Guilt trip

I dont think he is guilt tripping me on purpose lol, I'm guilt tripping myself...

He was so excited about me getting a bike, he wanted to be the first one I took on it (just round our little square paving bit, not even on the road)

I think me coming off has been a big shock to him. Tonight I will sit down and try to reassure him that daddy will not be doing silly things again, and that I have all the right bits to help me in case I do ever fall off again.

Yeh, good idea. Get him involved in things too, it will make things fun for him and then he won't be so scared about the bike anymore.

Why oh why, do I always do things the hard way...

Don't worry about it. I hate to say it but in ten years time he'll hate you anyway as a father of two teenage kids I can speak from experience.

LOL.

So honest.

AND he'll have forgotten all this because he'll want his own bike.

Originally Posted by hongman

Today my son says to me: daddy I don't want you to have a motorbike anymore.

When I asked why (he was more excited than me when I was looking for one) he replied : I don't want you to fall off again and hurt yourself, I don't like it when you get hurt.

I asked him when he thought about this, and he's been thinking about it in school and at night

Originally Posted by hongman

The fact that it came un-provoked from my 4yr old son is what is so...shaking.

Originally Posted by hongman

Oh, seriously ZERO sympathy from the Mrs.

All shes done is told me I wasted lots of money and I told you so.

pft.

Is it only me being a bit sceptical here? He was dead excited when you were getting one because you were excited, but now he's changed his mind. Kids copy their parents, and opinions blow around with the wind, especially as young as 4 yrs old. Maybe it's the missus you need to have a word with about being more careful what she says in front of him?

[yorkie_chris]

IMO just shake it off as a laugh, don't give him a dead serious chat about how you've got a carbon fibre helmet to stop your brain being smeared across the tarmac and a nice back protector to stop the armco ripped your spine out chunk by chunk. As that does not create a nice image!

Try "oh yes, I fell off my bike, what a jolly fool I am... don't I feel silly" etc. You gonna fall off the bugger at some point.

Yeah, we had a long talk.

She has come round a bit now. She was angry at me for being so stupid, which is fair enough.

"How would I explain to the kids that you weren't ever coming home, if you wasn't so lucky"

What can I say to that. Its very morbid, I know, but for someone who has zero interest in anything mechanical let alone bikes, she just sees them as death traps. Very stubborn too lol.

I can see her point of view.

Originally Posted by yorkie_chris

IMO just shake it off as a laugh, don't give him a dead serious chat about how you've got a carbon fibre helmet to stop your brain being smeared across the tarmac and a nice back protector to stop the armco ripped your spine out chunk by chunk. As that does not create a nice image!

Try "oh yes, I fell off my bike, what a jolly fool I am... don't I feel silly" etc. You gonna fall off the bugger at some point.

jeeez yc.. you really have a wonderful way of puttin things lol