org opinion wanted

I was sat with a friend last night and having a deep talk.The convo came round to partners and secrets.
If you found that your partner had been hiding online conversations and text ,from a member of the opposite sex,would you be angry and hurt.
If they then said that they were a friend and there was nothing to hide ,so therefore nothing to tell,would you still be angry.
How would you feel if after all the rows ,your partner then took you out for a drink ....to the social club where said person worked.
Would it then be ok for your partner to go out for a drink with this person?
As you can see it turned into a very deep coversation.
Its always hard to know what is right and wrong.

its a hard one.
But all depends and comes down to trust.

Oposite sex to you or them? Them i quess? not really had much experience on this sorta thing but im a bit of a jealous type and would hate it.

if you have a partner then you have no secrets.
if you have secrets then you have no real partner.
you cannot have both.
the end of the lesson.

Originally Posted by Gene genie

if you have a partner then you have no secrets.
if you have secrets then you have no real partner.
you cannot have both.
the end of the lesson.

That about sums it up m8 !

Depends what you would define as 'hiding' the conversations and texts. If theres nothing worth hiding then why hide the conversations.
Personally if i was told the other person is just a friend then i would trust my partner. Theres no point being in a relationship without mutual trust.

I don't think personally i'd be happy but i couldn't really say much. If they're both happy with it then why not but the boot must be good enough to fit both feet.

Originally Posted by Gene genie

if you have a partner then you have no secrets.
if you have secrets then you have no real partner.
you cannot have both.
the end of the lesson.

thats was what I said to my friend.Even if nothing is going on,the fact that things could be hidden ,would plant a seed that would keep on growing.

[dizzyblonde]

Well I live with the most secretive sh!t I know on earth.
Everything in his life has to be private....sometimes from me. Practically have to beat owt out of him.
Although if questioned about something he tells everything thats needed to know.
Me on the other hand, everything is on the table, nothing hidden.

The way I see it is, if I'm allowed to have private convo's with the opposite sex by text, if I can go out with whomever I want, ride out with whom ever I want etc etc, why can he not have the same?.....seems fair to me. Its all down to how much you trust a person. I know although he is a secretivet git, i can trust him with female friends that he may have.



Although i couldn't trust him to keep the house tidy while I'm out

I tend to agree with Dizzy but I suppose it would depend on the individual relationship. Do they normally share everything? If so, then I would be questioning why it wasn't mentioned. If they dont normally share everything thing then I don't see the harm in it really, if it never came up and there was nothing to tell then that would explain it.. Individual situations.......