Blast from the past

Her mistakes were made when she was at primary school (so she was aged 10 or less?), and it seems like she's changed.

Personally i'd have just not replied if i didn't have anything positive to say - but if it made you feel better then thats cool.

You go girl!

I was bullied at secondary school, and if any of them got in touch they'd get much harsher words from me, along the lines of f*** off.

One tried to talk to me in the park a few years ago, both our girls were about the same age and she obviously felt we had something in common, and looked shocked when I blanked her. Now that was satisfaction!

Good on you-she was looking for you to let her off so she could get on with her life with no guilt, but failed to see how much it had had an effect on you-so well done F**k her and her apology-probably find her kids are getting the same grief you got and now the boots on the other foot-i'm still looking out for one or two who gave me a hard time-vengence is a B**ch but four years of hell at school can't be let go if the oppertunity presents itself

[Bibio]

a very, well done to you....

Originally Posted by Miss Alpinestarhero

Yup shes blocked. But she managed to squeeze in a reply before i did it. apparently she doesnt remember anything and wont contact me again. Yippee to me

Originally Posted by missyorkie_chris

Why did she say sorry for the "bad time you had in school" and then in the next message say "she can't remember anything"? Clearly she remembers enough to know you weren't a happy bunny as a schoolkid

Exactly what I was going to say, but more eloquently. Why write in the first place, then claim to remember nothing about it?

Congrats on your stance, and feeling better for it Maria.

I was bullied in primary & secondary school, and one day something 'snapped' & although I still don't regret what I did, if it wasn't for my best friend at the time, my life would of probably worked out very differently (table saw incident ). Although, non of the others bothered bullying me after it too

You didn't have to go anywhere near what I did, and get the positive effects from it still.

IMO, you definitely did the right thing. Should anyone else from school contact you, I think you'd still be right to reply in the same manner to them too. I also like the idea of getting the .Org to send messages to people.

Maria, you are amazing!! Having been bullied at secondary school, I understand where you're coming from.

I think there was nothing wrong with what you said. Personally I'd say much harsher things and maybe add in the odd threat in my blind fit of typing range.

So don't worry about what you said. It's obviously biting away at her that she knows she shouldn't have done what she did.

I wonder if she would appreciate a fresh layer of rubber from many bikes on her property if anyone's up for a ride (Only Kidding)

but now you cant plan your evil revenge

[BanannaMan]

Well done!
Sort of full circle in eliminating that carp from earlier in your life.
Feels Good huh?





Each of us control our own happiness in life.
Don't let others steal that from you.
Be it in the past or present.
Burn your bridges where you need too.
Toss out the people in life who make you miserable.
Show forgiveness to those that deserve it.
Life's too short not to enjoy it.
Overcome the things in life that would drag you down.
Choose to be happy.

Originally Posted by Miss Alpinestarhero

I had a facebook message 2 weeks ago from a girl who used to bully me in primary school. She basically said that she heard that I had a bad time in school and she apologises for what she did. But she put it down to the fact that we were young and stupid and didn't know what she was doing.

Ive been agonising over whether to reply or not. Part of me thought "she doesnt even deserve a reply" whereas the other part thought "if I don't reply she will feel like she has done the right thing & therefore has the upper hand so to speak". Although life is too short to hold grudges, I feel pretty bitter about it. My experience of primary school really was pure hell and there were moments where I wished I didn't have to wake up. Its certainly shaped who I am now - Im not as confident or sure of myself as I should be.

Anyway, I replied a moment ago saying:

I originally deleted your message because I thought it didn't deserve a reply. I've changed my mind and my response is as follows:

I do NOT accept your apology. The fact that you were "young and stupid" (as you so eloquently put it) is no excuse. You still knew wrong from right - all children do. Whats' happened has happened and you will have to live with the guilt and regret that your actions made my life a living hell. I'm a better, stronger and highly successful woman now and have only one thing to ask of you: DON'T contact me again.

No ideas if those words were right but I feel that something has been lifted. I feel like I've finally managed to speak up (in a weird way) and have the last say and upper hand.

I hope none of the others contact me, Im not quite sure if I could handle all that in one go.

Sorry, I just wanted to blabber a bit. Hope you dont mind.

Maria

bullys deserve no sympathy.................. good for u x