OMO: find me a girlfriend

[joshwalker094]

Oh mighty Org, I'm sick of being messed about, especially by ex's.
as I'm little bit fat, no one in college takes an interest as their all looking for mr fit and athletic. I've tried POF.com no luck with that haha and I'm rubbish at talking to girls and have low confidence and self-esteem.

Thanks lovesick
Josh

[dizzyblonde]

Stop looking!
People have a habit of finding each other when they don't purposely try finding a partner.

[kellyjo]

I know how you feel. I'm mother of three, not exactly young, not exactly fit but want to meet someone for a bit of fun. I'm not looking for serious commitment just someone to spend the little bit of free time I have with.
It's very difficult. a friend of mine keeps trying to get me on biker planet but im very reluctant!!!

[joshwalker094]

I'd be happy to commit, after having an ex round on Saturday night, she turned up out of the blue, abit drunk, and sleeping with her on the sofa, nothing sexually happened just snogging and cuddling, it made me realise how much I miss and love her, even though she dumped me two years ago, but I've always still had feelings for her, she led me on so much and i know she doesn't feel much towards me, I suppose she was just using me, like she did two years ago :( but i guess I'm just a really sensitive guy. What's biker planet?

[missyburd]

Do you have any social hobbies that will allow you to mix with new people? If you're talking to girls and immediately grading their girlfriend potential then you will find yourself in a muddle. Learn to relax and enjoy being single, as Lou says one will sound you out when you're least expecting it. Easy for folk with other halves to say I know but it will happen.

Do you still have your hawk? Why not take it with you to town like Jayneflakes does with her barn owl, fantastic talking point, actually genuinely interested girls will come up to you and want to know more... ;)

[Purity14]

Focus on your own life, instead of wasting time on women, spend that time bettering yourself as an individual.
I wish the time I spent with women was spent doing something productive rather than snogging some dumb bitch on a sofa.

HTH

[EssexDave]

Through thorough research it has also been discovered that living a life with prostitutes and enjoying yourself (doing things you've always wanted to do) is cheaper than a wife and kids. Safe yourself the hassle :)

[joshwalker094]

Focus on your own life, instead of wasting time on women, spend that time bettering yourself as an individual.
I wish the time I spent with women was spent doing something productive rather than snogging some dumb bitch on a sofa.

HTH

I'm starting to wish I didn't let her in now, but being a nice guy that I am and since she said she was locked out. I felt I had to.
Cheers for replies people,
I don't have my hawk no more :/ When I'm talking to girls I don't see them as girlfriend material, I see them as a friend. I don't really have many social hobbies, apart from the motorbikes, I don't drink so going pub and socialising there is boring.

[missyburd]

I'm starting to wish I didn't let her in now, but being a nice guy that I am and since she said she was locked out. I felt I had to.
Cheers for replies people,
I don't have my hawk no more :/ When I'm talking to girls I don't see them as girlfriend material, I see them as a friend. I don't really have many social hobbies, apart from the motorbikes, I don't drink so going pub and socialising there is boring.

So how many bike meets do you go to? Do you not find non-biking girls interested in your bike? Do you just ride it for pleasure or transport?

And find another hobby, no point moping about, that's not going to get you anywhere. If you're concerned about your weight then maybe a physical hobby? Running or gymming can be a great way to meet people. You have cats, should have got a dog haha. Dog walking another great way to interact with other life beings :p

[JamesMio]

I'm little bit fat...

That bothered you enough to mention it - you don't drink, so you're already at a huuuuge advantage. Join a gym / buy a push bike and get yourself fit.

A) You'll feel MUCH better for it.
B) You'll look MUCH better for it.

Oh, and get a job behind a reasonably busy bar - sure-fire way to get used to / comfortable with talking to loads of girls.

[Specialone]

Josh, don't waste your time with ex's or women that treat you badly, feck them off.
Taking crap will only end one way, in a split, it might be ok sometimes but eventually it will end.
Cut your losses and move on or you'll waste your life, I'm talking from experience here so know what I'm on about.

