Another dilemma you'd wish you didn't have....

My cousins have been on a camping trip and posted the photos on a social networking site. I don't have any details of where they went or which adults accompanied them, but they stayed together in a separate tent, 3 x 15 yr old and 1 x 13yr old, two of them my cousins.

Pictures show them drinking, big deal so did I at 15, but by the end of it the 13 year old in particular hasn't got a working muscle left in her face.

I'm worried she'll do some proper damage at that age and at the least end up getting her stomach pumped.

Should I phone my Aunt and Uncle or mind my own business? I have told my Aunt before to ensure she is always on thier friend list and keep an eye on the photo albums, but she doesn't seem to do it. If I phone the girls will probably never speak to me again, if I don't and something happens to the 13yr old and my uncle finds out I knew she out drinking.....

She spend a lot of time with her older sister and her friends and the 13yr old is a right rebel, I suspect that this is not a one off occasion. I also suspect on other occasions there will be boys in the group.

[Lissa]

She's 13. I would inform the parents. I would have wanted to know if my daughter was putting herself into that kind of situation at that age.

[Dave20046]

It's not up to the forum mate, your own call.
Maybe 13's a bit young but up to you.

Just keep an eye out for her. It's as likely she did it becasue she's inexperienced at drinking, and likely to never do it again!

[gruntygiggles]

Your call Ralph as you'll know your aunt and uncle well enough to know if this is something that would want to be informed of. If she was my child, I would want to know. If you do tell your aunt, I am sure of you tell her your concerns, she'll agree not to tell your cousing that it was you that let her know.

Good luck mate, but none of us know your family, so it's one I think you'll have to decide for yourself I'm sorry!

I'd want to know, but it's hard to know without knowing the parents. I think you should tell em though.

id say let the kids learn the hard way.

depends on your relationship with teh rents. If your close to the aunt and uncle so their friends as well as family. Then I'd just say in a jokey manor 'seen what your xxxx has been upto on facebook bloody kids eh' keep it low key cos you dont want to interfear but id only do it once they all come back.

I echo Grunty's sentiments. have you tried talking to the girls yourself first?

Originally Posted by -Ralph-

My cousins have been on a camping trip and posted the photos on a social networking site. I don't have any details of where they went or which adults accompanied them, but they stayed together in a separate tent, 3 x 15 yr old and 1 x 13yr old, two of them my cousins.

Pictures show them drinking, big deal so did I at 15, but by the end of it the 13 year old in particular hasn't got a working muscle left in her face.

I'm worried she'll do some proper damage at that age and at the least end up getting her stomach pumped.

Should I phone my Aunt and Uncle or mind my own business? I have told my Aunt before to ensure she is always on thier friend list and keep an eye on the photo albums, but she doesn't seem to do it. If I phone the girls will probably never speak to me again, if I don't and something happens to the 13yr old and my uncle finds out I knew she out drinking.....

She spend a lot of time with her older sister and her friends and the 13yr old is a right rebel, I suspect that this is not a one off occasion. I also suspect on other occasions there will be boys in the group.

They're your cousins, not your kids. Rather than having a word with the parents, how about you approach the cousins one at a time and talk to them instead. They may well listen to you, but they won't listen to their parents no matter how they approach the subject.

The kids won't appreciate you going behind their back, and you're doing something positive rather than something that may get them in bother.