an orger in need
 

Probly the wrong place for this but there is a few like minded/experienced peeps on here. Just split with my girlfriend of 8 years and finding things err a little difficult. Still got my 3 little people to keep me going on but I've found my recent bimbles getting more and more "wreckless" shall we say. Advice please fellow riders, do I keep off the bike until I'm more centred or do I just try and remember its not just me? The problem is I love bimbling at a great rate of knots cos it frees away the cobwebs and stops me pitying myself. Peeps who have gone through this will know where I am coming from. Please don't be cruel, I need a friend.

A very sad sookie.:(

Re: an orger in need
 

Sorry to hear about it mate.

Time is always a healer i guess so maybe a few weeks away from the bike wouldn't be a bad idea, especially if you are suggesting it yourself. :rolleyes:

Is it definitely your situation causing recklessness though?

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Don't wanna bring people down but I found out I've been a bit of a blind monkey over the last few years and I feel useless. All the "what ifs" that usually run through my mind approaching a corner have just paled into insignificance recenty. A bit of "so bloody what" and that, you know what I mean? The toe scraping and knee sliding have been a more attractive feature and when I get home to the kids I think I've been a plonker again cos I might not be so lucky next time. Trying to keep the fact the kids need at least one parent in their lives at the forefrontof my mind is a wee bitty difficult when I love scaring myself so much.Again I'm sorry to all but ahm f***ed. Its the third time around for mae and the kids and I don't know how mush more I can take...sorry. I maybe need to phone the samaritans or summat.

Re: an orger in need
 

Take a break dude.

If you must **** yourself up a bit, save up and do a track day or two instead, mistakes will not leave you wrapped round a lamp post or find a safer hobbie for a while.

Let time pass and sort your head out. Friends, family, whatever... try and let them take your mind off it.

Hope you make the right decision anyhow. :)

Re: an orger in need
 

Your situation will be a hell of alot worse if you lose your health, sell it. As for cheering yourself up, dating again and or surrounding yourself with friends/people.

Re: an orger in need
 

Sookie

I know exactly how you feel, I have been whedre you are as have most of us. I seem to keep revisiting this 'bad' place and dumped on from a great height and each time the "picking yourself up and dusting yourself off" takes longer and longer. I have no self worth and very little respect for myself which makes me the clown I am as it's all a big front.

You WILL in time feel better and eventually be happy, whether that be on your own or with a new partner.

I would suggest keeping off the bike for a while or if you do feel the need, make sure you go out with someone who can set the pace a little slower. The fact you are asking the question means you care about yourself.

PM me if you need a friendly chat ..... I can talk utter rubbish and I bet I can make you laugh !

Hugs hun xxxxxxx

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Sounds good, thanx. I don't wanna become another statistic but I just love the control when riding, difficult to explain I suppose, but my future, my hands n that. Don't wanna think about the future further than the next few mins when going at speed. Tis funny really when I think about it, my first marraige ended cos I killed myself, sort of, on a bike. Code blue and all that shenanigans. I'll go away soon and cry. Again ahm sorry to all that may stumble across this bloody horrible post but thank you Binky, I need a friend and you have covered that post. May you live too long to die young n that. Forever in your debt.

sookie (the broken).

Re: an orger in need
 

Sorry, loads of responses when I was typing. thank you one and all.

Re: an orger in need
 

Reading the responses, god I lurve you peeps, er in a manly sort of way n that. Gotta stop listening to my smiths collection. GAWD I NEED A FRIEND. Sorry.

Re: an orger in need
 

You seem to have a really sound understanding of what's going on in your head. You will be down for a while - that's normal, so don't think that you should be feeling wonderful, cos you shouldn't. You've just gotta ride it out and keep things under control until things start to brighten up - and this includes your bike.

Perhaps stick a picture of your kids on the inside of your screen.