ADD/ADHD does anyone have it or know much about it?

baph my son is also suffering form dyspraxia and autistic tendencies and well when i first started to read these posts i was getting angry but you have said what i wanted to say aiden my son doesn't get bullied but hasn't many friends due to lack of speech. I hate people that claim they have a disability when really they haven't it winds me up so much but we also make sure aiden doesn't hide behind his problems

Originally Posted by mrsgid

I hate people that claim they have a disability when really they haven't it winds me up so much but we also make sure aiden doesn't hide behind his problems

That seems to be a common trait among those who actually have to deal with a disibility.

It's because of the emotions raised by those that claim to have a disibility, but are only using it as an excuse to be lazy, that I appreaciate where people like Bear/Yorkie_Chris are coming from. It's unfortunate but true that those people cause a vast array of disibilities to be viewed in a negitive light - especially mental disibilities.

The .Org actually helped quite a lot in the past when my son was first diagnosed with DAMP. So if you and/or gid want to rant about the state of the education/health system, feel free to drop me a PM, as we have to deal with it on a daily basis as well but I suppose on balance we're quite lucky. I'm not sure if that'll change when he moves up to high school, but we'll cross that bridge when we get to it.

my son as i have said somewhere else is coming up to six but his mental age is more like 21 months as we have a 21 month old and they are similar but i think the docs have said his mental age is more of a 2 yr old we are hoping that he can stay on at his school now till yr 6 and then go to a special school before he goes to big school as i don;t think he will manage it but aiden isn't even statmented yet so we have to do that yet the specialists i am not liking at the moment are the speech therapists and aiden disability team who because i went to a webster stratton course told me that they weren't coming round anymore and now we need them i have been told we are on a waiting liswt

[dizzyblonde]

I can understand YC's rant, as there is a kid over the road that is supposedly an ADHD sufferer..but if you look at what his mother does with him(or not) then you wonder why he is an attention seeking little shIIt that trashes everything, doesn't go to school, and is a general disruption to others....
Funnily there was another family that lived over the road that had three sons, that were supposedly ADHD again as you watched em grow up and turn 15, 16 etc they obviously needed discipline rather than a label, as every time they did anything wrong( which usually involved the plod) the line'oh hes got ADHD' was used

However, my best mate lives in France, her son I think has Dyspraxia. Rory is now 13, but still has the learning age of about 6. My own sons learning is overtaking his now, when my son is over there Rory loves it as (in his mind) he has someone his own age to play with. Rory is an absolutley marvellous lad, and his talent for drawing in perspection is superb. On the outside you'd think he was any normal 13 yr old, and as we all say Rory is as well Rory is. Hes well mannered( most of the time) but when hes having a frustrated day hes not nice, but hey what would you feel like being trapped like that!! Hes in a special school over there, as he was over here. My mate had rest bite care over here too, but they don't do it over there.

sticking labels on badly parented kids, just makes life more difficult for those that have genuine problems with their kids.
Get rid of the naany state rules, where all parents can discipline their kids without them threatening to have you arrested for assault etc and I think that most ADHD diagnosis would vanish....because all bad kids would get a good hiding from their mums n dads

Originally Posted by dizzyblonde

I can understand YC's rant, as there is a kid over the road that is supposedly an ADHD sufferer..but if you look at what his mother does with him(or not) then you wonder why he is an attention seeking little shIIt that trashes everything, doesn't go to school, and is a general disruption to others....
Funnily there was another family that lived over the road that had three sons, that were supposedly ADHD again as you watched em grow up and turn 15, 16 etc they obviously needed discipline rather than a label, as every time they did anything wrong( which usually involved the plod) the line'oh hes got ADHD' was used

However, my best mate lives in France, her son I think has Dyspraxia. Rory is now 13, but still has the learning age of about 6. My own sons learning is overtaking his now, when my son is over there Rory loves it as (in his mind) he has someone his own age to play with. Rory is an absolutley marvellous lad, and his talent for drawing in perspection is superb. On the outside you'd think he was any normal 13 yr old, and as we all say Rory is as well Rory is. Hes well mannered( most of the time) but when hes having a frustrated day hes not nice, but hey what would you feel like being trapped like that!! Hes in a special school over there, as he was over here. My mate had rest bite care over here too, but they don't do it over there.

sticking labels on badly parented kids, just makes life more difficult for those that have genuine problems with their kids.
Get rid of the naany state rules, where all parents can discipline their kids without them threatening to have you arrested for assault etc and I think that most ADHD diagnosis would vanish....because all bad kids would get a good hiding from their mums n dads

my points exactly my little boy looks like a six year old but inside he ain't and it is so frustrating to watch for me and his dad so i don't know what it is like for him but he is a wizz with computers and we love him but he can also be very nasty and aggressive

Originally Posted by mrsgid

it is so frustrating to watch for me and his dad so i don't know what it is like for him but he is a wizz with computers and we love him but he can also be very nasty and aggressive

Similar in our case, James will often type out his homework in vi (geeks will understand that for a 9 year old of any ability, that's quite an achievement).

He also tends to implode rather than explode emotionally, taking it out on himself rather than others.

Originally Posted by Baph

Similar in our case, James will often type out his homework in vi (geeks will understand that for a 9 year old of any ability, that's quite an achievement).

He also tends to implode rather than explode emotionally, taking it out on himself rather than others.

my little man lets it out on me by hitting and throwing things

Originally Posted by mrsgid

my little man lets it out on me by hitting and throwing things

I rekcon that'd be better than self-harming, well, if I were in your position, not my missus.

See what a can of worms you've opened svracer12!!

[SoulKiss]

Originally Posted by Baph

Similar in our case, James will often type out his homework in vi (geeks will understand that for a 9 year old of any ability, that's quite an achievement).

He also tends to implode rather than explode emotionally, taking it out on himself rather than others.

YAY!!!!!!

Tho I figure being autistic probably HELPs when it comes to using VI....................

Originally Posted by SoulKiss

YAY!!!!!!

Tho I figure being autistic probably HELPs when it comes to using VI....................

OI! There shall be none of that flame war here thank you very much. Stick to the subject.

Kid types homework in vi, how cool is that!

Anyway, please continue on the subject folks.