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Bibio · 07-09-09, 08:49 AM

has she been a bitch for a while or just since you told her about your race school outing?

if she has been a bitch for a while, was it slight moods which have gotten worse or just full on bitch?

07-09-09, 08:55 AM

Lifes a bitch and then you marry....

Err I mean, yeah, I get it too, just nod your head and agree/say what she wants to hear...

07-09-09, 09:16 AM

What can one say? I have been with my other half for 39 years and I still can't understand the way the female mind works.
The suggestion of talking is the answer,but,this doesn't always work,it can result in stoney sulky silence or ensue into a full blown battle of words.You say that your partner is anti-biking,this maybe the crux of the problem.
The one thing I would say is resolve the problem before you go any further down the relationship road as things will only get worse if you don't
Firstly,ask yourself,are you being self centered regarding your biking and spending time apart which she would want to spend with you?
If this is the case the answer is in your hands,try putting the bike away for a trial period and see if things improve.
Alternatively if there is no improvement you know that the biking is not the problem with your relationship and you have to look deeper into what you both actually want out of being together.
Relationships have to be worked on by both parties and a bit of give and take from both does not go amiss.
Then again----What do I know I am only a man
Alternatively

07-09-09, 09:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Dicky Ticker

What can one say? I have been with my other half for 39 years and I still can understand the way the female mind works.
Alternatively

hmmm did you mean Can't?

ophic · 07-09-09, 09:41 AM

Are you still getting it?

what else matters?

07-09-09, 09:46 AM

Personally i would weather the storm for a couple of days without antagonising her into further confrontation or rants etc to give her a chance to calm down & collect her thoughts, then i would just ask outright where she saw your relationship going or if she felt the relationship was over, i know from personal experience that it is not easy to end & get over a long term relationship especially if you still care for her but at the end of the day if it isn't working then there is no point in going on with it, it will end up making both of you feel ill & bitter towards each other, the arguments will become more frequent & intense, you will feel more ill & bitter, arguments will continue etc etc, at the end of the day if there is nothing left in the relationship the only person you are hurting is yourself, bite the bullet & ask, i did & looking back i'm damned glad i did, it gave me the chance to find someone else & this far i have had the best 9yrs of my life so far.

07-09-09, 09:53 AM

1) do you want to stay with her or do you see this happening everytime you want to do something that she's not interested in. - does she have any interests that she follows without you#
2) - you have to talk to her - it sounds like she's worried that becuase you were shook up after the 125 accident that she feels going out on a 650 will result in a bigger crash and possibly death - you have to remember she is a non biker
3)put the ball in her court - by syaing that you don't understand what is upsetting and you want to know. if she doesn't tell you rationally then tell her that if thats resoanble explanation where she intends going from there becuase you ain't there to be a verbal boxing bag for her

if it reallys goes nowhere from this - its the hardest thing possible - and the question i find easiest to answer - can you see yourselves together when you are both old and wrinkly. ( will she ever accept the bike and if thats an intrinsic part of you why she won't comprimise?)

07-09-09, 09:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Graciepants

actually, there basically is one, the amount of people dating already dating on here is mind boggling

no-one sent me the link.....

07-09-09, 10:23 AM

women are all like that been married 12 yrs and shes always been the same ( not just about the bike either)

alternative woman can't live with them can't stick them under the patio ( anymore theres no room)

07-09-09, 10:26 AM

sorry to hear you are having these issues. personally I would cheerio with said lady simply because you need someone at your side that gets excited about the things you do......even if she doesn't take part.

at the same time you should be returning this excitement when she gets excited about her things.

when that happens you know you have the support you will need in life!!!

07-09-09, 08:49 AM	#31
Bibio Member Mega Poster Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: here as devil's advocate Posts: 11,568	Re: Do ladiessss.... has she been a bitch for a while or just since you told her about your race school outing? if she has been a bitch for a while, was it slight moods which have gotten worse or just full on bitch?

07-09-09, 08:55 AM	#32
plowsie Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Do ladiessss.... Lifes a bitch and then you marry.... Err I mean, yeah, I get it too, just nod your head and agree/say what she wants to hear...

07-09-09, 09:16 AM	#33
Dicky Ticker Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Do ladiessss.... What can one say? I have been with my other half for 39 years and I still can't understand the way the female mind works. The suggestion of talking is the answer,but,this doesn't always work,it can result in stoney sulky silence or ensue into a full blown battle of words.You say that your partner is anti-biking,this maybe the crux of the problem. The one thing I would say is resolve the problem before you go any further down the relationship road as things will only get worse if you don't Firstly,ask yourself,are you being self centered regarding your biking and spending time apart which she would want to spend with you? If this is the case the answer is in your hands,try putting the bike away for a trial period and see if things improve. Alternatively if there is no improvement you know that the biking is not the problem with your relationship and you have to look deeper into what you both actually want out of being together. Relationships have to be worked on by both parties and a bit of give and take from both does not go amiss. Then again----What do I know I am only a man Alternatively Last edited by Dicky Ticker; 07-09-09 at 10:36 AM.

07-09-09, 09:41 AM	#35
ophic Member Mega Poster Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Whyteleafe Posts: 3,395	Re: Do ladiessss.... Are you still getting it? what else matters? __________________ Silver SV650SK3, Fuel exhaust

07-09-09, 09:46 AM	#36
Foey Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Do ladiessss.... Personally i would weather the storm for a couple of days without antagonising her into further confrontation or rants etc to give her a chance to calm down & collect her thoughts, then i would just ask outright where she saw your relationship going or if she felt the relationship was over, i know from personal experience that it is not easy to end & get over a long term relationship especially if you still care for her but at the end of the day if it isn't working then there is no point in going on with it, it will end up making both of you feel ill & bitter towards each other, the arguments will become more frequent & intense, you will feel more ill & bitter, arguments will continue etc etc, at the end of the day if there is nothing left in the relationship the only person you are hurting is yourself, bite the bullet & ask, i did & looking back i'm damned glad i did, it gave me the chance to find someone else & this far i have had the best 9yrs of my life so far.

07-09-09, 09:53 AM	#37
Quedos Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Do ladiessss.... 1) do you want to stay with her or do you see this happening everytime you want to do something that she's not interested in. - does she have any interests that she follows without you# 2) - you have to talk to her - it sounds like she's worried that becuase you were shook up after the 125 accident that she feels going out on a 650 will result in a bigger crash and possibly death - you have to remember she is a non biker 3)put the ball in her court - by syaing that you don't understand what is upsetting and you want to know. if she doesn't tell you rationally then tell her that if thats resoanble explanation where she intends going from there becuase you ain't there to be a verbal boxing bag for her if it reallys goes nowhere from this - its the hardest thing possible - and the question i find easiest to answer - can you see yourselves together when you are both old and wrinkly. ( will she ever accept the bike and if thats an intrinsic part of you why she won't comprimise?)

07-09-09, 10:23 AM	#39
blue curvy jester Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Do ladiessss.... women are all like that been married 12 yrs and shes always been the same ( not just about the bike either) alternative woman can't live with them can't stick them under the patio ( anymore theres no room)

07-09-09, 10:26 AM	#40
600+ Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Do ladiessss.... sorry to hear you are having these issues. personally I would cheerio with said lady simply because you need someone at your side that gets excited about the things you do......even if she doesn't take part. at the same time you should be returning this excitement when she gets excited about her things. when that happens you know you have the support you will need in life!!!