At your age, don't bother looking for any serious as all the birds you might think are the one, statistically speaking probably aren't as you both will mature and probably grow apart.

I know it's a chauvanistic thing to say but **** your way round as much as you can while your young, then it'll be out your system.

[Wideboy]

Stop looking!
People have a habit of finding each other when they don't purposely try finding a partner.

This, a lot of people say it but its true. If you look you'll end up attracting the wrong sort and end up in tears again.

Also start talking to women otherwise its not going to happen, laughter is key. You can humour a lady into your trap. I mean relationship! Its worked for me, either that or it sympathy.

So to recap, talk to women more, humour and if you find yourself in a situation were its all failing, put on a cape, carry a cape at all times... its not weird, chicks dig capes!

[Wideboy]

Also don't fall for all this metrosexual **** with wearing pink shirts and earings. It doesn't work you wont look cool, just look like a tw@ and get beaten up.

[EssexDave]

Also don't fall for all this metrosexual **** with wearing pink shirts and earings. It doesn't work you wont look cool, just look like a tw@ and get beaten up.


Talking from experience?

[Roberrrrt]

Listen and learn. And pish yourself laughing in between...

http://tenminutepodcast.com/2012/10/04/tmp-how-to-text-chicks/

[Specialone]

Damn, never thought of a cape, wish I knew you 25 years ago Gav, that's a great tool :)

[Wideboy]

Talking from experience?

Strangely I can honestly say, no

[minimorecambe]

How old are you Josh?

WB and DB are right. The you should stop looking. I was out of a relationship for a good few years and I gave up then he came along.
If you aren't looking you will probably come across as more approachable and confident as you won't be trying to impress.
Your perfect girl will probably turn up on the Org one day.

Be confident. Don't just automatically think that the pretty girl over there won't like you because if you are a nice guy then she probably will.
Not all women are shallow (if you are worried about your looks), if you do feel crap in yourself then try and lose some weight and you will feel much better.

Just be patient.

[NTECUK]

if your under 30 play the field .
your be more settled when your older and find the right person to commit too

[joshwalker094]

i am nearly 19, but very mature, not like your usual 18 year old who goes out getting wasted and sleeping around. I think its time to start using this thing with two wheels and pedals in my room, try and do at least an hour a night on it.
i dont want to go gym, never liked them,
i really think my low confidence is a drawback in me being able to talk to girls and the fact that im very shy

[L3nny]

i am nearly 19

You are way too young to be worrying about settling down, enjoy yourself while you can. You have plenty of time to be nagged at by a woman when you're older.

[Bibio]

don't go looking for it let it come to you. there is such a thing a love at first sight and you will know when it happens.

if i can get married to a beautiful woman (in my eyes) then anyone can.

the good women look beyond the outside of a person but i'm afraid that they are few and far between.

[joshwalker094]

You are way too young to be worrying about settling down, enjoy yourself while you can. You have plenty of time to be nagged at by a woman when you're older.
i love being in a relationship, you know the going out, cuddles, having someone to look after/ care for, being able to talk to and share thoughts and so on.....
i hate being lonely

[chezvegas85]

If you struggle with the excer bike you could always try something like a kinect, some of the games burn a lot of calories and use and whole range of muscle groups, works better for me as i prefer having targets/a competitive edge. I'm sat in the camp of don't 'go out looking/worry about it'. I was much the same at 16/17 (very mature, low self esteem, bad ex-girlfriend heartbreak and looking for love). Once i gave up and just lived my own life then things started to turn around (about sixth form time so 18-19). Just my two pence worth

[joshwalker094]

