EX fella that just wont go away..

Originally Posted by gettin2dizzy

they're all talk.

Not always G2D, It is so easy to come home at the weekend miles from where you live give someone a kicking with a group of your felow soldiers and disapear again within hours.

The Soldiers will close ranks and not grass, it will be nigh on impssible to prove otherwise if its done properly.

The army looks after its own quite well.

I think you should tap that booty...

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Originally Posted by lylej

so what your saying is, because people have small minds and nothing better to do but gossip.. im only allowed male friends without hasstle???

Nope I'm sayin that in a similar situation, where if you had just returned home from working away and people were telling you that your girlfriend had been getting it on with someone else......how would you feel.

If lots of people are telling him something, be it just gossip, how is he going to know whats the truth and what isnt....until he finds it out he is going to be an angry son of a bitch, and can you blame him?

I agree with Fizz to an extent its her problem let her sort it out and then if he continues to hassle her - SHE should write the letter to the CO complaining about him.

and I also agree with Fizz about staying calm and explaining the situation if he harasses you - contact the police

Thats what i would do

Originally Posted by graemepaterson

Nope I'm sayin that in a similar situation, where if you had just returned home from working away and people were telling you that your girlfriend had been getting it on with someone else......how would you feel.

If lots of people are telling him something, be it just gossip, how is he going to know whats the truth and what isnt....until he finds it out he is going to be an angry son of a bitch, and can you blame him?

see what your saying.. but he has asked her several times.. "is something going on?" but he cant seem to accept no as the answer he needs to grow up...

as for the soldiers.. well they are really not that organised.. i know him and his family.. everyone from my town that serves with him.. and even one soldier.. that really shouldnt be at home right now if you catch my drift...

Are the still an item?

If not why have they broken up?

Originally Posted by lylej

.. and even one soldier.. that really shouldnt be at home right now if you catch my drift...

Well contact the police, they will hand him over to the RMP's .AWOL


AS i said if you find out his Base and regiment i can get you the Address for the CO if she wants to write a letter.

Originally Posted by DanDare

Are the still an item?

If not why have they broken up?

they broke up because when they first got together back in march time he broke it off and got with a friend of hers.. then begged her to take him back which she did.. two months later he is telling her he loves her and the like and she just cant be doing with it.. now hes just acting like a child.. all of her friends say to give him another chance because he can give her everything??? i assume they mean stuff as apose to support..

Originally Posted by fizzwheel

She needs to clearly tell him to stop phoning and harrassing her, and then she needs to stop answering his phone calls and responding to him.

+1. She needs to do her best to ignore him, he's clearly just bitter that you get to spend time with her and he physically can't as he's away. Don't blame him in a way, can't be easy.

If he's actually managing to turn her friends against her then she needs to seriously rethink who her real friends are, no mates of mine would listen to a bloke without hearing it from me first (I'd like to think anyway ). He's just a trouble-maker and a sh!t-stirrer, this writing a letter business sounds a good idea, you can help more by pointing your friend in the right direction and letting others deal with the problem.

More Jeremy Kyle eh? Who needs a telly when you've got the .org

All you can do is be an emotional support for her.
It's her problem that she will need to deal with herself. Forcing yourself into the issue won't do you any favours, and she could possibly resent you for it.
Just be prepared to give good advice when she asks for it and help her out where needed.