Goodbye to the Triumph

Hi mate, sorry to impose on whats a very private and therefore personal thread but have been there/seen it/done it etc a few years back

Had more or less the same problem re the debts with my ex wife and the biggest issue for me was why did she feel that she could not talk to me about it, same as your wife, why does she feel the need to hide it from you, is there something deeper underlying ?

Thats what worried me more when it happened to me, would rather she had told me about it since you can then meet the problem face on instead of her hoping that it would go away !

Anyway, all the best mate, hope it all works out for you, especially with the proposed family as having brought up 3 of the little critturs , it does cost you plenty but having said that, they are worth every penny and would'nt change a thing.

Keep the bike, there's usually always a way found to accomodate both (the debts & bikes).

cheers

Originally Posted by Kate

Also possibly to do with bags too. Good question, what about her SV?

Well her SV is actually my old one so if the Trumpet goes I'm claiming that back as I can't face going back to public transport. Thought about selling the SV but it's a W reg so won't get much for it. Plus my plan was to turn it into a track day bike.

She's most likely hidden it from me as I've been very stressed with work over the last 8 months or so working 6 or 7 days a week.

Thanks for the words of encouragment.

[fizzwheel]

sorry to hear about this.

Sounds like its time to have a nice calm quiet chat with your wife, and then talk together about how you sort all this out.

Do you own your own home ? if so then perhaps look at remortgaging to free up some equity and then use that to pay off all the debts. I've been looking at this as a way of funding my next bike and it works out at a pretty reasonable sum each month.

Apologies if you've already thought of this or its not possible for you.

Hope you get it sorted and find a way to keep your bike. Best of luck.

so you work 6 to 7 days a week, I assume pulling in as much cash as you physically can, and logically you cant be earning insane money if you are selling your bike to pay off the debts.

and she's hiding quite catastrophic bills from you

and dude, debt is an evil thing, so no be calling yourself a stress monkey on it, it wholely justifies the worry.



hmmm

sell the wife

[jambo]

Some people are not good with money, this is not necessarily a problem but you need to find out:
1) How much debt in total is now outstanding (No point taking action to cover the ones you've found and then later discover there's "just the capital one card I use for emergancies" with a grand on it)
2) Find out what it has been spent on
3) Work out a reaslistic way of stopping the money hemmoraging and work out why it's being spent. If you're working 7 days a week and she's at home bored as hell and just can't help but wander out for some retail therapy you need to look at that.

Best of luck mate, I won't say don't sell the bike (But I'd be deeply ****ed if I was in your shoes) but I will say make absolutly sure it will help sort the problems out long term, and you're not going to be right back here in 10 months looking for something else to sell to keep the bayliffs off the doorstep. That sort of lack of trust can break up a relationship and you don't want to end up selling everything that's important to you and then splitting up anyway.