If you struggle with the excer bike you could always try something like a kinect, some of the games burn a lot of calories and use and whole range of muscle groups, works better for me as i prefer having targets/a competitive edge. I'm sat in the camp of don't 'go out looking/worry about it'. I was much the same at 16/17 (very mature, low self esteem, bad ex-girlfriend heartbreak and looking for love). Once i gave up and just lived my own life then things started to turn around (about sixth form time so 18-19). Just my two pence worth

its a road bike, i love riding it, just got lazy, and its dieting i find hard.

im in college, plenty of gorgeous girls, but you none in my accountancy course, and I'd feel like a weirdo trying to start a convo with a random girl

[Bibio]

don't diet change your habits instead. i went from a 48'' waist to a 34'' waist in 1 year and its easy. no determination required but a few rules. and absolutely no exercise done to achieve it.

[chezvegas85]

ah right, yeah i used to cycle everywhere. owning two motors has put paid to that, i need to get back on mine as i really enjoyed cycling. although i never owned any lycra and was on a mountain bike. Yeh i know what you mean about talking to random girls, much easier when its not a deliberate conversation being started. As in when there's a larger social group - friend of a friend, or if its in the workplace. So thats a +1 for a part time job being a good idea, any where you work with the public.

[joshwalker094]

Well work with my dad window cleaning and have my own gardening round, so not good for meeting people, but I'm gonna need a part time job over winter, might ask my old work place if they have and part time bar jobs since I'm old enough now.
Explain more If you could lance.
I have a problem with eating to much chocolate/sweets and fizzy drinks, I'm stopping them today !
I can't stand salad and fruit, love apples though and veg.

[Bibio]

easy. i call it the bin method. PM on its way.

might take a while as i'm slow at typing

[dizzyblonde]

There's many people who are skin deep, shallow, and only pretty on the outside.
Always be yourself, because you end up finding a genuine partner in doing so.
Try being something you aren't, you only get soneone else just as fake in return.......then, you have to live with it, or waste half your life until you realise what's in front of you, is not what you wanted.

[NTECUK]

There's many people who are skin deep, shallow, and only pretty on the outside.
Always be yourself, because you end up finding a genuine partner in doing so.
Try being something you aren't, you only get soneone else just as fake in return.......then, you have to live with it, or waste half your life until you realise what's in front of you, is not what you wanted.
:winner:
Don't Rush in.
19 is too young to know what you want for the nex 50 years !

[Wideboy]

College girls aren't worth it, they're immature and crave male attention no matter their relationship status. When I were a college lad I found the girls immature and money grabbers. Girls in clubs are the same as well as slags.


Probably your best way is through interests or activities, maybe going to the gym might be away to mingle with some birds?, gyms aren't that daunting just don't go to bodybuilding gyms. Swimming? (You get to see what they offer that way, and If they're a man). Your more likely to meet a normal non-socialite female through interest.

Tbh I'd shag you

[yorkie_chris]

i love being in a relationship, you know the going out, cuddles, having someone to look after/ care for, being able to talk to and share thoughts and so on.....
i hate being lonely

MTFU and get out on the ale. :-P

[Raf]

Take dance classes, it will help you with confidence, teach you something new and you will meet lots of new people. It doesn't matter if you are no good at it, rhythm is not your friends or got two left feet, you are there to learn and there will be people at the same level as you.

[dizzyblonde]

MTFU and get out on the ale. :-P

Jeeez, beer goggles........this is not good advice! :lol:

[missyburd]

Take dance classes, it will help you with confidence, teach you something new and you will meet lots of new people. It doesn't matter if you are no good at it, rhythm is not your friends or got two left feet, you are there to learn and there will be people at the same level as you.
Not a bad idea at all...and if you want a dance that requires plenty of switching of partners then Salsa might be worth a try. Any dancing classes are always crying out for chaps to partner up with the ladies so you'd be welcomed with open arms! :-P

[missyburd]

Jeeez, beer goggles........this is not good advice! :lol:
It's the only advice he knows...oh wait. Doesn't say much about me :smt082

[yorkie_chris]

Jeeez, beer goggles........this is not good advice! :lol:

Not out on the pull, out on the lash. There is a difference!

