11 year old girl to be a mum....UPDATED

Originally Posted by Saint Matt

I can honestly say, its none of my business, it doesn't affect me, so I do not care.

ah, ostrich syndrome! if we all thought that way....

but fair do's to you for saying so

"I'm not ashamed of my daughter at all - in fact, I'm proud of her for keeping her baby."

Roughly translated from chav, I believe this means "I'm proud that my daughter for realising she can sponge off the tax payers at such an early age, took me a lot longer to realise I didn't have to work for a living"

Absolutely 'kin rediculous. 11 for Christ's sake??? No qualifications, no prospects, this baby has got the odds stacked against it. Idiocy breeds idiocy by the looks of things, perhaps this new baby (if it's a girl) will break the record again for the youngest mother?

[Viney]

Child: Mum, Why are your hands so soft, is it becuse you use Fariy Liquid
Mum: No, it because im 12!

Its shocking. She should be made to have an abortion. The mum should be banged up for the drinking and smoking, the dad should be banged up for child abuse. But of course this will not happen, and as said, she will be on benefits for the next 18 years.

Next you'll be telling me that we're gonna let hijackers stay in the country!

Ok, who else on here has a daughter around the same age? Mine is 13, and this happening scares the hell out of me. I have told her that if ever she comes home pregnant she's out of the house, I don't want babies around me - and I hope saying this would make her think twice.

I believe I know where she always is, and what she does, but if she tells me she's meeting her friends in town on Saturday, I have to give her that trust. We do occasionally go into town just to check she's ok.

[Viney]

Originally Posted by NuttyT@rt

Ok, who else on here has a daughter around the same age? Mine is 13, and this happening scares the hell out of me. I have told her that if ever she comes home pregnant she's out of the house, I don't want babies around me - and I hope saying this would make her think twice.

I believe I know where she always is, and what she does, but if she tells me she's meeting her friends in town on Saturday, I have to give her that trust. We do occasionally go into town just to check she's ok.

Thats a bit selfish isnt it when she 24
Joking by the way

Originally Posted by NuttyT@rt

Ok, who else on here has a daughter around the same age? Mine is 13, and this happening scares the hell out of me. I have told her that if ever she comes home pregnant she's out of the house, I don't want babies around me - and I hope saying this would make her think twice.

I don't mean to tell you how to raise your children, but please think twice before saying something like that. You're the only one she can trust her problems to, and she might be hearing you say something like "I don't want to know about your problems, keep them out of the house". Your intention is quite good, but you might just be making it worse.

Originally Posted by NuttyT@rt

I believe I know where she always is, and what she does, but if she tells me she's meeting her friends in town on Saturday, I have to give her that trust. We do occasionally go into town just to check she's ok.

Thumbs up for doing this. You can't nanny them forever, but you can and should make sure they're ok.

Just my two cents, feel free to ignore me. Really.

Your comments are fully appreciated. She's a very trustworthy girl, but there is always that doubt at the back of my mind.

It's good that she'd rather come sailing with me than go out with her mates, but I've been concerned recently as her auntie at 19 has just had a baby, her and the boyfriend don't work, and she's stayed at home with her mum. My daughter has put her on a pedestal and can't see what's wrong.

perhaps she's still too young to understand?

Originally Posted by NuttyT@rt

Your comments are fully appreciated. She's a very trustworthy girl, but there is always that doubt at the back of my mind.

It's good that she'd rather come sailing with me than go out with her mates, but I've been concerned recently as her auntie at 19 has just had a baby, her and the boyfriend don't work, and she's stayed at home with her mum. My daughter has put her on a pedestal and can't see what's wrong.

perhaps she's still too young to understand?

She most definetely is too young, she might even be looking at her baby cousin as a "live doll", and her age might not allow her to see the complete picture. I'd try to make sure she keeps up with reality, but don't try to knock her auntie down as it will have the opposite effect and you'll find yourself as the mean one when your daughter steps up to defend her. Just show her the facts (essentially the cons, as all she can see now are the pros), and resist the temptation to pour your judgement down on her as it will just make things worse. Again, just my 2 cents (euro ones, which I believe are worth even less than 2p).

[northwind]

The gil' said (and I paraphrase here, but bear with me) "Obviously it's not good that I'm pregnant at my age- but on the plus side, I'm having a baby!" and also "I wish I'd not had sex with him, but if I hadn't, I wouldn't have my baby". Marvellous.

I've been doing some maths... She's going to knock out a sprog a year for the next 40 years. After 10 years, those sprongs are going to start sprogs of their own. By the time I have kids, there'll be no space for them. This one girl could be the solution for britain's population deficit.

I reckon this is part of the problem... The UK's barely growing, .28% a year. But the bottom 20% of earners produce something like 40% of the kids, and the top 20% produce 2%. (or something like that, I don't remember exactly). Don't misunderstand, I'm not equating wages to intelligence or moral value, but poverty's a vicious circle.

I blame the cafflics.

[northwind]

PS, I don't want to go to Godikus's penile colony