Stress or something worse?

[gruntygiggles]

I had a breakthrough this evening. My Pc is not as dead as I thought. Well the monitor and graphics card are, so that's £800 I won't see again, oh and the case is still bent but the rest is okay. I feel sort of better now.

I'll have to try harder next time I guess............


Just a thougt and see this thread for an insight.....

http://forums.sv650.org/showthread.php?t=128677

but, if you get yourself a Land Rover......you can take all your frustrations out on it....even with a sledge hammer if you want and the worst you'll do is give it another lovely battle scar. They are great to work on as you usually have to hit them VERY hard just to get something to move!

[lukemillar]

Just read the whole post and the one thing I can't get over is how many hot women have joined the .org since I went travelling last November! Keep them coming ladies! :D

[DanAbnormal]

Just read the whole post and the one thing I can't get over is how many hot women have joined the .org since I went travelling last November! Keep them coming ladies! :D

Thanks for your input Luke!! :smt046

[DanAbnormal]

Upon reflection of this thread, I think doing what I did with my PC is a good thing (bear with me here).

I haven't really got angry since and there have been a couple of times where I would have normally flipped and thrown my toys out of the pram but I thought, hold on if I do this it will cost me money.

Maybe not the ideal result but it certainly seems to be helping me stop losing it for now. I've read through all the gumpf the doc gave me and most of it was quite interesting. I had to draw out a chart of when I feel I'm getting mad and what I usually do and I have figured out where I am going wrong. If something is not working I don't walk away, I stay until I either manage to overcome the problem that is annoying me or I can't overcome the problem and I flip out. Problem is I usually don't overcome the problem as I am already getting annoyed. I know when it gets to the first stage I need to just walk away, do something that calms me down and then come back an hour later or something. I've yet to test this but I think I maybe getting somewhere. The problem is that I never really feel like I'm annoyed until it's too late. Will see how it goes. [-o<

[dizzyblonde]

Sounds like your 'stamp collecting' as my therapist called it. You'll have lots of little things that annoy you, but don't realise they do. Its not until you've got to the last straw that you blow up.
Stamp collecting....think of every little thing that gets you mad as a stamp. You collect the 'stamp' in your book(or head) then when the books full it bursts at the seams, and you end up throwing your stamps at whatever or whoever is available(in my case)
As you say you walk away, and go find something to do, and come back later.

This ones an odd one but bear with me.

She noticed I carry a spare hair elastic on my wrist. She then told me to use it as a reminder to 'shut up', when I could feel my temper going. By pulling at it and letting it flick my wrist, it subsequently joggs my memory with that sharp tap on the wrist to go do something different!

[gruntygiggles]

Upon reflection of this thread, I think doing what I did with my PC is a good thing (bear with me here).

I haven't really got angry since and there have been a couple of times where I would have normally flipped and thrown my toys out of the pram but I thought, hold on if I do this it will cost me money.

Maybe not the ideal result but it certainly seems to be helping me stop losing it for now. I've read through all the gumpf the doc gave me and most of it was quite interesting. I had to draw out a chart of when I feel I'm getting mad and what I usually do and I have figured out where I am going wrong. If something is not working I don't walk away, I stay until I either manage to overcome the problem that is annoying me or I can't overcome the problem and I flip out. Problem is I usually don't overcome the problem as I am already getting annoyed. I know when it gets to the first stage I need to just walk away, do something that calms me down and then come back an hour later or something. I've yet to test this but I think I maybe getting somewhere. The problem is that I never really feel like I'm annoyed until it's too late. Will see how it goes. [-o<

See.......I did try to say to stick up for your doctor a bit......what else was he going ot do on a first visit (although I do think he could have spent longer with you).

The reading materials alone sound like they are beneficial to you, so imagine how much things could improve if you keep going and get a decent referral and ongoing help.

Doesn't sound odd at all that you feel the PC incident may in fact have been a good thing.

Me and Stretchie took my alcoholic auntie and another aunt and my mum to Bristol Airport last year. Now, we as a family have tried everything over the last 12 years to get her off the booze and it was only last year that she even admitted she had a problem. So....she thought she'd be clever and not have a drink the night before getting on a flight to New York. She's not travelled more than 25 miles from home since her husband died 12 years ago and not more than abut 10 miles since her daughter died three years ago. She started the whole cold turkey thing and ended up collapsed and fitting on the Terminal floor and had to be taken to the BRI by ambulance for treatment.

£780 later and they were booked onto flights the next day and we had to actually encourage her to have a glass of wine with dinner, just so she didn't have the same problem the next day. We took them again the next day and off they went without a hitch. She had a glass of wine with dinner every night and since coming back, she has hardly touched a drop.

She had a glass of wine on Christmas day and only had a few sips and put it down, refusing any more.

SO........sometimes it takes something big, something dangerous or scary to happen before a person can truly see the problem for what it is.

Luckily, my auntie is doing really well now and for the first time in years, her son no longer worries that his mum will kill herself like his dad did. She's actually living again, not just existing.

I know it's nothing the same as you Dan, but just a way of saying that I can see why the PC thing could have been a positive event.

[Dave20046]

She noticed I carry a spare hair elastic on my wrist. She then told me to use it as a reminder to 'shut up', when I could feel my temper going. By pulling at it and letting it flick my wrist, it subsequently joggs my memory with that sharp tap on the wrist to go do something different!
That's a good idea.

Dan have you thought about getting something similar, something you can give a good beating when it gets a bit much? Like a stressball, punchbag or a dog or a child.

[vixis]

and Dan, just remember, there are very few of us who are "normal" (especially on the .org lol), most of us can identify and sympathise with you, well, at least I can (and by all the posts a lot of others). From personal experience, opening up is very difficult but understanding what is happening is part of the battle. Keep going as I really think you will get better and better. I start CBT tomorrow, I could always let you know what its like? ((hugs))

[DanAbnormal]

I didn't know if I should post this thread up, I needed advice and apart from the obvious places (family, professionals) I needed other people's perspective's to see if it was just me being daft. I used to look at this place as just another forum but this thread has made me realise what an amazing place this really is. It certainly is more than the sum of it's parts and that is down to the members. I'm a member on a few other forums for some other hobbies/interests and there just is no way I could post there without ridicule and judgement.

I want to thank each and every person for your support and help no matter how trivial it may seem, it has all helped.:grouphug:

[dirtydog]

I'm a member on a few other forums for some other hobbies/interests and there just is no way I could post there without ridicule and judgement.


Dan you should know by now that we're all best buddies on here and wouldn't judge you...










however the ridicule will come later ;);)

[Biker Biggles]

Sorry.I didnt realise you were after ridicule and judgement.:rolleyes:


Right Get a grip on yourself and pull yourself together.:laughat:
A bit less of :smt033](*,)or it will be:smt070:smt068:plod::reaper:
HTH:-({|=:smt039