Life Analysis

[Bibio]

Originally Posted by Small Clanger

Stop worrying, drink a bottle of wine, roll one/get stoned and then have a game of "hide the sausage" with the wife. You'll be fine.

Next.

hahahahaaaaaaaa. breath hahahaaaaaaaaa

[gruntygiggles]

As a serious reply to this thread, there is only one thing I can say.

I am in no way saying you are being selfish with the way you are thinking, but it comes across that your plan to make your life better for yourself revolves around what you can do for you.

All I can say is, the very best way to make yourself feel better/more fulfilled is to share your knowledge, intellect, enthusiasm with people that will benefit from it rather than looking for people that can give their intellect etc. to you.

By that I mean, you could find a group of like minded friends and discuss the things that interest you without achieving anything. You will have had a good time, but it could be so much more.

Look at someone like Talan off this forum, who shares all of his knowledge and experience to help others do what he loves. Stretchie, squirrel_Hunter, BAP and a few others off this forum have gone as nd helped at track days that Talan does and have come home feeling fantastic, because it is a chance to give a bit of yourself for the greater good, rather than just set out to make things better for yourself.

So...what is happening in your area? Are there any bike events that could benefit from your involvement. Anything other than bikes that you like? If you like debating and politics, are there any youth groups around you that could use someone with your intellect that can fire them up and get them involved and active in politics?

If I ever feel lacking in my life, I don't think about what I can do for myself as that is just instant and short term gratification. Instead, I will do something for someone else that i know will make a difference to them. It is a gift that keeps on giving as you get a real sense of fulfillment when you do things selflessly for others.

Just my thoughts. I grew up with a mum that would give the very last of herself to others before takung anything for herself, so it is normal for me...but it is much better to share what you have than just look to take more on board.

Meant in the most sincere way as I think you would get a lot out of finding something you could help with.

X

[Fallout]

Originally Posted by Geodude

Hehe normal day for me mate

Pah. I'll have to be more creative then.

Originally Posted by Small Clanger

Stop worrying, drink a bottle of wine, roll one/get stoned and then have a game of "hide the sausage" with the wife. You'll be fine.

Next.

Good solid advice.

Originally Posted by Bibio

i like weird as i am weird and i dint like non weird. i don't do social networking for the sake of 'friends lists' or 'dinner parties' as i have too many friends as it is from millionaires to beggars but each and every one of them are nice quirky people. if you are a back stabbing want to make a commotion about everything someone says then do yourself a favour and steer clear of me as i don't play those games.

Fallout, you have now joined the adult club which includes restrictions on your male ambitions. people say marriage does it i say bull its what you make of it.

I agree with that. I call her the Mrs, but we aint married yet. She is a star, and let's me do what I need to do to stay sane. We're far from loaded, but she's behind me spending our spare cash on a toy for myself to improve my sanity by getting into something new and meeting new people. So really, I don't think it's marriage/women that holds guys back ... it's the relationship you crafted by being a 'yes man' early on, sacrificing things when you were happy to because of the honeymoon period, and not establishing what each other needs early on.

I also agree on weird people. I've worked in IT all my life. It's taught me to accept all kinds of nerds and geeks. I've grown out of judging people on how society as a whole looks at them. I judge people on how they treat me and how interesting they are to me. So I'm with you on that Bibio.

[Bibio]

sounds like you got a good one m8, look after her and treat her well.

i think one of the biggest problems with today's society is that because of marketing and branding people cant look past the 'labels and skin'. i treat each and every person i meet with a blank canvas then start painting a picture for myself. some turn out to be Picasso's but most are monkey paintings. BTW i have not met a 'bad un' on the org yet.

[Fallout]

Originally Posted by gruntygiggles

As a serious reply to this thread, there is only one thing I can say.

I am in no way saying you are being selfish with the way you are thinking, but it comes across that your plan to make your life better for yourself revolves around what you can do for you.