There is nothing as therapeutic as a skull-rending hangover resultant from consuming far too much wells bombardier for putting lifes little trivial issues in perspective!

[dizzyblonde]

Not out on the pull, out on the lash. There is a difference!

There is nothing as therapeutic as a skull-rending hangover resultant from consuming far too much wells bombardier for putting lifes little trivial issues in perspective!
Ends up being the same thing surely?
When you wake up next to a troll you can't remember taking home, that really pits life into perspective!

[hindle8907]

MTFU and get out on the ale. :-P

:winner:
Get out there any enjoy life, I'm sure you will meet some one when the time is right.

[Sally]

MTFU and get out on the ale. :-P

Just wondering, why don't you drink? (josh not YC, he's a raging alco) :)
And its not a dig, I would love to go out and be able not to booze.

Most of my socialising is done through work, friends, sports and drinking!

Met a lot of people through going out on the lash, going out for a few pints to watch the football, drinks with people from work etc
Most girls I meet are through work, going to parties or any social event.

[Purity14]

I don't drink either, through choice.
I guess I could drink, but the benefits don't outweigh the negatives.

[Sally]

College girls aren't worth it, they're immature and crave male attention no matter their relationship status. When I were a college lad I found the girls immature and money grabbers. Girls in clubs are the same as well as slags.

Massive amount of unfair stereotyping there.

Girls in clubs are immature, money grabbing slags?

I go to clubs, with a group of my mates, good mix of girls and guys, most are students, not immature, not out to find someone with money, just out to have a good time and have a laugh with their mates.

I don't drink either, through choice.
I guess I could drink, but the benefits don't outweigh the negatives.

Wasn't a dig at people who don't choose to, was just a question.

[Wideboy]

I didn't say all of them, the majority is.

[widepants]

In my opinion , the one thing that women can pick up on is a "needy person" and there's nothing (appart from BO) thats more off putting to the ladies .Sorry to say it mate but you are coming across as real clingy and needy

[missyburd]

Harsh as it sounds Monsieur Non makes a fine point. You need to be an independent man! However, if needy and clingy is where you're at then there are just as many needy women out there as there are independent ones. There's always someone to suit, it's just a matter of getting your paths to cross :)

[gruntygiggles]

Best bit of advice I can give is to just carry on as you are....minus letting the ex in. She is a taker...they give nothing in life, but leave heartache and emptiness in their wake!

Just carry on being you, don't try to change yourself. If you want to better yourself, for it, but just make yourself a better you, not a different you. So if you want to lose weight, do it. If you want to learn a new skill, do it...just don't change who you are.

I say this because some things in life should be allowed to just happen. By actively searching for a relationship, you are putting pressure on yourself and that is never good.

Get up, get out and find things to do. Not for the chance of meeting a girl, but to get you out and enjoying yourself...meeting someone can happen as a happy bonus and there will be no expectation, no pressure and more chance of meeting a like minded girl if it should happen.


Failing that, just get a lodger...worked for me :-)

[Biker Biggles]

Tbh I'd shag you

Theres always the turning gay option.;)

[bathwiggle]

Josh, as has been said before you'll most likely find someone when you aren't looking. Having somehow ended up dating a lad off here after he posted something similar, look for opportunities to meet more people, and work on improving your own confidence, be it joining a gym, kick boxing club, my sister is convinced the lads going to her spinning class are just out to chat to the lasses there.

I don't drink, but enjoy going to the pub just to get out and see people. But my friends have accepted that while they can get ****ed, i won't be joining them. All of my relationships (i say this... all 3 of them) have started like this, so not seeing them as a gf to start with is not a bad thing.

But personally, try and focus on you, and being happy with who you are/what you've got, once you're happy with you, then start worrying about it. But i like being single as i'm a little strange.

