Independant Women

do you really want someone in your life have you not got a good friend you can meet with occasionally for a bit of mutually friendliness - a F+.* buddy.

Im divorced and been living in my own flat with my kids and cant wait to move in with my bf. I enjoy my own company but get lonely. I will still be doing my own hobbies and he will do his but I look forward to spending time with him. never did that with my hubby - didnt really like him

[Shellywoozle]

KK I know where ya coming from, my mutual companions bore me now

I dunno where I am in my life at the mo, feel like I am in limbo land. Had a few bad months and trying to work out if it is all the crap I have had to deal with that is making me feel low or if it's cause I am manless (or womanless <---- for the men to think about).

I have always been a thicker think that's my problem LOL

I am disappearin for 7 days to get drunk, dance and drink a little more so maybe my answers will all come to me in the next week..... and then go cause I will be too drunk to remember.

I wasn't too happy or content until i met Izi, she's my first serious girlfriend. Things got on top of me, felt empty.. When I met her she changed all that, now I'm all loved up I'm a happy, content, fulfilled person. It could be the reason you feel like that?

The sh*tty bit though is that you can't really look for the person to make you feel like that

Lets hope you can reach some life changing decisions then lol...

I know where you coming from tho, I`m independant and like you have a good job, my own house, car and bike and no ties apart from my 2 cats. Problem with me tho was that I think i became a bit too independant and a bit too used to my own company. I deliberately chose to isolate myself a bit cos i was sick to death of meeting d... h.... who saw me as a meal ticket. I wanted to get used to being on my own and finding the real me again. Have found her now hoorah!!! only problem now is that it can be a bit daunting letting go of some of the independance and the fear and letting someone back into your life again.

Oh and in answer to your question yes I have sometimes found that men find the independance a bit intimidating... if in the past i`ve earned more then that`s not always gone down too well but the right man won`t give a damn what you earn and he`ll respect all that you`ve achieved for yourself. He`ll also help you to learn to let go of the past and look forward to the future and learn to trust again.

I`d say tho don`t look to a man to bring you that happiness and contentment, find it in yourself first and just let him be the icing on the cake.

Best of luck hun and have a extra large pina colada with lots of umbrella`s for me x

Originally Posted by Speedy Claire

Oh and in answer to your question yes I have sometimes found that men find the independance a bit intimidating...

You treat a man in the way he would be expected to treat a lady earning less than him, and he'll be allllll yours

see ive been independent and then toooo dependent, found my happy middle ground now with my fellas help
Weve (me and shell) have both been through v similier situs and near enough the same time, keep ypur chin up mr right will come along and he will accept ypu for who you, might gently guide you slightly (like matts done with me) but wont want you to be anything other than yourself

[Shellywoozle]

Speedy C you are so spot on, that's me to a tee. I like my life and enjoy my own company but can't work out what is missing. (oh and we meet the same d**k h**ds too ROFL)

ROFL Paws, yes you and me have been through everything at the same time and helped each other out, it's quite funny really. You are one step ahead of me in 3 things, your back on 2 wheels, you found your man and you have better hair colour than me

He he he he .... maybe I need to go full blonde to see if I can have MORE fun !!!!

[dizzyblonde]

I have to thank a bad boyfriend choice years ago for my strong mindedness. He played with my head so much I didn't know who the hell I was after the relationship. Two relationships on and Im Indoors has to put up with my knack of really not knowing I've just made a guy feel really weeeeeeee, saying how it is and knowing exactly what I want. I have to thank Im Indoors for helping me back on the road to independance........only thing is I hate being on my own, but that will hopefully end soon.

I have a very close friend who says I am constantly burning me bra, but they haven't a clue about my past. These days anything a bloke can do I can probably do it just as well, but I don't like that part of me..........I'm not a spikey charactor, its all a front....which hopefully in the next few months will be neutralised when I can finally settle wih me man
i'm probably not making any sense, but, thats another thing Im a blonde

Originally Posted by Shellywoozle

He he he he .... maybe I need to go full blonde to see if I can have MORE fun !!!!

[SoulKiss]

Originally Posted by Sean_C

Being independent I don't see as a problem, its whether or not you're willing to let people into your life that might turn people away?

Take what I say with a truck full of salt, I'm 18 and don't know a great deal about life, the universe and everything

Toyboy for ya Shell