broken confidences. I was right wasn't I? She does know where you hid the bodies! Are they under the patio?

Originally Posted by MiniMatt

Anyway, the nature of her work does offer some insight into these intriguing broken confidences. I was right wasn't I? She does know where you hid the bodies! Are they under the patio?

They're under the conservatory with a few feet of concrete on top

All's well...

Kissed & made up. Apology offered and accepted

I'm glad I challenged behaviour I didn't like.