an orger in need

Probly the wrong place for this but there is a few like minded/experienced peeps on here. Just split with my girlfriend of 8 years and finding things err a little difficult. Still got my 3 little people to keep me going on but I've found my recent bimbles getting more and more "wreckless" shall we say. Advice please fellow riders, do I keep off the bike until I'm more centred or do I just try and remember its not just me? The problem is I love bimbling at a great rate of knots cos it frees away the cobwebs and stops me pitying myself. Peeps who have gone through this will know where I am coming from. Please don't be cruel, I need a friend.

A very sad sookie.

[Binky]

Sorry to hear about it mate.

Time is always a healer i guess so maybe a few weeks away from the bike wouldn't be a bad idea, especially if you are suggesting it yourself.

Is it definitely your situation causing recklessness though?

Don't wanna bring people down but I found out I've been a bit of a blind monkey over the last few years and I feel useless. All the "what ifs" that usually run through my mind approaching a corner have just paled into insignificance recenty. A bit of "so bloody what" and that, you know what I mean? The toe scraping and knee sliding have been a more attractive feature and when I get home to the kids I think I've been a plonker again cos I might not be so lucky next time. Trying to keep the fact the kids need at least one parent in their lives at the forefrontof my mind is a wee bitty difficult when I love scaring myself so much.Again I'm sorry to all but ahm f***ed. Its the third time around for mae and the kids and I don't know how mush more I can take...sorry. I maybe need to phone the samaritans or summat.

[Binky]

Take a break dude.

If you must **** yourself up a bit, save up and do a track day or two instead, mistakes will not leave you wrapped round a lamp post or find a safer hobbie for a while.

Let time pass and sort your head out. Friends, family, whatever... try and let them take your mind off it.

Hope you make the right decision anyhow.

Your situation will be a hell of alot worse if you lose your health, sell it. As for cheering yourself up, dating again and or surrounding yourself with friends/people.

[Shellywoozle]

Sookie

I know exactly how you feel, I have been whedre you are as have most of us. I seem to keep revisiting this 'bad' place and dumped on from a great height and each time the "picking yourself up and dusting yourself off" takes longer and longer. I have no self worth and very little respect for myself which makes me the clown I am as it's all a big front.

You WILL in time feel better and eventually be happy, whether that be on your own or with a new partner.

I would suggest keeping off the bike for a while or if you do feel the need, make sure you go out with someone who can set the pace a little slower. The fact you are asking the question means you care about yourself.

PM me if you need a friendly chat ..... I can talk utter rubbish and I bet I can make you laugh !

Hugs hun xxxxxxx

Sounds good, thanx. I don't wanna become another statistic but I just love the control when riding, difficult to explain I suppose, but my future, my hands n that. Don't wanna think about the future further than the next few mins when going at speed. Tis funny really when I think about it, my first marraige ended cos I killed myself, sort of, on a bike. Code blue and all that shenanigans. I'll go away soon and cry. Again ahm sorry to all that may stumble across this bloody horrible post but thank you Binky, I need a friend and you have covered that post. May you live too long to die young n that. Forever in your debt.

sookie (the broken).

Sorry, loads of responses when I was typing. thank you one and all.

Reading the responses, god I lurve you peeps, er in a manly sort of way n that. Gotta stop listening to my smiths collection. GAWD I NEED A FRIEND. Sorry.

[ophic]

You seem to have a really sound understanding of what's going on in your head. You will be down for a while - that's normal, so don't think that you should be feeling wonderful, cos you shouldn't. You've just gotta ride it out and keep things under control until things start to brighten up - and this includes your bike.

Perhaps stick a picture of your kids on the inside of your screen.