All I can say is, the very best way to make yourself feel better/more fulfilled is to share your knowledge, intellect, enthusiasm with people that will benefit from it rather than looking for people that can give their intellect etc. to you.

By that I mean, you could find a group of like minded friends and discuss the things that interest you without achieving anything. You will have had a good time, but it could be so much more.

Look at someone like Talan off this forum, who shares all of his knowledge and experience to help others do what he loves. Stretchie, squirrel_Hunter, BAP and a few others off this forum have gone as nd helped at track days that Talan does and have come home feeling fantastic, because it is a chance to give a bit of yourself for the greater good, rather than just set out to make things better for yourself.

So...what is happening in your area? Are there any bike events that could benefit from your involvement. Anything other than bikes that you like? If you like debating and politics, are there any youth groups around you that could use someone with your intellect that can fire them up and get them involved and active in politics?

If I ever feel lacking in my life, I don't think about what I can do for myself as that is just instant and short term gratification. Instead, I will do something for someone else that i know will make a difference to them. It is a gift that keeps on giving as you get a real sense of fulfillment when you do things selflessly for others.

Just my thoughts. I grew up with a mum that would give the very last of herself to others before takung anything for herself, so it is normal for me...but it is much better to share what you have than just look to take more on board.

Meant in the most sincere way as I think you would get a lot out of finding something you could help with.

X

Man, I hope I didn't come across as a selfish self centred nob! I agree totally with you, and I am not looking to take from other people and just entertain myself. The only reason why I speak from a "I need to do this for myself" perspective is because the problem is mine, caused by my circumstances and my actions and my mindset, and it's up to me to sort it out.

So it's a selfish pursuit, but it won't have selfish results. With the example you picked up on of intelligent conversations, I don't want to sap people of their knowledge. I enjoy those sort of chats because of the rapport it develops with like minded people. You both learn something, you both see something from a different perspective, and you solidify your friendship. I probably didn't phrase it well. Too busy ranting.

Imparting my experience, friendship, support, help etc. onto those I meet will happen and will give me satisfaction too. So if I came across as "GIMME GIMME GIMME", I didn't mean it that way. I just have a deep down fear of coasting and I want to enjoy life with others before I get old enough to look back with regret.

[Fallout]

Originally Posted by Bibio

sounds like you got a good one m8, look after her and treat her well.

i think one of the biggest problems with today's society is that because of marketing and branding people cant look past the 'labels and skin'. i treat each and every person i meet with a blank canvas then start painting a picture for myself. some turn out to be Picasso's but most are monkey paintings. BTW i have not met a 'bad un' on the org yet.

Good lad! We can't help judging people based on their looks, clothes, weight etc. It's a natural thing that occurs with first impressions, but some people never look past that. You do. I do. We don't attach that to a persons value to us. If I see a fat bald guy dribbling in the corner, I don't assume that means he's not interesting or worth knowing. I'll just hand him a napkin and pull up a chair.

[gruntygiggles]

Originally Posted by Fallout

Man, I hope I didn't come across as a selfish self centred nob! I agree totally with you, and I am not looking to take from other people and just entertain myself. The only reason why I speak from a "I need to do this for myself" perspective is because the problem is mine, caused by my circumstances and my actions and my mindset, and it's up to me to sort it out.

So it's a selfish pursuit, but it won't have selfish results. With the example you picked up on of intelligent conversations, I don't want to sap people of their knowledge. I enjoy those sort of chats because of the rapport it develops with like minded people. You both learn something, you both see something from a different perspective, and you solidify your friendship. I probably didn't phrase it well. Too busy ranting.

Imparting my experience, friendship, support, help etc. onto those I meet will happen and will give me satisfaction too. So if I came across as "GIMME GIMME GIMME", I didn't mean it that way. I just have a deep down fear of coasting and I want to enjoy life with others before I get old enough to look back with regret.