[minimorecambe]

Theres always the turning gay option.;)

Problem is he is mine :p



Although I can stud him out for a reasonable cost :p

[Bibio]

another bibs life story time

i was out with a mate visiting some of his other mates in Burntisland in fife when i was introduced to the now wife and bang i knew instantly i would spend the rest of my life with her. the wife felt exactly the same at the same point when we met. 20 years later and we are still together :-)

if i hadn't gone i would most probably be doing exactly what i was doing before we met and that was drifting between one girlfriend to another. ok so Lorna wasn't the prettiest girl i have ever dated but i wasn't (for a change) looking at her boobies. as it turns out she was also inelegant so her company was good unlike some of the others i have dated who to be fair were only good for one thing and soon became boring.

[-Ralph-]

I saw this thread this morning and thought it would be met with a stony silence. What a bunch of Cilla Black's you lot are! ;-)

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[dizzyblonde]

I told Pegasus to feck orf when I first met him. Served him right for asking if I wore a nurse's uniform in front of my ex!

He reckons he's dreamt of me all his life........its ok everyone, get the sick bucket, I do every time he says it!

[Bibio]

what a poor deluded man if you were the only woman he dreamt of..












runs and hides. love you really dizz xx

[SoulKiss]

and have low confidence and self-esteem.

That's your problem right there.

As the song says "Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all".

As for talking to them, girls are people too, ignore the extra bumpy bits and deal with them on that footing.

Chill, relax, be yourself, and don't settle for second best o not good enough for you.

[dizzyblonde]

:lol:

Oh I agree, I can't understand it either!

[Bibio]

just as long as you don't get to used to loving yourself :toss: as you go blind

[-Ralph-]

There's a woman I've been dreaming about all my life too.

I'm crossing the road, and my feet and legs turn to lead. When I come to a stop in the middle of the road, unable to move any further, suddenly I realise I'm naked and the whole street is watching, with this particular woman pointing and laughing at me. Then I look to my left, and there she is again, bearing down on me in an articulated truck with a sadistic grin on her face.

Thank god I've never met her!

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[Bibio]

i think you'll find Ralph that dream is not a dream it's a vision from your past when you were a youth and you got drunk for the first time.

[carelesschucca]

Colin please warn me when you think your gonna meet her I so don't wanna see you naked. Ever!

Lets be honest as one forum member said to me recently. If girls didn't have breasts and a pussy guys wouldn't be interested.

Ah he's such an old romantic at heart LOL!

[sv4me]

Lets be honest as one forum member said to me recently. If girls didn't have breasts and a pussy guys wouldn't be interested.

Wasn't me.

But I wholeheartedly agree \\:D/

[-Ralph-]

Let me guess the actual expression used Dean...

'If it wisnae for the hole between their legs, we wouldnae even speak tae them!'

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[carelesschucca]

That could be the end of the phrase used. Ring a bell? Lol!

[dizzyblonde]

How uncouth!!
Ladies.......are not just a hole for a toad to stick his sausage in! If women are spoken of in this context, its usually because they are not ladies at all.(or mingers)


Thankfully Josh is not after a woman who is a slack Alice, he's a little more discerning!

[joshwalker094]

How uncouth!!
Ladies.......are not just a hole for a toad to stick his sausage in! If women are spoken of in this context, its usually because they are not ladies at all.(or mingers)


Thankfully Josh is not after a woman who is a slack Alice, he's a little more discerning!

I'm a Gent :)
This ex, was happily grabbing my crotch, but I didn't and wouldn't take advantage off this! It could of easily turned into s e x.
Now don't go hating at my guys, I did the right thing!
And Sally, I don't drink alcohol as I don't like the taste of it, and having seen first hand what trouble it cause, so I've been put off.

[yorkie_chris]

I don't think anyone would judge you for that. At least without knowing what she looked like anyway :-P

You actually remind me of Seggons, at least you don't ride into bushes a lot.

