Independant Women

Originally Posted by Speedy Claire

Tis a good point and i`m not sure bout the majority of women but if Shell is anything like me, ok she`s younger but I`m sure we`re both singing from the same hymn sheet.

I don`t feel that the independence is the selfish "this is mine, this is what i`ve achieved, this is my space" it`s more a question of finding someone who you want to share all that you`ve achieved with. Someone who isn`t in anyway going to want to try and supress you or make you feel guilty for all that you`ve achieved and are continuing to achieve. I`m sure that like me she just wanted someone who would support, encourage and respect her, not try to dominate and control her or mess up her head with pointless mind games.

Also she wants someone who can cook......... not a lot to ask for is it? lol

but thats my point. i found a soulmate and two children to boot(not literaly)and no longer feel independant. independence=free from control of others, seperate, financialy self reliant, capable of acting for oneself on ones own. in short single. and i'm not. booooooooooooooohhhhhhh

i've nothing against independent ladies, in actual fact i'm not against them enough.

Originally Posted by Shellywoozle

And Grinch that's one thing I don't do, cook ... can't cook won't cook LOL (OK so not the indepedant)

Well in that case just supply the cake, and get them to supply the drink... nice and simple.

Originally Posted by dizzyblonde

mmmm I like cake, i BUY nice cakes,but can't make them, my bloke don't like cakes which means theres always more for me...mwahahahaha

i think Grinch has a point, blokes like the simple things, girls make things too complicated by overly thinking about stuff and reading further into stuff than necessary....thankyou Mr Grinch you have just solved the argument in my house earlier today

What happened there then?

Originally Posted by Gene genie

but thats my point. i found a soulmate and two children to boot(not literaly)and no longer feel independant. independence=free from control of others, seperate, financialy self reliant, capable of acting for oneself on ones own. in short single. and i'm not. booooooooooooooohhhhhhh

hmmmmm..... i might be over analysing here (cos I`m a woman so i can lol) but there`s no reason why you can`t be in a relationship yet still have your own bank account is there? have a joint account for bills etc by all means but a separate account for your own little bit of financial independence. Also, I think it`s good to have separate interests and enjoy some time on your own whether that be doing other hobbies or just having a night out/in with friends. Personally it`s the word "control" i have a problem with. I wouldn`t like to be told what i should or shouldn`t do, or where I can or can`t go etc.

In a happy and balanced relationship then you should be encouraging each other to maintain that little bit of "independence". Doing things as a couple/family is great but i think it`s important to also have some "me" time.

Not sure if that all made sense or not lol

[dizzyblonde]

Originally Posted by Speedy Claire

Tis a good point and i`m not sure bout the majority of women but if Shell is anything like me, ok she`s younger but I`m sure we`re both singing from the same hymn sheet.

I don`t feel that the independence is the selfish "this is mine, this is what i`ve achieved, this is my space" it`s more a question of finding someone who you want to share all that you`ve achieved with. Someone who isn`t in anyway going to want to try and supress you or make you feel guilty for all that you`ve achieved and are continuing to achieve. I`m sure that like me she just wanted someone who would support, encourage and respect her, not try to dominate and control her or mess up her head with pointless mind games.

Also she wants someone who can cook......... not a lot to ask for is it? lol

yes its exactly what I want in my life, thanks for putting that in Claire it was what I wanted to put across but kinda didn't

Originally Posted by Gene genie

but thats my point. i found a soulmate and two children to boot(not literaly)and no longer feel independant. independence=free from control of others, seperate, financialy self reliant, capable of acting for oneself on ones own. in short single. and i'm not. booooooooooooooohhhhhhh

Im Indoors is frightened of just that, feeling none independant, because he's only ever been single with his own agenda going, embarking on the whole living together I think frightens him to death. Even though hes been with me in his odd way for 4 yrs

[quote=Speedy Claire;1489815]hmmmmm..... i might be over analysing here (cos I`m a woman so i can lol) but there`s no reason why you can`t be in a relationship yet still have your own bank account is there? have a joint account for bills etc by all means but a separate account for your own little bit of financial independence. Also, I think it`s good to have separate interests and enjoy some time on your own whether that be doing other hobbies or just having a night out/in with friends. Personally it`s the word "control" i have a problem with. I wouldn`t like to be told what i should or shouldn`t do, or where I can or can`t go etc.

In a happy and balanced relationship then you should be encouraging each other to maintain that little bit of "independence". Doing things as a couple/family is great but i think it`s important to also have some "me" time.


ha ha ha ha. i'm sorry but if my wife thought i had a seperate bank account she would *********** me and then******** inside out and then feed ****** and ******* would never laugh again and most defo walk with a limp.:gr in:

[dizzyblonde]

Originally Posted by Grinch

What happened there then?

just putting cake and simple and bloke in a paragraph solved a dicussion me and Im Indoors had earlier....................

[Shellywoozle]

Originally Posted by Gene genie

ha ha ha ha. i'm sorry but if my wife thought i had a seperate bank account she would *********** me and then******** inside out and then feed ****** and ******* would never laugh again and most defo walk with a limp.:gr in:

Is this a new sport, can we watch

No of it bothers me, me and Jax have different accounts, and different careers... Even different interests, though there are things that we both love, bikes being one of them. Oh and cake...

P.S. Shes a qualified chef.

Originally Posted by dizzyblonde

just putting cake and simple and bloke in a paragraph solved a dicussion me and Im Indoors had earlier....................

Glad I could help, these are all things I am... Some people even call me "Cakey Mart'in".