I don't think you came across as selfish, hence my very first sentence

All I meant by writing that was that you can come at it from a different angle, set yourself up for a better chance at finding that fulfilment and have more realistic goals of what you can get out of life.

Life stinks, sh!t happens and the goalposts are constantly changing, so it is always a good thing to try and keep your mindset on a positive track, rather than a negative one. Expect too much and you set yourself up for feeling lacking in some way. We all have these moments and nobody is always fulfilled with their lot all of the time. So, go a bit easier on yourself

[Fallout]

Originally Posted by gruntygiggles

I don't think you came across as selfish, hence my very first sentence

All I meant by writing that was that you can come at it from a different angle, set yourself up for a better chance at finding that fulfilment and have more realistic goals of what you can get out of life.

Life stinks, sh!t happens and the goalposts are constantly changing, so it is always a good thing to try and keep your mindset on a positive track, rather than a negative one. Expect too much and you set yourself up for feeling lacking in some way. We all have these moments and nobody is always fulfilled with their lot all of the time. So, go a bit easier on yourself

Don't you ever feel like we grew up in an era that brainwashed us into having unrealistic goals? I can't imagine what it's like for younguns today, who are basically mind-raped into believing they should all aspire to be popstars, or have some other form of fame. I still feel like I grew up being told I could be in a famous band, or I could be filthy rich. Even though we all mature and become level headed, we're still always tempted by what we see on TV. There's a constant illusion of possible grandeur. It can make it hard to dream realistically.

I'm feeling more positive now anyway Giggles. This forum is good for positivity. I don't know what it is about the people here, but there's a good spread of wisdom and opinion. Plus I'm following a new goal; get green laning within a month or so and make some new bike buddies. Modest goal, and a goodun.

[yorkie_chris]

Originally Posted by Fallout

. So everytime I make the effort to go out with the Mrs to meet her work mates etc. and I yawn my ass off to normal conversations about work and people and all that crap!

Indeedy. If anyone so much as mentions soaps (or the male version of: football) that person is easily pidgeonholed into the "meh" category.

Last few evenings I've been designing some of my own dive kit. Far better time spent even if I am sat on my *rse with my head in solidworks!

[gruntygiggles]

Originally Posted by Fallout

Don't you ever feel like we grew up in an era that brainwashed us into having unrealistic goals? I can't imagine what it's like for younguns today, who are basically mind-raped into believing they should all aspire to be popstars, or have some other form of fame. I still feel like I grew up being told I could be in a famous band, or I could be filthy rich. Even though we all mature and become level headed, we're still always tempted by what we see on TV. There's a constant illusion of possible grandeur. It can make it hard to dream realistically.

I'm feeling more positive now anyway Giggles. This forum is good for positivity. I don't know what it is about the people here, but there's a good spread of wisdom and opinion. Plus I'm following a new goal; get green laning within a month or so and make some new bike buddies. Modest goal, and a goodun.

Great goal and yes, the world today is all out of whack.

I consider myself lucky to have gone through so much grief and pain in my younger years. It helps enourmously with keeping a perspective on life. Kids nowadays are being motivated by unrealistic dreams, but I don't think it is all their fault. The adults need to remember to be proud of kids for small achievements. We are not very good in this country at bolstering our children's self esteem. At least, not in the right way. Some kids have yes parents that just tell them what they want to hear and set them up for a life of let downs. Some parents don't care enough to say anything and leave kids constantly trying more and more to get that attention and when it makes no difference, again, they feel let down and unfulfilled.

The parents that get it right have the kids that are the happy, well balanced young people that are getting fewer and farther between.

One day, they will be running the country and hopefully not giving handouts willy nilly to people that cannot be bothered to get off their backsides.

Small goals are attainable, one at a time. Before you know it, you will look back and realise you actually do have that life you always wanted.






Then, as soon as that happens, life gets in the way again and you are back to square one...lol