What are your defining moments?

I can't believe that meeting me was not anyones defining moment, after all I am a defining moment in anyones life.

Let me see...

My most defining moments in my life, regardless of there positivenesses or negativeness that have made me the man I am today are -

Mental breakdown at about 17, after years for physical and mental abuses through school. I know life at school can be hard for some people.

Death of my fiancée at the age of 21 after being together for 3 years, she unfortunately took her own life. Took what must be a good 4 years to get over it all any try to even think about a relationship again.

Meeting and marrying Jax, she bought me out of my single man, slightly odd little shell and help mold me into the very out going odd little hairy man I am now. So we got to keep the odd atleast.

Becoming a father of PJ, it made me a Dad, a real Dad who has feelings he never realised he could, and emotions that he though he no longer had.

Chronologically:

1. Meeting George Best when I was with my dad at his godmother's house. George said "Hi Allan (my dad's name), and who's this little chap?!"

My dad's godmother was Mary Fullaway, George's landlady

2. Knocking seven different types of poo out of kid at school who was bullying me. Didn't happen again to me or any of my mates

3. Leaving home for Uni.

4. Meeting the young lady who because Mrs V.

5. Falling out with my dad and not speaking to him for more than 5 years. He died before I could put it right. I will regret this for the rest of my life.

6. The birth of my boys, first one because he was the first and second one because I delivered him myself at home in unforeseen circumstances. Amazing and scary at the same time.

7. Getting a motorbike

surviving abusive relationship

joining WRNS and learning to shoot

having my kids and us all surviving my divorce

realising that money does not buy happiness and deciding to ensure rest of my life involves happiness

easy peasy, wedding day, and the births of my 2 children. on each occasion my life changed immensely, bugger.

[Supervox]

Congrats mate - I would rate this as probably the best thread in my time here on The Org.

Anyway here goes :-

The birth of the twins (Alex & Jordan) - this was the first time I actually thought - "Christ ! Now I've got to be a grown-up !!"

Although I can't nail it down to a moment, one the biggest defining aspects of my life that definitely shaped the way I am today was the way that my parents supported my twists & turns of career choices during my teens & early twenties - no matter what I wanted to do they supported me & helped me as much as they could - I only hope that I can do the same for our boys - a very tough act to follow.

Finally accepting what various people had been telling me & my parents for some time - that I had (have [?]) a temper problem - once I did accept it I was able to start working to control it - if I hadn't God knows where I'd be today.

[Lissa]

Passing the 11+ and winning a scholarship to a private school. It helped me learn very early in life that just because someone has more money than you it doesn't make them better than you.

Losing my brother.

Meeting Pete. He puts both the miles and the smiles into my life.

[Messie]

I was raped when I was 16. Told no-one and was very scared so ended up going through a very late and lonely abortion. Has left a bit of a lasting effect on me

Then having my daughter whilst still a teenager - by choice . But then when her equally young father disappeared knowing that this small person's whole future was down to me and me alone. Wonderful and scary and made me very grown up.

Getting myself into University at age 23 after leaving school at 16 and being thrown out of college for not attending (see point 1) and getting my degree. Finally feeling proud of myself

When I got the phone call that my fiancee had killed himself. I've never been kicked in the stomach by a buffalo but I think I knew then what it would feel like. And despite looking and looking I've never found anyone as special as my gorgeous George was.

Then I got back on a bike after 22 years and some of you know the rest

[northwind]

Four for me...

Getting my CBT and first bike- sounds soft but it really did change my life- start of a new hobby, start of a new obsession in fact.

Meeting my ex, who even though we're not together any more really did a lot to make me the person I am and to pull my head out of my a**e.

Breaking my hip- another real life changer, taught me a bit of perspective and patience and general acceptance, but also pretty much took a year out of my life and changed things a lot in all sorts of bad ways, knocked me into a bout of depression the likes of which I hope I never see again, cost me a lot. I'd been down before but never so bad. It's, what, 3 years on and I'm still not really "better" in some ways.

And lastly, this one's weird, but watching the Freddie Mercury Tribute Concert from Wembley... Watching Metallica open it was incredible, I'd never even listened to music much before that day, but it sewed the seeds and now, music's probably the most important thing in my life after family and friends. I'd choose music before biking, without a second's thought.

Crackin' thread TM! I've not lived as long as most on here so this is a little harder for me!

1. I think this has to be being born into a family that has given me limitless freedom. I believe this has taught me a great deal of respect and responsibility.
2. My grandfather, and hero, dying when I was 7. I miss him to this day.
3. Being personaly tutored by a member of the pastoral department in my school. She ultimately taught me how to overcome a terrible anger problem and get me back on track in time for my GCSEs.
4. Realising who my friends are.

There's more but as you've said three and I've already taken four, it'd be a bit cheeky to have another!

Alex

[dizzyblonde]

Dylan, the miracle who is my son. After a couple of miscarriages, and him deciding he wanted to appear at 26 weeks, and putting me under a lot of stress, because I could have easily have lost another at that time of pregnancy, he decided to change his mind and come out 8 days after his due date, at 3 in the morning.

Im Indoors, the git who was my best friend,who decided to turn my life upsidedown, he made me choose if I really wanted a life with my ex. He who changed my life, not sure if for the better or worse! I hate him sometimes because he is a mirror of myself, love him because I can't do without him, the sinister humour that compliments my daft humour. He gives me the spontaneous adventure, I bring him down to earth, without each other, we really don't do very well. He'd go off the rails, I'd turn very boring

Bambi......who could forget that!