Am I a bad dad?

Originally Posted by Lozzo

His girlfriends are allowed to stay in his room, again it's a case of keeing a degree of control over the situation while still making the kids feel comfortable and not doing stupid things to rebel against us and the rest of the world. So far it's worked - none of them have been the slightest bit of bother and are well grounded young adults.

Its about treating them like adults and with respect; I find that the way alot of people approach kids is with compeant today and then wonder why they get ****ed off. I have worked with kids for a long time I have very few rules, most I bend if the situation requires it. To me its all about respect and how we treat each other.

Originally Posted by -Ralph-

It was taken as read, I didn't realise they had to eat, I certainly never stuck to that technicality with my Dad when 16



OK, or a pub meal. Or a side order of chips

I don't think that would cut it; but yeah I know what you mean.

I don't see why common sense can't be applied to alot of how live ect; but the problem with that I have met some adults are very inmature and I wouldn't trust with a choclate teapot. It shame being an adult can't be taken away from people who are clearly clueless.

[Balky001]

Lozzo, out of interest, did you let the other boys parents know what you were doing just out of respect to their views? They might have said it was OK but best to check. My parents allowed me to drink at around 16/17 in the house with mates. I don't think it's a bad thing to have a few drinks in a responsible way ocassionally

Originally Posted by Balky001

Lozzo, out of interest, did you let the other boys parents know what you were doing just out of respect to their views? They might have said it was OK but best to check. My parents allowed me to drink at around 16/17 in the house with mates. I don't think it's a bad thing to have a few drinks in a responsible way ocassionally

Dan's friend's parent's were asked if it was ok when he had his 16th birthday party(s), and they all gave permission for their kids to drink at any event held at his house, but only when there was adult supervision. They have been informed there will be booze available this time and none has raised an objection, and all have allowed their boys and girls to attend.

Dan has friends who are pretty much like himself, and luckily their parents are as forward thinking as we are about such matters.

[Balky001]

Originally Posted by Lozzo

Dan has friends who are pretty much like himself, and luckily their parents are as forward thinking as we are about such matters.

That's cool. Treat them like adults and they will generally act like one if supported.

Nope you a great dad and responsible to
You know what they got and where they are

Hope they enjoy themselves

Originally Posted by Lozzo

My son got good GCSE results, so to celebrate with over the weekend I bought him and his mates 48 cans of Carlsberg (other beers are available, your home is at risk if you play with the gas pipes and matches)

As he's only 16, does this make me bad?

Nah,i'm sure your son & his mates will think your a cool dad.Reminds me a bit when i had my worst biking accident(broken neck job)when i was 19,back then i was a bit partial to the old wacky backy & after coming home after a couple of months in hospital i fancied a smoke,still not been anywhere fit enough to venture out for supplies i gave my dad the address of a local dealer(let the guy know to expect my dad)half an hr later my dad arrives back with good old bob hope.

My dad has never been a smoker(of anything)& after constant badgering from me & my mates to try some in a brew he gave in.Made him a brew & a couple of hrs later he's sat in his chair with bloodshot eyes & a daft grin on his face,not long later he says "i'm off to bed",next morning i asked him if he'd enjoyed his hash brew?,his reply was"i don't know,i can't remember,but i woke up with an empty packet of ginger biscuits in my bed",LOL.

Originally Posted by sv-robo

Nah,i'm sure your son & his mates will think your a cool dad.Reminds me a bit when i had my worst biking accident(broken neck job)when i was 19,back then i was a bit partial to the old wacky backy & after coming home after a couple of months in hospital i fancied a smoke,still not been anywhere fit enough to venture out for supplies i gave my dad the address of a local dealer(let the guy know to expect my dad)half an hr later my dad arrives back with good old bob hope.

My dad has never been a smoker(of anything)& after constant badgering from me & my mates to try some in a brew he gave in.Made him a brew & a couple of hrs later he's sat in his chair with bloodshot eyes & a daft grin on his face,not long later he says "i'm off to bed",next morning i asked him if he'd enjoyed his hash brew?,his reply was"i don't know,i can't remember,but i woke up with an empty packet of ginger biscuits in my bed",LOL.

LMFAO!
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