For Sale: One Teenage Son......

haven't got any daughters have you?

Originally Posted by weazelz

haven't got any daughters have you?

*wanders off, looking for headache pills*

Originally Posted by weazelz

haven't got any daughters have you?

No thank God !!


I know I have been generous, but I've been in a position to be so. My wife and I both come from large "working class" families but I have always said that "my children will have what we never could". He's a good kid, don't get me wrong, he's never been in any trouble, walks away from conflict etc, but he's also a sterotype for a modern teenager. If he puts it off it will go away... Well this afternoon I told him of HIS problem, and that he will be paying me back.

He pays 50% of his driving lessons now, we paid for the first block of 10 as his Birthday present. I have a mate who runs a driving school and he did us a deal at £20 each (which is very good down this way).

He's just told his Girlfriend that he won't be over tonight as he hasn't got his bike - Her mum's dropping her off later - lucky git.

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Jestler, at this point, I'd consider a part-exchange

Originally Posted by Baph

Jestler, at this point, I'd consider a part-exchange

Mate, I already have one woman in the house, I don't need more..... 2 headaches are worse than one I reckon

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Pfff be nice to have a dad that paid for everything....

I had to pay for everything myself, my lessons, my test, my first car, my bike license, bike etc...

And my dad used to RACE the damn things...... I was not happy.


Personnally, kids need to learn. They think they know all, so let them sort it all. Bike broken, ok, time for you to pay for it then kiddo... Got to learn sometime money managment...

Originally Posted by Daimo

Pfff be nice to have a dad that paid for everything....

I had to pay for everything myself, my lessons, my test, my first car, my bike license, bike etc...

And my dad used to RACE the damn things...... I was not happy.


Personnally, kids need to learn. They think they know all, so let them sort it all. Bike broken, ok, time for you to pay for it then kiddo... Got to learn sometime money managment...

My sentiments EXACTLY!

Reading through the posts I would say I come from a completely different background.

I'm now 25 and have graduated from uni with a Bachelors and a Masters. Both paid by my parents and have been working for the past 3 years with quite a steep progress in the market.

While I was growing up and up to the age of 18 - when I left school and home to come to study - all my expenses were paid by my parents. Saying that I have been helping them as much as I can in their businesses and still do when I visit them even though these are my holidays.

My approach to the problem you have with your son is

1) Take the scooter off him. He obviously doesn't care about it, doesn't want to take responsibility to look after it.

2) With regards to being the taxi - you don't have to! Tell him to catch the bus or find his own way back home. If you are not satisfied in terms of him find a secure way back home then he doesn't go out!

3) Don't let your kid get in massive amounts of debt and assist him as much as poss to go to uni and study and possibly find a good job.

My plans to repay my parents in terms of money do not really exist. I will never be able to raise funds to repay them and support any family I might have.

BUT I have stopped asking them for support financially and I encourage them to stop working and retire and enjoy life. When they grow really old then I will try and repay them by making sure I look after them as best as poss. If that means I then have to give them money because their savings are not enough then so be it....I will do it and find a way of doing.

Kids need to understand and appreciate certain things. Revenge is not always the solution

BTW I'm greek hence the approach to things. Different culture I would put it down to

I prescribe a good clip around the ear. What my dad did for me!

Um, I dont need a teenager, having just stopped being one myself...

And at elast at uni, he;s outta your hair. If he gets a loan, the full loan, you wont have to give him much to make sure he;s alright. I survive on £6800 a year loan + £100 a month from my parents, which they figure is what they spend on food a month for me anyway.

Matt

[EDIT] oh yea, it does sound like he;s taking you for granted. Make him pay you back every penny; My dad has been kind to me, he let me use his scooter, but i had to pay petrol and insurance for myself. I had to buy my own SV and although he used his card to pay for all the bits (restriction, chain etc) i gotta pay him back for that too. He dosnt mind as long as i dont take the p**s, and i know that if i did i wouldnt get stuff done for me.

If i treated my old man the way your son treats you, I wouldnt get anything done for me!!

Make him learn the meaning of money, respect and gratitude!

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Originally Posted by Jelster

Mate, I already have one woman in the house, I don't need more..... 2 headaches are worse than one I reckon

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Hope you checked for the proximity of Ping before typing this - she'll have your nads for baubles...and mine too now!!



*makes full sail, weighs anchor and catches a steady breeze - makes for distant horizon*!!