Is blood thicker than water

More hassle than there worth at times, not spoken to my sister in 8 years, nothing but an evil twisted drunken ol cow, not spoken to my mother in 4 years, again all because of my sister.

I just look out for my kids and myself, bo!!ox to the rest of them.

[anna]

the thing with families whether you love them or you hate them is that you are always going to be bound to them in some way shape or form. Even if you dont get along and have separated yourself from them for what ever reason you are still going to be emotionally tied to them because most of us have grown up with them and spending that amount of time with anyone will ensure that you are bonded to them.

..just my 2p worth

[arc123]

Having read this thread, it appears that 'somebody else' (brother/mother/father) is always the pain in the backside and the person(s) at fault. Oh how perfect we all are

Originally Posted by CoolGirl

Nope. Which is why I choose to distance myself as far as reasonably possible. After nearly 40 years, they're finally getting the message....

Ooh, sounds like me and my family. The only family I want to be around are the ones I created or inherited by choice (my kids)

despite all the troubles they bring, and all the grief, i would still rather have them to bitch about than them not be here...

I have some serious axes to grind with my mums brothers well two of the three but thats nto to be aired here as it will get messy...

My family isn't so bad anymore. My parents split, life has been a lot simpler. Actually, my mothers current BF is younger than me, that isn't nice.

GF, well, lets not even go there with her family.

I used to help with kids that had been abused by their families (in different ways), and were on a programme to help them recover.

What i guess im trying to say is most families are a real pain in the aris, its just always behined closed doors. That friendly happy family next door, well one of them could murder the rest, you never really know.

How to deal with?
Well, GF's older brother, we simply don't talk to him, he is a sponge and an idiot. The younger brother is going the same way, but there is more hope. She just doesn't bother speaking to them.

My mothers family is from the north, they are much closer up north I think. When they come down they always moan about how no-one is sat in their gardens talking and chatting, (no-one comes out unless its to their cars or something).

So you either have 3 options.
Take the crap families give you, be miserable for it.
Ignore yoiur family completly, move on, move away, live your own life.
Ignore x members of family, and speak to the others, although this will still always cause you problems as the member you speak to will always moan about the others, so your not getting away.

Familes, don't you love them.........

As you can tell, my particular family wasn't all that close and I don't feel I should be extra close to them just to make them happy and fit in with what they expect.

You can pick your friends but not your family and very often least said is soonest mended,being one with severe teeth marks in their tongue but a modicum of discreation as to others points of view goes a long way to harmonious relationships be it wives brothers, sisters or parents,but especially your kids. None of us is perfect

The thing I like about my family,(and they are not actually my "blood" family) is that they really do live and let live. There has never to my knowledge ever been a family bust up or squabbles between siblings. All that from a group of people who had a father who was no role model at all.

However my ex's family I found to be amazing. Totally disfunctional with constant fall outs and sibling rivalry even from people who are now in their 60's. Truth hardly ever prevails amongst them and they are all handicapped by such a blinkered and judgemental outlook on life that at times one really wonders do they possess any intelligence at all.

Originally Posted by Pedrosa

However my ex's family I found to be amazing. Totally disfunctional with constant fall outs and sibling rivalry even from people who are now in their 30's. Truth hardly ever prevails amongst them and they are all handicapped by such a blinkered and judgemental outlook on life that at times one really wonders do they possess any intelligence at all.

You know my GF's brothers????

Well thank goodness for that, I'm not alone! Sister and I don't get on, nothing in common, everytime I see her she has to be nasty and underhand with me, usually ends up with me hitting back, so I'm then the one that gets in trouble.
Would be happy never to have to speak to her again.

Lou x