(josh not YC, he's a raging alco) :)

Calling me a raging alco! Pot, kettle what?! :smt082


Get up, get out and find things to do. Not for the chance of meeting a girl, but to get you out and enjoying yourself...meeting someone can happen as a happy bonus and there will be no expectation, no pressure and more chance of meeting a like minded girl if it should happen.

Go and join some clubs and stuff. Diving, potholing, greenlaning, whatever. Getting to know new people is great for your confidence. what's the college/uni you've started like?


And don't rush to find a bird either, imagine if you start doing some cool stuff, then get a thumbprint on your head and the missus wants to snuggle up and watch X factor or some bollox like that. You might as well shoot yourself...

[gruntygiggles]

I'm a Gent :)
This ex, was happily grabbing my crotch, but I didn't and wouldn't take advantage off this! It could of easily turned into s e x.
Now don't go hating at my guys, I did the right thing!
And Sally, I don't drink alcohol as I don't like the taste of it, and having seen first hand what trouble it cause, so I've been put off.

I wouldn't be concerned about you not having taken advantage of her.

She was the one taking advantage. Harsh As it sounds, she had nowhere else to go but knew she could sweet talk you into letting her stay.

Have you heard from her since? If you have and she has said thanks, fine, stay friends. If she hasn't, see her for what she really is and stay well away in future.

Either way, don't let her in again like that. It is people like her that have such an effect on your confidence and self esteem. You will only build that up by cutting out the people that bring you down and learning to accept who you are and be happy with that.

There is only one of you in this world. Be proud of that...someday, the person will come along that loves all those things that make you you.

Oh...and most people in a long term relationship will tell you the same thing...

It is not the obvious things that make us keep loving someone more and more...it is the little things. Usually annoying, but uniquely you...they are the things that someone will not want to live without one day...so just learn to love yourself for who you are :-)

[joshwalker094]

She's beautiful :D an angel I might say :D things are complicated with her, after chatting to a friend last she says forget her, as she's seems like trouble :/
Well I've got my drz for green laning, just need time and places to go. I'd love to try diving, pot holing?

[joshwalker094]

I wouldn't be concerned about you not having taken advantage of her.

She was the one taking advantage. Harsh As it sounds, she had nowhere else to go but knew she could sweet talk you into letting her stay.

Have you heard from her since? If you have and she has said thanks, fine, stay friends. If she hasn't, see her for what she really is and stay well away in future.

Either way, don't let her in again like that. It is people like her that have such an effect on your confidence and self esteem. You will only build that up by cutting out the people that bring you down and learning to accept who you are and be happy with that.

There is only one of you in this world. Be proud of that...someday, the person will come along that loves all those things that make you you.

Oh...and most people in a long term relationship will tell you the same thing...

It is not the obvious things that make us keep loving someone more and more...it is the little things. Usually annoying, but uniquely you...they are the things that someone will not want to live without one day...so just learn to love yourself for who you are :-)

Thanks,
We spoke on Sunday after I took her home, but only for a short while it seems, she said she would love to be friends again ect... But not heard anything since tbh. Text her yesterday asking if she is ok, no reply.
Things are gonna change now! Decided yesterday time to move on/ diet lose some weight and get on with life.

[Stenno]

Cut down on the cake, study hard, invent the new facebook, pick whatever girl you want! Boom.

[Stenno]

That or try okcupid.com

[dizzyblonde]

Yes you were a gent josh. However I'm sure if you were just a good time sort of a guy, you'd have succumbed to her charms! Also if you were a good time sort of guy I'm sure every bloke and his mate could give you the number to a friendly bike to play with!


I don't think anyone would judge you for that. At least without knowing what she looked like anyway :-P

You actually remind me of Seggons, at least you don't ride into bushes a lot.



Calling me a raging alco! Pot, kettle what?! :smt082



Go and join some clubs and stuff. Diving, potholing, greenlaning, whatever. Getting to know new people is great for your confidence. what's the college/uni you've started like?


