How to deal with so called 'friends'

So…I have this friend who has an amazing knack of always being unwell, or having something mind boggling ridiculous happen to her. A lot of the time this results in us not being able to meet up.

Most recently she almost screwed up my birthday plans by texting me 3 hours before the event to ask me to change the venue because a work mate had invited her there for drinks and said she definately wouldn’t come if I don’t change it. Needless to say, I told her to bugger off The next day she texted me (on my birthday) demanding why I didn’t change the venue, and that I should have because then she could have come along. I’ve no idea how I kept my cool!!!

I am now at a point where she has annoyed me beyond recognition but I’m unable to get rid of her because my parents and her parents are very good friends. Sods law! Some of you might be thinking that she obviously doesn’t like me and that I should ignore her, but she still leaves messages on my facebook or texts asking to meet up

Other amusing excuses she’s come up with (she must think I am such an idiot) are:

“I can’t come out because I have to clean my mums house and it will take the entire day” (she doesn’t live at home and her mum is a clean freak)

“I’m waiting for a phone call and have to be home to get really good signal otherwise I wont get the call at all”

“I’m so ill, I’m dying ” (despite being ill almost every week beforehand)

and the best one I’ve had is:

“I couldn’t text you because the o2 network was down for my phone and no-one else’s”

Is anyone else in a similar situation with a so-called friend or have they been in a situation before? How did you handle it? What’s been the stupid excuse someone has given you?

[Lissa]

Ah, the old 'you two have to get along because her Mum and Dad are friends of ours'

******** to that, Maria!

Just tell her to go take a running jump. If she acts like that she's not really a friend, is she? Your parents will get over it, they always do! Eventually!

Sorry don't know anyone like that... unless everyone thinks its me.

Even though your parents are friends with hers I would still just be tempted to tell her to get lost.

She sounds a right selfish cow by the sounds of things. What about all your other friends you would have ended up inconveniencing if you had changed your birthday venue?

I too have the odd friend who I end up doing most of the running for, if I want to catch up with them then I will get in touch but they rarely if ever get in touch with me. I stopped bothering a while back though. Life's too short. Try chucking some of her excuses in her direction, give her a taste of her own medicine, she might get the hint then

As for the whole parents/friends thing, tell 'em to get stuffed, you choose your own mates and thankfully you're an intelligent lass who can no doubt pick em well...I'm one so you must be

We had a "friend" that turned out to be a pain in the a**.

They did all sorts of stupid things and in the end, were better off without them.

A "friend" that causes grief and hastle just isnt worth having.

As mentioned before, Lifes too short to be dealing with people like that.

As everyone else has stated, ditch this friend!

You're the one doing all the running around, going out of your way to fit to her plans and she doesn't seem to be reciprocating.

Remove her as a f/b friend, then delete all emails from her and remove her number from your phone contacts. Um, basically, move on! You've nothing to lose, yet loads to gain without a bloodsucking vampire in your life.

I wouldn't tell her to get lost, but I'd ignore her as much as possible until she decides to grow up a bit.

[Bri w]

All you are getting is grief. Dump the grief

Originally Posted by speedplay

We had a "friend" that turned out to be a pain in the a**.
that.

Sorry mate, I did call you back in the end lol. Don't delete me out of your life as a friend please!

Originally Posted by Kinvig

Remove her as a f/b friend, then delete all emails from her and remove her number from your phone contacts. Um, basically, move on! You've nothing to lose, yet loads to gain without a bloodsucking vampire in your life.

I love your choice of words. But so true! I do ignore her now and only respond if she contacts me first.

So no-one else has similar issues? I must be pretty unlucky

Originally Posted by missyorkie_chris

She sounds a right selfish cow by the sounds of things. What about all your other friends you would have ended up inconveniencing if you had changed your birthday venue?

Exactly! I dont think she even has half a brain

I too have the odd friend who I end up doing most of the running for, if I want to catch up with them then I will get in touch but they rarely if ever get in touch with me. I stopped bothering a while back though. Life's too short. Try chucking some of her excuses in her direction, give her a taste of her own medicine, she might get the hint then

although its out of character for me, I want to do the direct route and tell her face to face how rubbish she is! TBH I dont even think anything subtle would work