I am hurt and disappointed.

Originally Posted by Luckypants

Thanks Pete. I feel I cannot say anything on this thread because it was a ride I organised.

From what I have heard and read about NW3, I was very sorry to have missed it (apart from the weather ) so can conclude it was a great success. How people respond and act on a rideout is not something you can control unfortunately, and as a result there will always be some people who manage to make things uncomfortable for others, whether they mean to or not. These people need to buck their ideas up and think before they speak/bitch

F' em Mel, you got home safely didn't you? Thats all that should matter.

Melody, I have had a quick flick through this thread and I would just like to say congratulations to you.
I think that too many people feel pressured to ride beyond their ability when riding with others. For you to exercise restraint and stay within your abilities is far better than keeping others "happy" by risking the unthinkable.
Keep within your abilities and bugger what anybody else thinks, it's your bike and your life. Ride safe.

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Originally Posted by plowsie

As far as from I can gather Mel, your riding is fine, why don't the people own up to it. Challenge Blue to a race lol.

It would be nice of them to come forward I guess, and explain how they feel..... and explain if they think their words have been taken out of context.

Higly unlikely to happen though unfortunately

Despite my WAY too many years riding I can assure everyone that un known roads, wet conditions, diminishing light and having witnessed an accident would completely slow me down.

All in all the cause of this thread is very sh*tty indeed.

Would a reasonable thing to suggest not be that,people at the start of a ride out hold their hands up,(without fear of criticism or sarcasm) and form a group that is happier at a more relaxed pace? Then those who want to use a group ride out like a "willy measuring" contest can go off and do there thing without putting undue pressures on others?

Originally Posted by Furry Ginger One

Melody, I have had a quick flick through this thread and I would just like to say congratulations to you.
I think that too many people feel pressured to ride beyond their ability when riding with others. For you to exercise restraint and stay within your abilities is far better than keeping others "happy" by risking the unthikable.
Keep within your abilities and bugger what anybody else thinks, it's your bike and your life. Ride safe.

Seconded. Have seen too many rideouts where people felt like they were forced to keep up, and although it is re-iterated at the start of the rideout that it is not the case, I can see how easy it must be to fall into that trap.
Don't stop riding in the groups Mel, it can be a learning curve for many others- not just yourself. I hope you continue enjoying your bike, with the forum rideouts, and that your confidence hasn't been knocked by any nasty words.

Originally Posted by Midget Man :)(Pedrosa)

Would a reasonable thing to suggest not be that,people at the start of a ride out hold their hands up,(without fear of criticism or sarcasm) and form a group that is happier at a more relaxed pace? Then those who want to use a group ride out like a "willy measuring" contest can go off and do there thing without putting undue pressures on others?

Speaking for the last time only (NW2), that did happen on the Sunday for everyone, all seemed happy

Originally Posted by melody

It has been brought to my attention that several folk were not happy with my attendance at NW3. I understand that folk felt that I slowed down proceedings,held the group up and did not 'join in'.

If anyone was held back by me, it would be the TECs, and as far as I'm aware they were quite happy to sit at the back with me.

Melody - as a TEC I need to say to you that I was by NO means disappointed with your attendance!! Yes you are slower than I am but it was MY choice to be TEC and being TEC meant that I would be last and possibly riding slower than if I was on my own or further up the group.

With regards to your character I find you a very nice person to be around and I certainly don't have a problem if you are a loud or not so loud person

so...... whos moaning about mel?

as it seems most the peeps on the ride out have posted, saying there was not a problem.

Originally Posted by mrs24_7

F' em Mel, you got home safely didn't you? Thats all that should matter.

+ 1 totally agree with that