advice about problem child.

I laughed hard at the mass rideout idea!

I feel for you dude, I was in the exact same situation a couple of years back. I bought my first house in what I thought was a nice cul-de-sac however very quickly I realised what a nuisance kids could be in a road they felt safe in and with parents who couldn't give a toss.

The kids would play outside every day which wouldn't bother me if they were well behaved. I could even put up with the odd football hitting my car or going in my garden. However there was just general mayhem, kids leaning against my car, sitting on my garden fence until it eventually came down. I came home one day from work to find they had de-headed all the flowers in my garden. When I looked at the most troublesome oike, he was waving one of the flowers from side to side whilst eye-balling me.

I tried making friends with them but it got me no where. And the one time I tried speaking to one of the parents, they just denied their kid was misbehaving.

In the end I packed up and moved away.

That hasn't helped you at all has it.

Try everyone elses advice. However if it gets to the point where the police need calling out, that comes up in your survey when moving house so be careful.

buy/borrow a really big scary barky dog. Or alternatively ignore the bad behaviour, I know its hard but he will get bored if he is not getting a reaction and move onto annoying someone else who reacts.

[Stingo]

Keep a diary...film him. How old is this child...roughly?

[Viney]

This kind of stuff winds me up. You just cant do anything about it because of stuff. You see them on the TV etc smashing peoples houses up and terrorizing areas.

It gets to me that in modern society the thugs, vandals, and generals nuisances get away with it, because they seem more protected than the people they are annoying.

As to what to do. I would have a word, and i would even go and confront the parents. Keep a diary of events. Personally, i would take matters into my own hands and face the consequences im afraid. POpele like this need to be shown how to act responsibly. Hell, im only 39 but i remember when this kind of stuff just didnt happen, the police had powers to do stuff,and they were respected by local yoofs.

Do you have any PSCO's pr a bobby on the beat? Have a chat to them if you do.

[TamSV]

Originally Posted by Viney

im only 39 but i remember when this kind of stuff just didnt happen, the police had powers to do stuff,and they were respected by local yoofs.

Really? I'm 41 and I remember a lot of similar kids and also much worse. It must have been nice round your bit in the 70's.

Tearaway kids are nothing new.

Now I might have my own rose-tinted specs on, but what seems to be a new development is that we now expect the authorities to deal with even minor nuisances that we should be sorting out amongst ourselves. The police have got no role to play unless it gets serious IMO.

Opinion varies on how you deal with it and I'm more at the "peace and love" end of the spectrum these days. Having said that, I've not had to deal with a situation like Andy's for a number of years fortunately, so it's easy to be mellow about it now.

It's a child, don't befriend it, don't take any pictures. It's only acting out to get attention.

[maviczap]

Similar problem in my neighbourhood

2 boys and a single mum after she'd kicked her husband out for gambling all their money away.

She'd throw noisey parties on Friday & Saturday nights and her two teenage boys would invite their friends round, plenty of drink consumed, with the usual consequences. Loud music until early hours of the morning and giving their next door neighbours hell.

Went on for months, plus other trouble with one of the sons having gangs of youths come round to punch his lights out for various reasons.

I'd had my car damaged and came down to find vomit on the windscreen after one party.

Neighbours had finally had enough and called the police in, we were asked if we'd keep a log of incidents, which I was happy to do. I didn't want to confront the sons, as my eldest was at the same school as one of them. I'd done it once before, to no effect.

So PCSO went round and read them the riot act, and things have stopped. But she'd also got a boy friend and he'd sort the sons out, whilst he was there. He's gone now, so we'll have to see what happens over the summer, now its warm enough for her to have a party outside.

But I'd recommend the Police route in some instances

Originally Posted by Milky Bar Kid

So, Andy doesn't want to go to parents, he's tried telling him to bugger off, he doesn't seem to want Police involved and he can't give him a clout these days.....What's your bright idea to sort it then?

Kidnap the little b'stard then tie him up and bury him in a lime pit. Worked for the last 8 scrotes who came round here.

I hate this stupid PC bollox, young kids rule the world and you cant even shout at them without getting in trouble. They can run around smashing stuff up and intimidating people.

What ever happened to giving them a smack, oh wait they claim that it damages the kid for ever if you touch them in any way. Strange how no one in the previous generation I know are mentally traumatised. My mum, dad and grandparents tell me many stories of how their teacher give them a crack for being cheeky with my dad getting a few kickin’s of the police

About 2 months ago a bunch of 8 lads between 13 and 18 started kicking fence panels in and chucked a bottle at our house, lets just say the 3 we managed to collar have not been back since

I vote for kidnap, drive him at least 150 miles away to a remote area and dump him, let him find his own way back.
He will certainly be a changed kid when he gets back.