tinternet affairs.

[Gene genie]

a friend of mine ;) has been in touch with an old flame via the net. now my friend ;) just likes to say hello and catch up on things and i know that my friend ;) is telling the truth. he has taken a lot of stick for making contact with the said lady that i have never met;).
he is married with children. he has not and never will ask for a meet but is my freind ;) really asking for trouble.
i think a girl and a boy can be just good friends without sex ever getting involved, or am i really that niave.
now i feel this is a sensative subject with some, so only comical and insulting advice please.:o

[gettin2dizzy]

i think a girl and a boy can be just good friends without sex ever getting involved, or am i really that niave.
now i feel this is a sensative subject with some, so only comical and insulting advice please.:o
I think for most men sex is NEVER involved ;)

So I wouldn't worry....I mean your friend shouldn't worry :thumbsup:

[Bear]

It is entirely possible for a man and woman to be friends and for there never to be any thought of sex.

The lady needs to be either really old, ugly, or better yet both.

The guy needs to be either a eunuch, tee-total or blind, preferably all three.

Other than that, at some point the bloke WILL consider shagging her (In fact, even with the above being true the thought may come up...)

(I'm not being sexist, I just speak of the gender I know best: the one that I loosely belong to)

(I am aware that I am judging everyone by my own frankly rather "loose" morals)

[Bear]

PS: Cybersex isn't cheating


(Then again, in my view Head isn't cheating. It's not cheating if you aren't in the same country, or county, or postcode, or room, or square foot of space. It isn't cheating if they let you do things your significant other doesn't. It isn't cheating if they are a different gender, genus, or species than your significant other. It isn't cheating if you're too drunk to fight me... sorry THEM off. It's not cheating if you're only doing it for a bet or as a forfeit. Raf doesn't count as cheating...)

[dizzyblonde]

I got in touch with my 'rock guitarist god' via the net, he was my first hooooge lurve, wil have a soft spot forever in my heart. We have chatted on the phone a few times, had the odd Msn chat, and emailed each other about his up coming tour.
I will never meet him again, haven't seen him in 10 years, but it was nice to catch up, chat about mutual friends, and patch over unfinished stuff. if we do meet again, it will be super. Bt hey, I love my bloke, past is past, and future is future.........for me anyway...can't say about your friend

[Shellywoozle]

If he/she isn't in your postcode area I was told it doesn't count as an affair !!

On a more serious note, most of my mates are male. Since I started work as a teenager I worked in a male engineering environment and always been one of the lads, then when I joined the police and I am the only girlie on shift so have kept that male mentality. I watch porn with the lads at 3am etc etc.

I don't have sex with any of them and have some really close male mates, so YES you can have platonic relationships, it's easy :) if that's the kinda person you are.

Maybe it's due to the fact I am an ugly minger, I don't know LOL :rolleyes:

But to contradict myself, as soon as I became single I lost a few male mates as they thought I was a prospective sh*g :(

[tigersaw]

I watch porn with the lads at 3am etc etc.


You should be out catching robbers

[Shellywoozle]

You should be out catching robbers

Ohhhh yeah I mean when (or if) we have snap breaks .... we have to eat too LOL

:smt101

[kwak zzr]

i have lots of internet friends male and female it doesn't mean i want sex with all the female ones:rolleyes: i am very good friends with a few of them and have genuine feelings for them as friends, but then again i am a big softie and don't see women as just a potential sha@.

[Gene genie]

PS: Cybersex isn't cheating


(Then again, in my view Head isn't cheating. It's not cheating if you aren't in the same country, or county, or postcode, or room, or square foot of space. It isn't cheating if they let you do things your significant other doesn't. It isn't cheating if they are a different gender, genus, or species than your significant other. It isn't cheating if you're too drunk to fight me... sorry THEM off. It's not cheating if you're only doing it for a bet or as a forfeit. Raf doesn't count as cheating...)
yeah but surely if its your heart thats keeping you both in touch then thats worse, thats a desire that will never fade, soul mates. a quicky after a drunken night out is quickly forgotten but 'cybersex' (not quite sure what that is) is serious stuff?

[Gene genie]

If he/she isn't in your postcode area I was told it doesn't count as an affair !!

On a more serious note, most of my mates are male. Since I started work as a teenager I worked in a male engineering environment and always been one of the lads, then when I joined the police and I am the only girlie on shift so have kept that male mentality. I watch porn with the lads at 3am etc etc.

I don't have sex with any of them and have some really close male mates, so YES you can have platonic relationships, it's easy :) if that's the kinda person you are.

Maybe it's due to the fact I am an ugly minger, I don't know LOL :rolleyes:

But to contradict myself, as soon as I became single I lost a few male mates as they thought I was a prospective sh*g :(
so your colleagues were concerned that there behaviour (flirty maybe) could be taken seriously and they ran, mmmmmmmm.
shelly, YOU ARE NOT AN UGLY MINGER!!!!
:plod:

[Ed]

a quicky after a drunken night out is quickly forgotten

By whom?

Why did your friend start this?

[Paws]

Most my mates are guys, and i keep in contact with a guy i met once at a rock festival ermmm about 7 years ago, weve only met that once and it will only ever be that once but we chat via text/msn, also keep in contact with a guy i briefly saw, we met on the internet (bike site) and had a "thing" going, ended up v messy and me getting v hurt, weve put it behind us but-again we wont ever meet but we keep in contact.
I love matt to bits and i make sure hes aware that i have the guys friends and its all very above aboard and they are no threat.

[Gene genie]

By whom?

Why did your friend start this?
the 'quicky' remark was an example, a comparison.
why was it started? mmmmm. bored one night, a trip down memory lane, and curiosity probably but no more than that.

[Lozzo]

i have lots of internet friends male and female it doesn't mean i want sex with all the female ones:rolleyes:

It does for me

[yorkie_chris]

Can't blame a compass for pointing north.

[Shellywoozle]

It does for me

I best cancel my visit to see you then :rolleyes:

[chakraist]

I want to have sex with all my female friends that I would have sex with had they not been my friends in the first place. Which is most of them. Actually, some of my best friends have been people that I've slept with like, 4 years ago

[Lozzo]

I want to have sex with all my female friends that I would have sex with had they not been my friends in the first place. Which is most of them. Actually, some of my best friends have been people that I've slept with like, 4 years ago

They become your best friends after you've had sex with them?

[kitkat]

as long as your friend doesnt get carried away. it is easy to dream about what if. your friend is maybe not considering sex with her at the moment but a few months down the line, when chat gets flirtier and she mentions that she does some spectacular sex act, your friend may be tempted. your friend should stop it before it gets to that stage and go and sh ag his wife. word of warning though, if your friend decides to try this spectacular sex with said wife, wife will wonder where idea has come from, check history on computer and your friend will never have sex with anyone including himself again.

would your friends wife be happy knowing this conversation with old flame was taking place? if not either tell her or stop or risk losing your/your friends bollox

[Baph]

Gene Genie, I've been in a similar situation to your friend ;).

IMO, so long as the feelings are only of the past, then it's not a problem. The problem will happen if those feelings turn to a longing for the past to repeat itself.

I've also been in a similar situation to your friend's wife, and that hasn't changed my viewpoint.

[startrek.steve]

then when I joined the police and I am the only girlie on shift so have kept that male mentality. I watch porn with the lads at 3am etc etc.

I thought you were a street cleaner Shell?
or is that police sarcasm?

Steve:smt017