Parents

[skeetly]

Heh.
I was a truly terrible teenager and now I'm a dad to a 27, 25, 19 and a 15 year old.
I really can't tell the older two what to do but I reserve the right to be butally honest with the 19 year old and I'm a bit strict with the 15 year old.
But I've done this with them all and its difficult for them to work out that its a constantly changing reaction. It gets easier to handle the second one to get to any give age as you've done it before.
They are all speaking to me and still come visit so it cant have been too bad I guess.
I'd say its worth hearing what your parents say even if you dont do as they say.
If you'r parents have the power to stop you by saying something when you are 24 then I reckon something went wrong along the way. Both you and your parents should know that TBH.

Good luck.

Originally Posted by metalangel

If I did what my parents wanted I wouldn't have my bike licence.

+1
Another way is just to gradually tell them less and less about what you are doing, eventually they will get the hint!

[dizzyblonde]

Originally Posted by ArtyLady

My sister is 52 and hides from our parents the fact that she smokes!

haha yeah, my best mate is in her forties, and before she emigrated to France she had a full back tattoo, and it spilled out over her shoulder and down one of her boobs. Now its a bit of a hard one to hide, and her mum doesn't know about it (or at least doesn't say she does) but my best mate has never been able to tell her, as she thinks her mum wouldn't approve!
Could never understand it, as shes a biker, her dad were a biker, all her mates have tats n piercings, and her mums met a lot of us.

So when her mum pops over in the height of summer, shes sat there in long sleeves and covers up......another thing a bit hard in the deepest of middle France..lol

i'm looking to move out and i did the honest thing and showed my mum around and went with my dad to pick up on things i wouldn't. I'm only 20 but i gotta escape, my dad has gone and my mum is slowly sliding down a very slippery slope to lonelieness but my stepdad is a joke and just says "Yes" which is annoying.

Just remember parents make mistakes just as much as kids the only difference is experience. Knowledge can be bought but experience can't.

I try to follow what my parents want but if my mum/dad knew some of the things i'd done i'd be in shizzle street.

My dad is ex miliary and he was in for 33 years, im his youngest daughter so you can imagine what he is like with me!
I know that I should do what I want and I more than likely will, it is just the prospect of them feeling dissapointed in me and the potential for the "i told you so" talk if things didn't go according to plan.
I have never really stood up to my dad but maybe it's time for me show him that it's my decisions and il deal with the consequences should there be any.

What I am worried about dissapointing them with is not something i can, not tell them/avoid talking about etc - it's pretty obvious.

I think it is me not them, I don't have the balls to stand up and be my own person, always wanting to please others etc.
Maybe 25 is a good time to change that!


Thanks for the advice.

Originally Posted by Kate Moss

I have never really stood up to my dad but maybe it's time for mt show him that it's my decisions and il deal with the consequences should there be any.

I was the same up until 3 or 4 years ago when I did something completely out of character and told my dad off for something, he respected me so much more after that! Amazing what a few well put words can do!

Just do what you wanna do and handle it how you see fit, you'll be reyt

[fizzwheel]

Originally Posted by Kate Moss

I think it is me not them, I don't have the balls to stand up and be my own person,

Then you need to do something about that IMHO. Otherwise you'll always be living in somebody else's shadow and thats no way to live your life.

The first step on changing things is always the hardest but once you've taken it, it does get easier and I think you'll be better off in the long run, I know I was once I started to change everything became easier.

Take a risk, its better to risk and fail than to spend your whole life thinking what if.

ok...il email them!!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f9GH-yvPHSY

I think song is amazing at expressing how I feel like now, maybe for you. Its a brave new world out there, I hope it makes sense.

Oh I want to add, never have any regrets. "in 50 years time I want to look back and said that I got in the car" I have some amazing times just by going for it.

Sort of in the same boat, my folks think I have a certain amount of money in loans to repay, that fact is, I have 4 times more than they think and have got a long time to pay off, if they found out, they would be p1ssed and dissapointed at me.

One day I will tell them, it'll likely be the day I pay off my loans or if I ever dig courage up to tell them. It takes courage to tell your folks something you know will upset/dissapoint them.