Sh*****g myself about a dinner party.

[furrybean]

On Friday I'm meeting my girlfriends parents and alot of her close friends at an informal dinner party. She throws them at least once a year so all her friends can meet up from around the country and have a drink.
There is a bit of an age difference. I'm 23 and shes 9 years older so I'm crapping myself, never met any of her friends or family before but I had an allie that my eldest sister and brother in law are coming. Now theyve had to cancel which has left just me!!!

Am i being irrational or is it quite a big ask of me?

[lynw]

Its scary if you dont know anyone full stop imo. But its a bit irrational if the worry is what people think about the age difference.

I would say if they are her real friends then they will be really happy for her that shes happy with you.

And tbh, 9 years is a normal difference for men and women its just usually been the man older. But now days its, imo, not that big a deal to people for women to be older than a guy. End of the day, does it bother you? If not, why should what others think bother you? What REALLY matters is what you and her think of it.

Just relax, dont get hammered and make an **** out of yourself, show her friends what a courteous, polite and nice guy you are and you'll be fine. :D

[the white rabbit]

That'll teach you to play with bigger girls :wink:

[the white rabbit]

Just relax, dont get hammered and make an @rse out of yourself, show her friends what a courteous, polite and nice guy you are and you'll be fine. :D

Alternatively.... at first be very on your guard, dont relax for a minute , anything could happen, definitely get hammered and make an @rse out of yourself, show her friends what a cool dude and a real lad you are, and you'll be fine 8) :thumbsup:

[jenni]

It's a big ask IMO, however you'll be fine.

Perhaps you could ask your gf to give you an example of what might happen, eg who will be there- exactly how informal it is, what people will be wearing- are jeans ok or are you better off with trousers etc,

Is there a buffet or sit down food?...if its sitn down, perhaps you could get her to do a similar dish for you beforehand, like a dry run so you know exactly what to expect if you are really nervous.

Hope i'm not being patronising but it may be pertinent to check on things like table manners/ swearing etc.

I'm a very fussy cow and just took my bf home to meet my sis, after warning him about language he still swore often, that ****ed me off.
We are from different backgrounds but little things got to me....so i know how girls can be.

HOWEVER. The fact that she wants you to meet everyone mean she has great faith in you and your relationship. I think if you ask questions and let her know you are asking because you don't want to let her down, i'm sure she will be touched

[furrybean]

True, but I was going to get a lift with my brother in law. Now I'll have to drive so I cant drink! :? I guess one of the things that is worrying me is that alot of the people there are very successful in their fields and I'm well.... Not!

[the white rabbit]

Now I'll have to drive so I cant drink!

Nasty, I hate meeting new people sober.

I guess one of the things that is worrying me is that alot of the people there are very successful in their fields and I'm well.... Not!

Succesful in work, loser in something else. Thats a serious piece of advice :wink:

[furrybean]

Could just turn up on my bike in leathers with a few mates!

I'll really have to watch my P's and Q's. Her parents are real Cheshire set I think but I think I can hold my own. Just making polite conversation is what will do my head in! We're off for a weekend away too the following weekend so if I do make a tit of myself I've got confined nagging for 3 days!

[jenni]

yeah....but you don't have wrinkles right.............?:lol: :lol:

most people at parties don't talk shop, unless they all work together.

if you want conversation topics watch the news the week before....don't start anything too controvershall though :wink:

[jenni]

Could just turn up on my bike in leathers with a few mates!

I'll really have to watch my P's and Q's. Her parents are real Cheshire set I think but I think I can hold my own. Just making polite conversation is what will do my head in! We're off for a weekend away too the following weekend so if I do make a tit of myself I've got confined nagging for 3 days!


i know this feeling, but its only one night....try mingling lots.....even if you have the same conversation with everybody, at least you won't habve to listen to one long drone.


if all else fails, keep asking questions....people love talking about themselves

[furrybean]

...if you want conversation topics watch the news the week before....don't start anything too controvershall though :wink:

Day after tomorrow!!! I read the papers so I reckon I can hold my own... But not at the party. Frowned upon apparently!

Anyone watch that Armando Ianucci sketch at dinner parties where he finds things to say in his food. I can relate a little

[furrybean]

I could always just dump her and find a girl whos happy with a Maccy D's and a ride on my bike! lol

NB,
If she ever reads this the above statement was a joke! :wink:

[Ed]

Best poss advice is - be yourself. And be honest - I agree with Rich's view. Don't try to pretend you're something you're not, it'll be obvious.

Try not to fart at the dinner table :wink:

[fizzwheel]

Just relax be yourself and don't put on airs and graces and pretend to be somebody that you're not. I always get nervous to when I meet new people especially a new g/f's parents. Also don't try to cover up your upbringing or what you do for a living. Most people can spot a bullsh*tter a mile off.