And don't rush to find a bird either, imagine if you start doing some cool stuff, then get a thumbprint on your head and the missus wants to snuggle up and watch X factor or some bollox like that. You might as well shoot yourself...


Doing 'cool stuff' is ok whilst still single, and only thinking of yourself, but when you mature, you tend to settle down, if that's what you want....so snuggling down with the missus is nice. Unless of course you have a bunny boiling girlfriend who only allows you to do her activities and not your own......but I'm pretty sure that's some sort of kidnap :lol:

[yorkie_chris]

Doing 'cool stuff' is ok whilst still single, :lol:

Bollox!
It's always to be positively encouraged. Fair enough there are probably fewer married/under the cosh blokes out there doing things to make being alive worthwhile... but it's all about finding some sort of balance in it. The two things are not mutually exclusive!

Just because you're in a relationship (for both parties) does not mean sitting at home like a sad tw*t. Look at a certain member on here whose (now ex) missus was interested in him because he had a life* motorbikes, mountain biking, getting away camping in the van... then proceeded to try and stop him doing all this stuff!


*Sitting at home watching X factor is not actually being alive, it's a form of brain death.

[dizzyblonde]

No, you've missed the point. A lot of men deem doing cool stuff as the be all and end all, their girlfriend is out of the equation. Yes, it is all about balance, this is indeed true, as is the x factor, but when your cool stuff ends your relationship, then you've gone about it all wrong. Doing cool stuff together far out weighs, the single minded version.

Thankfully, my previous and current relationship were balanced....although, being a drunken prat ended the last one!

[widepants]

I was with my ex for 10 years and no natter how hard I tried she would not even entertain doing something that interested me .Her attitude , even without trying it, was "dont like that ,hate this lalala .Over 3 years later My partner now is up for trying anything, and will happily muck in with camping and biking weekends etc . I tried dancing...didnt like it .She tried fishing...didnt like it BUT....we both gave it a go .
Now we do the things together that we love and do the others on our own .easy peasy

[Spank86]

Also if you were a good time sort of guy I'm sure every bloke and his mate could give you the number to a friendly bike to play with!
Why did nobody tell me the .Org offered that service!

:D

[missyburd]

I was with my ex for 10 years and no natter how hard I tried she would not even entertain doing something that interested me .Her attitude , even without trying it, was "dont like that ,hate this lalala .Over 3 years later My partner now is up for trying anything, and will happily muck in with camping and biking weekends etc . I tried dancing...didnt like it .She tried fishing...didnt like it BUT....we both gave it a go .
Now we do the things together that we love and do the others on our own .easy peasy
Exactly. Having your own hobbies means you get that time away from your other half and space to breathe which in theory makes you appreciate coming back to your partner. But then this isn't gospel, some couples spend all their time in each other pockets which can work too. Nobody can really give accurate advice about relationships, every single one is different and what one person thinks is normal another will think wtf. What is normal. Hell, there are those couples that prefer to mix, match and swing about with anyone else who's willing haha.

[dizzyblonde]

Why did nobody tell me the .Org offered that service!

:D

If you were a bloke on the org, would you pass on the number of dial-a-bike?

[Wideboy]

Tbh mate I think your viewing this woman with rose tinted glasses. She seems a user and an attention craver, Cut her off and life will improve.... no offence

I tried dancing...

:smt082

[widepants]

crap...did I really put that on a public forum.

[-Ralph-]

My partner now is up for trying anything... Now we do the things together that we love and do the others on our own

Lucky Barsteward. Have you bought her the 50 shades of grey trilogy yet?

;)

[gruntygiggles]

Thanks,
We spoke on Sunday after I took her home, but only for a short while it seems, she said she would love to be friends again ect... But not heard anything since tbh. Text her yesterday asking if she is ok, no reply.
Things are gonna change now! Decided yesterday time to move on/ diet lose some weight and get on with life.

