How to deal with so called 'friends'

[yorkie_chris]

What the fook have parents got to do with who your mates are?

well the easy way has been stated earlier by half the org the harder way is just as effective and the 1 id use
do the same back
phone her tell her to change her arrangements
dont phone back and make up obviously bullsh1t excuses
and all the other thing that she does to you, she how she likes the other end of the stick

[BanannaMan]

+1 to what most have said.

She is no friend.
I'd cut her loose despite the parents. Just do so in a quiet way.
Don't answer messages or e-mails or return calls.....ever again.
If she says anything tell her (or your parents)you've just been busy and act like it's no big deal.
Sooner or later she'll get the message.

If you don't rid yourself of those causing misery in your life, you are dooming yourself to a life of misery.
It took me a while to learn that but no regrets now.
I really don't have time for people like that!

I had a mate from school who I hung around with loads in late teens/early tweens.

But he got this girlfriend and became super-flaky (I'm sure loads of blokes have done it)- I'd ring him before setting off to meet him at the pub and find out he wasn't going and he wouldn't have called me about it either.

Really p!ssed me off and I got sick of being left at loose ends.

In the end, I just stopped bothering to call him or arrange anything. Some people just aren't worth bothering with. When hindsight comes, you tend to see it was the right decision for many other reasons.

As for the other stuff re your birthday- sounds like she enjoys getting her own way. The excuses given are childish to say the least. She may have other issues going on- but they're her problems, not yours! Give her a wide berth for a while at least- if she asks why, tell her straight. Be polite enough about it. But don't give an inch. As soon as you do that, she'll revert back to old behaviour.

If your folks do comment, tell them straight. As said above, just cos the parents get on, doesn't mean the kids must as well.

Originally Posted by BanannaMan

Don't answer messages or e-mails or return calls.....ever again.

It's easy enough to do. I once had one of these so called friends, she was a great pal...until she decided to spread rumours around that she'd slept with my fella...grrr I was not impressed, cut her loose straight away, friendship disintegrated just with a snap of my fingers.

The reason I tell you this is because for the first time in 4 years she got on a bus I was on today, I didn't even look at her face, no idea if she recognized me or not but I'm afraid I have no repsect for people who have to shamelessly draw attention to themselves by pulling others down. Get rid Maria

[the_lone_wolf]

Is she fit?


If so...



Pics?

[Bibio]

burger it, invite her round for a cuppa and kick her in the crotch, then tell her to f off.

thats what a man would do. life is far to short to go pussy footing around azzhole people like that.

[ophic]

Originally Posted by Bibio

burger it, invite her round for a cuppa and kick her in the crotch, then tell her to f off.

thats what a man would do. life is far to short to go pussy footing around azzhole people like that.

They do say never annoy a scotsman.

[Spiderman]

Originally Posted by the_lone_wolf

Is she fit?


If so...



Pics?

Beat me to it!

Failing this...whats her name? I'll make friends with her on FB and arrange for her to meet with a tragic accident if you like?

Too extreme Maria?

[the_lone_wolf]

Originally Posted by Spiderman

Failing this...whats her name? I'll make friends with her on FB and arrange for her to meet with a tragic accident if you like?

I wouldn't go as far as to call dinner with you a tragic accident mate