I take it that your girlfriend is hosting the party. Well why not offer to help her ?

Try and arrive before the other guests do and then you can be there when they arrive. Offer to take their coats and get them a drink etc etc. That way not only do you get to introduce yourself also you're helping your girlfriend out to. Personally I'd tell her that I was nervous and that you dont want to embarress yourself and let her down. As others have said don't get hammered.

It is a big ask, but at least this way you'll have met them all in one go :D They'll know your nervous as I expect most of the other people have been in that sort of situation to.

[lynw]

The trick here is to RELAX. :lol:

Dont try to deliberately impress people - what impresses most people is someone who is relaxed and confident enough with themselves to not worry about others opinions.

So what if you arent as "successful" as them? Does that equate to they are "better" than you? No it doesnt. End of the day, youre with your girlfriend so you must be doing something right for her to want you to meet her friends.

Personally, if I were her I would have introduced you one by one or before so you at least had met people before which could be intimidating. But its only intimidating if you let it be. :wink:

Trust me, staying sober seems bad to some but its good idea. Not getting drunk avoids embarrassing drunken antics. :D

[the white rabbit]

. And be honest - I agree with Rich's view.

:shock: I was kidding Ed! :lol:

But Ed's right dont pretend.

[furrybean]

Well she's hosting the party at her parents house. She's got a few friends helping here durung the day to cook so by the time I finish work and get a hair cut :wink: it'll be time to set off anyway. I'm a bit bummed I can t drink and there is the offer to stay in the spare room :? but I kindly declined! Good catholic household and all that!

[the white rabbit]

Offer to take their coats and get them a drink etc etc.

But dont dress like a butler, especially like the one in American Pie 3.

[the white rabbit]

I'm a bit bummed I can t drink and there is the offer to stay in the spare room !

CAUTION! They could be 'swingers' :shock:

[Demonz]

Take some hints from Meet the Parents - just started on the beeb...

[Jabba]

Best poss advice is - be yourself. And be honest - I agree with Rich's view. Don't try to pretend you're something you're not, it'll be obvious.

Try not to f*rt at the dinner table :wink:

In particular, don't fart in front of her mother. Let her mother have first go :D





Boom-tish!!

[Jabba]

I'm a bit bummed I can t drink and there is the offer to stay in the spare room !

CAUTION! They could be 'swingers' :shock:

I was worried about you before that post :shock:




:lol:

[the white rabbit]

There's a lot of it about these days.

[anna]

I understand where you are coming from here I get nervous and very shy about meeting new people especially people who I am trying to impress.

A good thing to remember is that you will no doubt find something in common with at least a few people who will be going. As they are friends of your g/f they will undoubtedly be keen to like you and, to get to know you so you wont be short of conversation.

As previously stated if in doubt as to what to say, say nothing and let them talk guaranteed they will like you as they have just spent the whole evening talking about themselves :wink:

[Filipe M.]

I'm a bit bummed I can t drink and there is the offer to stay in the spare room :? but I kindly declined!

That was a good move, IMO. If you're really interested in her, you'll want to stay in her bedroom, not the spare one! :lol:

[the white rabbit]

I'm a bit bummed I can t drink and there is the offer to stay in the spare room :? but I kindly declined!

That was a good move, IMO. If you're really interested in her, you'll want to stay in her bedroom, not the spare one! :lol:

:smt046

[Anonymous]

aw bless you are so sweet wanting to ensure you make the right impression. as you are not drinking you should be fine. just talk about bikes they will think your cool.

your gf likes you but dont hang about her all night. gravitate back to her every now and then for a wee grope of her ****.

if all else fails come down with chicken pox the day before (every child gets then at this time of year :lol: )

have fun im sure it will be ok. if not you wont have to endure it again

[cuffy]

I understand where you are coming from here I get nervous and very shy about meeting new people especially CUFFY who I am trying to impress.

:wink: Awww shux :oops:

My advice...be yourself...and you could always look through mine n Eds posts and have them in hysterics with our jokes :lol: :lol: :lol:

[anna]

I understand where you are coming from here I get nervous and very shy about meeting new people especially CUFFY who I am trying to impress.

:wink: Awww shux :oops:

My advice...be yourself...and you could always look through mine n Eds posts and have them in hysterics with our jokes :lol: :lol: :lol:

:roll: ....... Cuffy he wants to make a good impression and not have all the guests making their excuses early and leaving due to the bad jokes! :roll:

[Anonymous]

so how did it go? do you still have a gf?

[furrybean]

I'm invited over to Ireland to their holiday home for her brothers birthday so I guess it didnt go that bad. :thumbsup: Stinking hang over this morning tho!

Thanks for all the advise! I'll post again later

[Anonymous]

cool. glad it went ok. 8)

[anna]

see you needednt have been so nervous.. glad it went well though ;)