She doesn't need anything from you, so why bother replying? Her lot honestly cause so much hurt to people that deserve anything but that kind of treatment.

Surround yourself with people who will lift you up, not push you down :-)

[widepants]

Lucky Barsteward. Have you bought her the 50 shades of grey trilogy yet?

;)
Nope , but we did find an interesting shop in Plymouth the other weekend .But she did make me laugh when she said "How can that be a shop , it says Private across the front?:smt050

[Spank86]

If you were a bloke on the org...

what do you mean if? :confused::(:D


would you pass on the number of dial-a-bike?

No, probably not, but then I don't know anyone that bad.

[Wideboy]

What about fallout and thunderace?

[Wideboy]

crap...did I really put that on a public forum.

Don't worry, I saw a picture of YC doing the two step (or something similar) with Maria the other day ;)

I'm pretty sure Lynn showed me a picture of you dancing, I can't remember it was either that or that one of you with your massive perm and leather jacket

:lol:

[widepants]

YC was actually line dancing , and that was no perm...that was my naturaal curly scouse look

[Spank86]

What about fallout and thunderace?

True, but they've got each other now:makelurve:, I'd never break that up.

[Bibio]

so you were snogging and she was fondling your man parts and you never took it further. no wonder she never phoned you back, she thinks your turning gay. women have the desire just as much as men but unlike men if they don't get it when they want it they huff BIG style as it's a rejection. yes men huff but it's part and parcel for us to have to put up with it as it's a woman's prerogative to give it out. so what if she wants a little slap and tickle with you now and again, at least you still get it while you find the right partner.

man up or start going to church.

[joshwalker094]

so you were snogging and she was fondling your man parts and you never took it further. no wonder she never phoned you back, she thinks your turning gay. women have the desire just as much as men but unlike men if they don't get it when they want it they huff BIG style as it's a rejection. yes men huff but it's part and parcel for us to have to put up with it as it's a woman's prerogative to give it out. so what if she wants a little slap and tickle with you now and again, at least you still get it while you find the right partner.

man up or start going to church.

Yeah but lance, she was drunk! It wouldn't felt right, seemed like I would be taking advantage of her. How ever I have thought this myself :/ . She told me whilst fondling me that she is sort off seeing a mate of mine( who had moved to York now for uni, says he will call and visit her often, (even though he is just using her)) I did fondle her lady bumps but that was it.

[Spank86]

I think I see your mistake, always make sure you're drunker than the girl. That way you're the one being taken advantage of.

[joshwalker094]

I think I see your mistake, always make sure you're drunker than the girl. That way you're the one being taken advantage of.

But I don't drink :/ and she turned up out of the blue

[Cymraeg_Atodeg]

*what was here: Funny link to a Japanese Love Doll website*

That is all

[yorkie_chris]

Yeah but lance, she was drunk! It wouldn't felt right, seemed like I would be taking advantage of her. How ever I have thought this myself :/ . She told me whilst fondling me that she is sort off seeing a mate of mine( who had moved to York now for uni, says he will call and visit her often, (even though he is just using her)) I did fondle her lady bumps but that was it.

My initial summation of MTFU and get on the ale still stands!

[gruntygiggles]

That link won't last long!

[Cymraeg_Atodeg]

That link won't last long!

Dammit, this is in idle banter...

Must. Remove. Link (http://pressthebuttons.typepad.com/photos/uncategorized/wwlink.jpg).

[joshwalker094]

I'm alright, I'll wait for the real deal

[Cymraeg_Atodeg]

I'm alright, I'll wait for the real deal

Ah, the patience of youth

[joshwalker094]

Ah, the patience of youth

It's a bit over rated tbh. Fair enough I love it :D , but been over year since last, so not to bothered haha. And I'm NOT gay!

[gruntygiggles]

*what was here: Funny link to a Japanese Love Doll website*

That is all

I'm not normally one to call these things out, but it had pictures of aroused man bits in the link ;-)