Breaking up..

I empathise with you mate, My girlfriend of 2 years left me 4 years ago and i was broken into bits, nothing seems to be the same and like you said you just feel numb, but like so many others before me have said "times a healer" and their right (although most of the time thats not what you want to hear) "But chin up soldier" coz you never do know whats around the corner

well shes been and gone,... we hugged kissed and talked.. i never wanted to let her go, i cried my eyes out and said our good byes.. as i write this i feel sick to my stomach, although things were not the best they could of been, i loved her with all of my heart.. and still do. letting her go is by far the hardest thing i have ever done, and my heart is truly broken.. i hurt so much.. and im so tired..
Thank you for your support chaps.. you make it a little easier

Things happen for a reason mate, and they do get easier, was with my ex for over 4 years...hurt like hell when we split but im a very happy lil bunny now

Originally Posted by lylej

well shes been and gone,... we hugged kissed and talked.. i never wanted to let her go, i cried my eyes out and said our good byes.. as i write this i feel sick to my stomach, although things were not the best they could of been, i loved her with all of my heart.. and still do. letting her go is by far the hardest thing i have ever done, and my heart is truly broken.. i hurt so much.. and im so tired..
Thank you for your support chaps.. you make it a little easier

Damn, sounds hard. The closest I can relate to was my cousin dying, and his funeral...ok, sorta differant but not too much. The pain of saying goodbye to someone is something that hurts a hell of alot, no matter what the circumstances are. Hell, my dad cried when my brother moved out into his own house!

But then my dad saw him a week later to do his coving. No-one in my house does coving, because we all get dad to do it He hates it now.

Sorry, derailing

Chin up

Matt

Originally Posted by lylej

well shes been and gone,... we hugged kissed and talked.. i never wanted to let her go, i cried my eyes out and said our good byes.. as i write this i feel sick to my stomach, although things were not the best they could of been, i loved her with all of my heart.. and still do. letting her go is by far the hardest thing i have ever done, and my heart is truly broken.. i hurt so much.. and im so tired..
Thank you for your support chaps.. you make it a little easier

Awww Lylej, I just want to give you a big hug.

I completely empathise with you. When you love someone, it's almost a physical pain when they leave. Feeling rejected is a bitter pill to swallow, but you WILL SURVIVE.


For now, cry as much as you feel you need to, and call on your true friends and family for support.

With time, the sun will shine again, the birds will sing and you will feel alive again.

takes a strong man lylej to say the things you've said and it takes a lot of understanding to reply the way people have done so on here, its quite emotional to read.
you're really down at the mo so just take a little time out to collect your thoughts and not to jump into bed with the next offer, well give it a couple of days at least.
are you still freinds with the lady and if you are it might be an idea just to distance yourself for a while otherwise the healing is gonna take a good while longer.
chin up freind.

Originally Posted by lylej

thanks EVERYONE your really helping, the fact that none of you really know me at all, yet your supporting me as friends i would seriously thank you all.
shes coming over soon to collect all of her stuff.. when shes gone i can start feeling better.. i just love her so much and it hurts so bad...

thinking of u

[Drew Carey]

Mate, know how it feels as I think most have been there at somepoint. Although it feels like nothing will be the same again, it will become better. You will both be happier and better for it in the long run.

As for the getting wasted thing. It cheers you up for the period of time you are drunk, but then you have a hangover coupled with the misery. The best solution, see some close freinds or family and just chill out.

Chin up chap and hope things get better soon.

[Drew Carey]

PS......your a brave chap to let that all out on a forum and I have a lot of respect for that....also.....nothing wrong with crying, its the way to release anger, pain and histeria.

Thanks everyone, we said we will remain friends.. as it wasn't a dumping it was mutual in a respect.. even though i would of carried on.. the difference is that there was nothing i wouldn't of done for this girl.. she is truly special and sleeping tonight is going to be tough.. I'm just giving her the time and the space she needs.. and if sometime soon she calls back wanting to talk.. i will listen, if not then i will move on... but God it hurts so bad SO SO BAD